Does your gf/wife enjoy giving you blowjobs?

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Just a thought:

Most people don't like to feel pressured, inadequate, un-sexy, etc. in sexual situations. This was the problem with my wife. She was reluctant with the BJs and even worse, she wouldn't let me do her! I assured her that I loved it, that I loved the taste of her, etc. but it didn't matter. She said she just didn't like it. Then, during a lighthearted conversation, I found out that she just didn't like the pressure (mental pressure, that is). When giving, she felt like she needed to get to the finish and if it was taking too long, she felt inadequate (and fatigued). When receiving, she assumed that I felt the same: like I had to keep going. So, she'd start to feel sorry/guilty/inadequate/"broken" after the first few minutes--enter the vicious cycle...

So, I told her:

1. I love the feeling of her tongue on my cock and the first couple minutes are by far the best part anyway. I told her I would have absolutely no disappointment at all if she stopped whenever she felt like it. She really liked that idea and now it turns out she LOVE tasting my cock, not to make me cum but just to experience it and give me some pleasure.

2. I love tasting her and I would want to even if she got nothing out of it at all. I'm not on some kind of mission to make her cum so she shouldn't feel pressured. I like to make her feel good so when she'd rather do something else, she can just tell me. Now, she usually enjoys it for a few minutes, and then tells me she want my cock.

P.S. If I were a woman I sure as hell wouldn't want to shave my pussy. I shaved my pubes once and it sucked: itchy bumpy pain-in-the-ass! I also wouldn't shave my armpits. The hair is there for a reason. So IOW...I think you should get over your little-girl pussy fetish and enjoy your WOMAN!
 

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I was dating a woman for a while that loved giving head, loved it. She would do it anytime anywhere, all I had to do was ask. I have said no more times than I have actually let her, I just cant keep up!

I have also dated a woman who didnt really like it. The more I talked to her about it, and how much I loved getting head and how important it was to me, the less she did it.

I think to her, the pressure turned her off to it and made it harder for her to do. I didnt pressure her much right away, just let her know how great she was at it, and how much it meant to me that she did it. That made her just want to save it for "special occasions" so I didnt get "used to it."

With her, I think it was a bit my fault for bringing it up, and a bit her fault for using it as a power thing. She and I had power struggles the whole time we were dating, and not giving head was a little victory for her.

I could never settle for a woman who used oral sex like that. I love going down on a woman, and did it for her, phenominally well I might add, probably a hundred times for each bj she gave me.
 

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It is up to the OP to determine what is best for his own personal satisfaction, not you or me. If lack of BJ's mean so much to him that he can't be happy without them, then he ought to leave. Only he really knows whether it is really that important. Accepting a certain amount of selfishness in ourselves and others is an important part of being human. That is being realistic. It is sad but true. If you want to call that shallow, so be it.

I agree. It appears there are other issues at hand with him and his g/f. I was only trying to stress that sometimes we have to compromise one thing for another. What's next? Telling her she has to cook 7 nights a week or she's history?

My mom once gave me an excellent piece of advice: Take a girl/guy as-is -- not for what you hope they will be.

Mom's give great advice! :smile:
 

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i don't think my wife does but does it to make me happy,
but when she's really horny i can be a free for all , just depends on how much head we can both give each other.

:smile:
 

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I was going to suggest making it more of a game...

Like get some miracle whip or a really excellent dessert like Tiramisu and let her lick it off your dick or something.

But to me, it's starting to sound more and more like a power struggle -- if she won't shave, and you won't eat hair pie, and she won't go down on you.... yikes.

I'm sure many people would disagree, but I think sex ought to be fun.

Bamm! Let's take it to another level. Just PM'ed another guy with this suggestion. If you've watched enough porn then chances are you've seen it. Mixed fruit...whole bananas, seedless grapes, cherries, strawberries and sliced pineapple. Oh and don't forget the Ready-Whip. Beds are nice, but the kitchen floor is easier to clean up if you don't want to use a sheet of plastic. Game plan...have all the items within reach...next time you come home together start your moves in the kitchen and see how imaginative the two of your are with respect to sensious fruit.
 

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I was wondering how many guys out there get blow jobs from either your wife or gf? Is it something that she does only to please you or does she do it because she enjoys it as well?

For the women: you can also answer this question.

My current gf, who I have been w/ for a long time (2.5 years and counting) hates giving bjs and I dont know what to do. She says she does not enjoy giving them and a lot she says has to do w/ the fact that her ex bf forced her head down on his penis while she was giving him head. Any advice?

2 1/2 years is too long Darlin'...licks , kisses and nibbles to start, and then, if she finds you irresistable the rest should follow. If it hasn't happened by now she may never start. Personally, it's the most erotic part of foreplay, alas some may never be oral.
 

