- R788,
Looking for a bit of advice after recently having sex with my straight best mate
It just sort of happened, however I need a bit of advice what to do for the best because he struggles quite a bit with low self esteem and self worth, was physically badly abused as a child and feels worthless as an adult. He’s been selling naked pics of himself lately to random guys for not a lot of money, it started when he showed me the photos and i said I was pretty impressed..the size of him was quite something and I said he should charge more if he is going to sell them, basically value himself more.
For some reason I thought it would maybe help him see it in a different way if I offered him money to take his clothes off for me, expecting that once I’d brought what he was doing into the real world it’d make him realise he’s selling himself short and he’s better than that. Fully expecting him to say no to the offer I asked him what it was worth to strip off, and he did. Took all his clothes off infront of me, it snowballed from there and he got laid on the sofa and told me to “do whatever you want to me” over and over, I was really surprised we were suddenly in this situation and just kept asking if it was what he wanted..he said as long as it stayed between us then it’s what he wanted..then spread his legs and began to beg me to put it in his arse. It was pretty clear he wanted to be submissive so I tried out a little dominant verbal/physical stuff. Slapped him in the face a bit, made him tell me he’s a pussy, he definitely seemed to enjoy being dominated..could barely stop the smile on his face. I grabbed his hair and told him to open his mouth and face fucked him for a bit, making him look at me while I was using his throat, then pulled my cock out of his mouth and rubbed and slapped it round his face, telling him to tell me that’s what he wants, then told him to kiss it..all of which he did.
I stuck my fingers in his arse and started just teasing him, grabbing him by the hair and looking right in his face while I did, verbally abusing him telling him his hole belonged to me now and he’s too pathetic to do anything about it, he told me he’d do anything he was told and that he belongs to me. I pulled my fingers out and put them in his mouth and told him to taste his pussy, told him I bet it tastes like a useless little bitch because that’s all he is.
I told him to get up and I sat and watched him standing naked infront of me, told him tell me he was weak, worthless and wanted to be used because that’s all he’s good for, then ordered him to get bent over the arm of the sofa so I could fuck him. I got him pinned down behind his neck and started to fuck him, but it didn’t really seem to be doing it for me and I couldn’t seem to fully ‘rise to the occasion’
It suddenly got in my head whether it was really the right way I should be treating someone who has a low opinion of themselves and struggles with feeling depressed. I do care a lot about him as a mate and wouldn’t want to ever add to those negative feelings and I just suddenly felt a bit unsure whether it was just a case of fulfilling a kink, just giving someone what they need to really get off or whether I’d be making a problem worse in the longrun
Has anyone experienced this from his point of view and can offer advice on whether being treated in that kind of way during sex just releases that need and scratches that itch for you and it doesn’t have a negative affect on you afterwards or in general or if it’s something that sticks with you and makes you feel worse?
I would ask him how he feels about it however I really don’t think he knows the answer to that himself, it’s the first time he’s ever done anything like that with another guy and it’s bound to take some time to work that all out but I’d just prefer to have some idea on the other side of things what’s the best way to approach the situation if we happen to end up doing anything together in the meantime
It hasn’t changed anything at all about our friendship or how we are with one another which is definitely a good thing, but we haven’t discussed it or anything since
It just sort of happened, however I need a bit of advice what to do for the best because he struggles quite a bit with low self esteem and self worth, was physically badly abused as a child and feels worthless as an adult. He’s been selling naked pics of himself lately to random guys for not a lot of money, it started when he showed me the photos and i said I was pretty impressed..the size of him was quite something and I said he should charge more if he is going to sell them, basically value himself more.
For some reason I thought it would maybe help him see it in a different way if I offered him money to take his clothes off for me, expecting that once I’d brought what he was doing into the real world it’d make him realise he’s selling himself short and he’s better than that. Fully expecting him to say no to the offer I asked him what it was worth to strip off, and he did. Took all his clothes off infront of me, it snowballed from there and he got laid on the sofa and told me to “do whatever you want to me” over and over, I was really surprised we were suddenly in this situation and just kept asking if it was what he wanted..he said as long as it stayed between us then it’s what he wanted..then spread his legs and began to beg me to put it in his arse. It was pretty clear he wanted to be submissive so I tried out a little dominant verbal/physical stuff. Slapped him in the face a bit, made him tell me he’s a pussy, he definitely seemed to enjoy being dominated..could barely stop the smile on his face. I grabbed his hair and told him to open his mouth and face fucked him for a bit, making him look at me while I was using his throat, then pulled my cock out of his mouth and rubbed and slapped it round his face, telling him to tell me that’s what he wants, then told him to kiss it..all of which he did.
I stuck my fingers in his arse and started just teasing him, grabbing him by the hair and looking right in his face while I did, verbally abusing him telling him his hole belonged to me now and he’s too pathetic to do anything about it, he told me he’d do anything he was told and that he belongs to me. I pulled my fingers out and put them in his mouth and told him to taste his pussy, told him I bet it tastes like a useless little bitch because that’s all he is.
I told him to get up and I sat and watched him standing naked infront of me, told him tell me he was weak, worthless and wanted to be used because that’s all he’s good for, then ordered him to get bent over the arm of the sofa so I could fuck him. I got him pinned down behind his neck and started to fuck him, but it didn’t really seem to be doing it for me and I couldn’t seem to fully ‘rise to the occasion’
It suddenly got in my head whether it was really the right way I should be treating someone who has a low opinion of themselves and struggles with feeling depressed. I do care a lot about him as a mate and wouldn’t want to ever add to those negative feelings and I just suddenly felt a bit unsure whether it was just a case of fulfilling a kink, just giving someone what they need to really get off or whether I’d be making a problem worse in the longrun
Has anyone experienced this from his point of view and can offer advice on whether being treated in that kind of way during sex just releases that need and scratches that itch for you and it doesn’t have a negative affect on you afterwards or in general or if it’s something that sticks with you and makes you feel worse?
I would ask him how he feels about it however I really don’t think he knows the answer to that himself, it’s the first time he’s ever done anything like that with another guy and it’s bound to take some time to work that all out but I’d just prefer to have some idea on the other side of things what’s the best way to approach the situation if we happen to end up doing anything together in the meantime
It hasn’t changed anything at all about our friendship or how we are with one another which is definitely a good thing, but we haven’t discussed it or anything since