does your husband/bf/partner know you're on this site?

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But seriously, You don't want your bf to know you find him attractive?
He probably already figured that out.

Also the humble part is kinda weird..
yeah...

her post is what i like to call 'humour'. it's when things are said that are not entirely serious, in order to amuse others.
 

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yeah...

her post is what i like to call 'humour'. it's when things are said that are not entirely serious, in order to amuse others.

That's great and all but when you're just reading words on a page it's difficult to detect sarcasm and subtle humour. Hence my misunderstanding.
 

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how often do guys here get asked if their wife/gf/bf/hubby knows they post here? because we get asked ALL THE FRICKIN' TIME!

and i can't help but feel that,
1, there's an assumption that we're dishonestly here and a form of cheating.
2, we need permission from the man of the house before we go exploring the internet further than recipe sites.
3, the questioner, being male and therefore an authority figure, has a right to question us if we're seen out without our chaperons.

*cranky*

Ha! I don't have a husband/bf/partner, but I get asked ALL the TIME why I'm on here, what brought you here, so on. :) That's another thread isn't it? So, I regress.....

If I did have a husband/bf/partner, I'd hope he would join me on here, or try it out, until he got sick of it (because let's face it, there are some cool peeps on here, and then there are some massive pains in the coco' nutties). :biggrin1:

Honesty for me, is the only way to go. I don't go behind people's backs. If they don't like what I do, they can explain what the deal is, and if I think they have a point, I might shift, but if they're full of shit? I tell them. I've been an adult for a wee bit. I can even walk and chew gum....and drive my own car, vote, change my tires, go to the grocery store....I'd not check to see if I could do those things with a husband/bf/partner, so....

:biggrin1:And I'm not cranky at all....yeah, right! lol.
 

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I don't have playmates that live under my roof but I adopt a policy of maintaining strict boundaries within "relationships".
What I do in my own time is my own business and it certainly isn't any of their affair.
 

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Since it kinda takes one to know one, I think very many of the questions of women from men here stem from curiosity about women's views on penis size, or the man's insecurity about his own size.

I think the thinking behind the question you address here is along the lines of this:

First (universal) assumption: Women are on LPSG because of the LP part of that abbreviation. They, i.e. women belonging here, are, deep-down, consciously or not, size-queens of some sort on LPSG seeking to get a LP fix.

Second assumption: If a woman is on here without her steady male partner knowing, she must be dissatisfied with his size, hence she's on LPSG to partially satisfy her (psychological, visual) craving for LP, and

Third assumption: Is secretly on LPSG because she doesn't want to hurt her guy's feelings by being honest with him that she isn't satisfied with his size and honest about her true feelings about size.

Fourth assumption: Maybe my wife, GF, ex-wife, ex-GF, woman I'm interested in, etc. is, has been, or would be a member here if she knew about it, because if she isn't satisfied with my size, she's going to seek to satisfy her craving for bigger somehow, someway.

Finding out how many women are on here without their male partner knowing is merely data to try and figure out what the women in that guy's life--past, present, future--think about size and might be doing without his knowledge.

That's my translation of the question.

I think the thesis that it's fishing to learn what women's relationship statuses are is likely false.

Finding a way to tie a guy's question to his curiosity about women & size/his size insecurity more often than not probably leads to the best explanation here on LPSG. Not a brilliant or original insight, but I think it applies to the question addressed by dolfette.
 

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It also could be an assumption that this IS just a porno site, and Oh, if a woman is looking at a Porno Site, she must be a "Ho."

When in reality, yeah, this is an "adult" community, but it is also a community, as dysfunctional as it can be at times.

Like many others, male or female, I think it's ridiculous that you should have to let your SO know you lurk or post here, regardless of sex.

It's either both sexist, and implies a lack of trust in the relationship.
 

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Straight men do get asked. Usually by gay members who either think this is a gay porn or gay hookup site, which I suppose it is for them.

Have a girl I know who told me her bf was abusive and cheated on her all the time. Seemed strange--the guy was clearly unstable, but so was she. At some point she let slip that by cheating she meant he watches porn and masturbates. It kind of put her whole deal in a different light--was her definition of "abuse" similarly obtuse? Perhaps.

I've been with women who knew I was here and others who didn't. None of them, thus far, have cared either way.
 
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I was asked if i ever watched porn and i said "sometimes" and found out that was a form of cheating... I'm not too smart.
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My girl found out recently. She laughed at me, but not because I was on here. She laughed because I was embarrassed. She said that if she were on a site like that, she'd be bragging.
 

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This actually happened to me in real life. A man at the bar kept teasing me about how I wasn't wearing my wedding ring and wouldn't let it drop even though the only reason why he knew that I was married was because I brought TheBF up in conversation. I felt like he was attempting to flirt with me, but harassing me about not wearing my wedding ring wasn't charming.