Just a thought:
Most people don't like to feel pressured, inadequate, un-sexy, etc. in sexual situations. This was the problem with my wife. She was reluctant with the BJs and even worse, she wouldn't let me do her! I assured her that I loved it, that I loved the taste of her, etc. but it didn't matter. She said she just didn't like it. Then, during a lighthearted conversation, I found out that she just didn't like the pressure (mental pressure, that is). When giving, she felt like she needed to get to the finish and if it was taking too long, she felt inadequate (and fatigued). When receiving, she assumed that I felt the same: like I had to keep going. So, she'd start to feel sorry/guilty/inadequate/"broken" after the first few minutes--enter the vicious cycle...
So, I told her:
1. I love the feeling of her tongue on my cock and the first couple minutes are by far the best part anyway. I told her I would have absolutely no disappointment at all if she stopped whenever she felt like it. She really liked that idea and now it turns out she LOVE tasting my cock, not to make me cum but just to experience it and give me some pleasure.
2. I love tasting her and I would want to even if she got nothing out of it at all. I'm not on some kind of mission to make her cum so she shouldn't feel pressured. I like to make her feel good so when she'd rather do something else, she can just tell me. Now, she usually enjoys it for a few minutes, and then tells me she want my cock.
P.S. If I were a woman I sure as hell wouldn't want to shave my pussy. I shaved my pubes once and it sucked: itchy bumpy pain-in-the-ass! I also wouldn't shave my armpits. The hair is there for a reason. So IOW...I think you should get over your little-girl pussy fetish and enjoy your WOMAN!