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Once again I'm reminded how lucky I am. :07:

My wife absolutely LOVES giving blowjobs. And she's the best I've ever experienced. She can actually have an orgasm from being throat fucked without being touched in any other way. She says it's the feeling of being out of control that turns her on so much. Who knows, that may be exactly why your g/f doesn't like it.
 

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My current GF didn't really like doing it at first, and she has even mentioned that and the fact that she never gave BJs to her previous BFs even before we had sex for the first time... I had never asked her or pushed her to do it, and in fact she refused me going down on her on many occasions...
With time she actually started exploring me, playing with my cock, kissing it, licking it... it got more frequent, and when she gave me the first real BJ, she admitted it was really exciting for her... I still don't ask her to do it, but she gives me BJs all the time now and says she enjoys it very much to the extent that often gets wet just by going down on me...
With time she also let me go down on her, which I simply LOVE doing... now she enjoys that more than ever before, as she says...
 

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Some people just don't care about being good lovers. They don't want to give the most pleasure to their partner. There's nothing much you can do about it. It sounds like she doesn't want to do it for you for whatever reason. If it's important to you, then find another girl. Or stay with her and find a nice gay guy to service you a couple times a week.

I get a great feeling of wellbeing from blowjob orgasms. I don't think I could live without them in a relationship.
 

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Or stay with her and find a nice gay guy to service you a couple times a week.

What's with you people posting crap like that? That's cheating and also contributing to gay stereotyping, like they're ready, willing, and available when needed. The use of the word "service" is getting a bit much.
 

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Some people just don't care about being good lovers. They don't want to give the most pleasure to their partner.

That's a ridiculous statement. What if my fetish is to ass-to-mouth and my gf/wife says hell no! Does that make her a bad lover?

EVERYONE is entitled to setting his/her own limits. If those limits aren't compatible you either accept that or move along.

Sheesh! :mad:
 

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I was wondering how many guys out there get blow jobs from either your wife or gf? Is it something that she does only to please you or does she do it because she enjoys it as well?

For the women: you can also answer this question.

My current gf, who I have been w/ for a long time (2.5 years and counting) hates giving bjs and I dont know what to do. She says she does not enjoy giving them and a lot she says has to do w/ the fact that her ex bf forced her head down on his penis while she was giving him head. Any advice?
******************************************************:tongue: yea...sounds kinda bad...but I get more offers for blow jobs from women more than them letting me fuck...and I don't enjoy if they don't know what the hell they be doing...I can't expect them to get all my dick down either... aint to many for me that can do that. But, damn, get adleast half of it down without choakin...if you gonna do it and don't bit me...shit!:biggrin1::wink:

2nd question: I'm guilty of also forcing my ex old lady to give me head if she wasn't gonna let me fuck...I generally ended up gettin both with a little force...but I admit now...it was wrong for me to do that...I felt it was her job to do what I wanted her to do or else... (yea... a little back hand I'd put on her her azz) I'm shame:frown1::redface: now!
 

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What's with you people posting crap like that? That's cheating and also contributing to gay stereotyping, like they're ready, willing, and available when needed. The use of the word "service" is getting a bit much.
Yeah, I guess I'm in a weird mood today and should stop posting. :redface:
I meant that as a joke, but I guess it's not too funny.
That's a ridiculous statement. What if my fetish is to ass-to-mouth and my gf/wife says hell no! Does that make her a bad lover?

EVERYONE is entitled to setting his/her own limits. If those limits aren't compatible you either accept that or move along.

Sheesh! :mad:
Yes, I think if someone was willing to do ass-to-mouth they would be a better lover. If they didn't then they wouldn't necessarily be a bad lover. It may be a subjective thing. Like you said, if you don't like your partner's limits, then you can move along. On the other hand, blowjobs are pretty standard practice these days because they can give powerful orgasms, so not giving them usually is considered bad by most people.
 

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You just have to decide if it's a dealbreaker. As has been said, it's all subjective, and if someone doesn't want to do something, that's perfectly okay for them to do. However, you need to decide if you like/love them enough to stay with them despite that. If that thing is important enough that you either can't or don't want to live without it, then you need to respect yourself as well as your significant other, and move on. To do otherwise would be compromising yourself, and it's not fair to the other person since they would know that you're ultimately not satisfied by them.
 

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My girlfriend will do it, but she wont go until I cum anymore. We had an "incident" and now she'll do it at the start, but we always transition into something else.

I did have an ex though that wouldn't have sex, but would give me head whenever. If I had an hour inbetween classes I'd run over to her dorm room and bamn. It was great, but then I started to miss having actual sex and that was a factor in our break-up. Although sometimes I really kick myself for breaking-up with her.
 

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My gf claims to enjoy giving said fellatio, but since she's not too good at it she doesn't like it if the process lasts more than five minutes. Luckily for her I do not reciprocate that feeling.