Does your wife/girlfriend know she is big?

[TryHarrd]

One of the reasons I am a late-learner is my wife is big. She is my only partner, but the partners she has had - apart from one particularly large 8+" experience - have never posed a challenge to her. And like most people she thought she was normal, and never thought my 7"+ 5.5" size was anything more than above average. In fact, she gets quite loose during sex so we both thought the reality was, I just wasn't big enough - not good for my ego and making sex for her ho-hum. Now we discover that not only am I big, but so is she.

The old Karma Sutra outlines three sizes, but gives the impression being small or big has the same chance as being normal. But now seeing all the stats, being small or big is like 2 standard deviations from the mean - like 3-5% of people!! So my wife is a 3-5% percenter just like me Understanding that sex for her is not like sex for most women has been a real revelation to her as much to me and made us look at our sex practices in a new light (with lots of advice taken from these forums - thanks!). For 20 odd years my poor wife has been resigned to the fact that sex was just what it was, but after learning just a little bit about herself, she has become open to learning more about herself with good results. And quite frankly, made things a lot more exciting than they have been in a long time.

In short (no pun intended), understanding how big I am has been a world changing experience. But my wife understanding how big she is has been equally so. I'm still a little dumb-founded that size is not discussed more, especially in sex ed, because everyone thinks they are normal, or less than normal, when in reality there are a large number of people outside this range and don't know it. And awareness is the first step to positive change. These forums are a great support for men, but it is clear to me that women need a similar forum to help build awareness and provide support too.

 

[Wooly Mammoth]

I guess I’m lucky I came across the Kama Sutra early in life. It was just academic to me as a gay man, but now that I realize my dick is on the larger side, it seems that there is a corresponding effect for gay men. Especially with cocksucking!

 

[TryHarrd]

You mean big or small mouths? I'm sure butt size is not universal either though. The Kama Sutra recommended finding someone the same size to avoid physical problems - the horse needs to find the elephant for instance - so I have to be grateful that's what's happened in my relationship and can't really complain. Imagine if I'd found a deer instead (small)?! I just wish we'd found where we fit years ago. And how many people out there are in the same situation and just don't know it?

 

[Wooly Mammoth]

big or small mouths?

Yeah, and necks give me a guy who needs a CPAP...

 

[deleted136887]

Opposite here.
Wive is Chinese, she is super tight, and then she found me!
So sex is an affair which is carefully planned and orchestrated, no spontanous fucks here.
I hope it has made me a more attentive lover.

 

[TryHarrd]

Opposite here.
Wive is Chinese, she is super tight, and then she found me!
So sex is an affair which is carefully planned and orchestrated, no spontanous fucks here.
I hope it has made me a more attentive lover.

So you married a deer! It's interesting though that spontaneous fucking was our problem too...just the opposite impact. So we too now discuss things in much more detail (essentially never discussed anything before - it's fun!) and plan ahead. I now think this is essential for anyone sitting in the top or bottom 5% range, man or woman.

 

[Milkdudd]

Definitely the horse who found the elephant here, girlfriend is a good size, broad hips, plump ass, good breeding proportions (I joke with her how matronly she's shaped lol) and we usually dont have issues "matching equipment". Depending on the position, I can still bump her cervix, which depending on how horned up she is, may or may not be pleasurable. But otherwise its lock-and-key for us

 

[1XLPkg]

55 here. Been married 29 years this month to my second girlfriend. We’d each been with only one partner before we met back I the early ‘90’s, and lacking experience or even the Internet, we only knew what we’d experienced. Difficulties—like poor blowjobs (her jaw tires quickly and gets sore), tightness, soreness, micro tearing, minor bleeding, waking funny the following day, the need for a lot of lube—were common for most of our marriage, I only discovered my size was larger in both length and girth by accident 3 years ago, when I’d been searching online for comfortable underwear and found a Reddit sub. It led me to CalcSD and I then realized I was the cause of our issues over the years.

Oh, and other than commando, pouch underwear is the only way to go!

 

[vjduvall]

My wife thought she was on the "smallish" side because her Ex was huge, and as much as she loved sex with him because of his girth she always thought he was too long for her. Now that she is with me and I am much smaller than the Ex she's realized that she is "big". If I remember my Kama Sutra, she is probably a Cow but not an Elephant (but maybe I am not remembering the "categories" accurately). But one thing is sure, we are not a "match" according to the Kama Sutra. I am much too small for her. So that means that I am not able to give her an orgasm using only my cock (which the huge Ex could very easily do without any effort.). So I use all sorts of sex toys, mainly dildos that are the size of the Ex, and my tongue and fingers I can usually give her great orgasm. Being small is also an advantage for oral and anal. And she has given me unconditional permission to fuck her if I am in the mood when she is asleep. So whenever we are spooning and I get a boner, I always slip my small cock in her big pussy and it rarely disrupts her sleep...

 

[TryHarrd]

My wife thought she was on the "smallish" side because her Ex was huge, and as much as she loved sex with him because of his girth she always thought he was too long for her. Now that she is with me and I am much smaller than the Ex she's realized that she is "big". If I remember my Kama Sutra, she is probably a Cow but not an Elephant (but maybe I am not remembering the "categories" accurately). But one thing is sure, we are not a "match" according to the Kama Sutra. I am much too small for her. So that means that I am not able to give her an orgasm using only my cock (which the huge Ex could very easily do without any effort.). So I use all sorts of sex toys, mainly dildos that are the size of the Ex, and my tongue and fingers I can usually give her great orgasm. Being small is also an advantage for oral and anal. And she has given me unconditional permission to fuck her if I am in the mood when she is asleep. So whenever we are spooning and I get a boner, I always slip my small cock in her big pussy and it rarely disrupts her sleep...

Lol... Yep no chance here. I can get in a nice rub when she's asleep, but one time had a very vivid dream - too vivid - and woke her when starting to fuck her. That was not a normal experience for either of us.

Great to see you are making the best of your own situation. We're still in the process of learning ours.

 

[amazzzed2]

My wife thought she was on the "smallish" side because her Ex was huge, and as much as she loved sex with him because of his girth she always thought he was too long for her. Now that she is with me and I am much smaller than the Ex she's realized that she is "big". If I remember my Kama Sutra, she is probably a Cow but not an Elephant (but maybe I am not remembering the "categories" accurately). But one thing is sure, we are not a "match" according to the Kama Sutra. I am much too small for her. So that means that I am not able to give her an orgasm using only my cock (which the huge Ex could very easily do without any effort.). So I use all sorts of sex toys, mainly dildos that are the size of the Ex, and my tongue and fingers I can usually give her great orgasm. Being small is also an advantage for oral and anal. And she has given me unconditional permission to fuck her if I am in the mood when she is asleep. So whenever we are spooning and I get a boner, I always slip my small cock in her big pussy and it rarely disrupts her sleep...

Sounds like you are both doing a great job of making things work, in spite of your size differences.

 

[Ranxerox]

My wife thought she was on the "smallish" side because her Ex was huge, and as much as she loved sex with him because of his girth she always thought he was too long for her. Now that she is with me and I am much smaller than the Ex she's realized that she is "big". If I remember my Kama Sutra, she is probably a Cow but not an Elephant (but maybe I am not remembering the "categories" accurately). But one thing is sure, we are not a "match" according to the Kama Sutra. I am much too small for her. So that means that I am not able to give her an orgasm using only my cock (which the huge Ex could very easily do without any effort.). So I use all sorts of sex toys, mainly dildos that are the size of the Ex, and my tongue and fingers I can usually give her great orgasm. Being small is also an advantage for oral and anal. And she has given me unconditional permission to fuck her if I am in the mood when she is asleep. So whenever we are spooning and I get a boner, I always slip my small cock in her big pussy and it rarely disrupts her sleep...

What was the dimensions of the Ex? Big girth?

Roxx.

 

[vjduvall]

What was the dimensions of the Ex? Big girth?

Roxx.

Unfortunately, she never measured her Huge Ex's massive cock or took a picture (I guess guys are more into that kind of stuff than women) But she does have one dildo that she says is almost exactly his size, and that's 9.5"x6.5"...

 

[Ranxerox]

Unfortunately, she never measured her Huge Ex's massive cock or took a picture (I guess guys are more into that kind of stuff than women) But she does have one dildo that she says is almost exactly his size, and that's 9.5"x6.5"...

Dayyymn!

Roxx.

 

[vjduvall]

Dayyymn!

Roxx.

By contrast, I am only 5"×4". So his huge powerful cock could just totally dwarf my tiny little dick.

 

[Ranxerox]

By contrast, I am only 5"×4". So his huge powerful cock could just totally dwarf my tiny little dick.

Was her ex named Ranxerox by any chance?

SIR! I kid! I kid! No block plz, sir!

Roxx.

 

[vjduvall]

I saw your pics, Ranxerox - you're huge!

But apparently the Huge Ex's cock was covered in "big ugly veins" (her words). So I don't think you're him!

 

[DicksOfHazard]

My SO had a somewhat sheltered life. Her GFs either never had a big dick or didn't talk about it. I was her first big dick and she thought any dick could fit in any vagina. She wasn't concerned about my dick being big. I think I mentioned in other posts she is my unicorn, so the first time was no problem for her. We don't talk about dick size so she doesn't think her vagina is anything other than normal.

 

[TryHarrd]

My SO had a somewhat sheltered life. Her GFs either never had a big dick or didn't talk about it. I was her first big dick and she thought any dick could fit in any vagina. She wasn't concerned about my dick being big. I think I mentioned in other posts she is my unicorn, so the first time was no problem for her. We don't talk about dick size so she doesn't think her vagina is anything other than normal.

We could have probably gone our whole relationship without ever being aware, but making my wife understand she is not 'just average' has improved our sex life...she's knows how lucky we both are

 

[vjduvall]

We could have probably gone our whole relationship without ever being aware, but making my wife understand she is not 'just average' has improved our sex life...she's knows how lucky we both are

So you guys are a perfect fit - you are big and she is big.
When you have sex, do you also talk about how her big pussy is perfect for your big cock? Or maybe you are experiencing such intense orgasms together that you don't talk at all - you just experience the intensity.
My wife and I always talk while having sex, and it is always about how I am way too small for her. About how she has big breasts and a big pussy and I have just a tiny little cock that is just no match for her at all. And of course we always talk about her huge Ex and all the things he could do so easily that I can't do at all ... Might sound weird, but I just LOVE being too small for her and knowing how superior his huge cock is to my tiny dick... and of course I love it because she left him for me...