Dominant Roles:big vs small dick

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When i fuck women i love to be the dominant alpha male and the smaller the women - the more dominant i feel over her.

I was wondering if the same goes among gay people? perhaps where one of the lovers is a lot smaller and have a tiny cock compared to the top.

Does cock size usually play a role in determining who is the alpha male in charge during the act ? If so does dominant bigger guys usually feel more aroused and "alpha like" , the smaller the other guy is?

dont know if this make sense but inputs are appreciated
 

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Sexual roles and positions are not based on cock size. Positions and Roles are based on a persons interest.....
 

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I think it's more of a personality thing than a dick size issue, I can go from one extreme to the other in 24 hours depending on the day I've had at work :)
 

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I agree with Brensta. I'm usually pretty dominant, but my ex' dick was about the same size as mine and he wasn't dominant at all.
And one of my close friends' boyfriend has a huge dick and my friend doesn't and my friend is the dominant one. So - though it's not this simplistic - I think it's definitely not 100% connected to penis size, but I can imagine that dominance is for some people...
 

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These pic posted by another user is a situation that is similar to my topic. The one guy although smaller in height, has a bigger penis and therefore he is the alpha male . I wonder if it could actually be argued that among some males having a small cock is actually a good thing because they like being submissive and "small"

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The thing I've seen is a guy with a really big dick who everyone wants to get fucked by... the problem is that all he wants to do is get fucked... His big dick in this case forced him to be a top... and he was generally miserable about it... so i fucked him. LOL
 

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These pic posted by another user is a situation that is similar to my topic. The one guy although smaller in height, has a bigger penis and therefore he is the alpha male . I wonder if it could actually be argued that among some males having a small cock is actually a good thing because they like being submissive and "small"

Pretty young dude gets an arse-crack after meeting Carlos


Agreed! i'm small and a total bottom and I LOVE being with hung tops...
 

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These pic posted by another user is a situation that is similar to my topic. The one guy although smaller in height, has a bigger penis and therefore he is the alpha male . I wonder if it could actually be argued that among some males having a small cock is actually a good thing because they like being submissive and "small"

Pretty young dude gets an arse-crack after meeting Carlos


Definitely, my cock's not very big and i am very submissive during sex. The two aren't connected at all but both happen to be true for me. So being dominated by a bigger guy is amazing. It feels right that i should be doing what he wants. Especially if the dom guy gets off on being bigger than me.
 

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My dick is 7" and that has nothing to do with what I prefer. I am sexually submissive in my encounters with men and that is the way I want it. I do like a man to be bigger than me in all ways so that I feel his weight on top of me. Thanks for putting up this thread, I have wondered the same thing.


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I am not surprised when a guy with a small cock asks me to fuck him, even if it ain't my thing. Guys who have big dicks and bend over and ask me to fuck them are a huge turn off. Probably because as a general rule I don't enjoy fucking men that much.
 
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Good comments here so far. I'd say that it really depends on the guy and his wants/needs at the time. There are guys who are closer to 100% top or 100% bottom but even then, occassionally may see something and change it up because of it. Some bottoms have seen my ass and said they want to be inside me because of it, some tops have seen my dick and insisted I fuck them hard. Some guys are size guys only and want a big dick inside them because they have a little one. Just depends.
 

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I'm only 5' 9" tall, slim build and hung 10" x 7" uncut (unless I have it Vac. pumped up even bigger) and it doesn't matter the size of the guy I'm with (been with every thing from 5'2" 120#s to 6' 8" 255#s) or the size of his cock (even the 13"er I was with), I'm always 100% agressive top.
 

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When i fuck women i love to be the dominant alpha male and the smaller the women - the more dominant i feel over her.

I was wondering if the same goes among gay people? perhaps where one of the lovers is a lot smaller and have a tiny cock compared to the top.

Does cock size usually play a role in determining who is the alpha male in charge during the act ? If so does dominant bigger guys usually feel more aroused and "alpha like" , the smaller the other guy is?

dont know if this make sense but inputs are appreciated
Hell, I mostly bottom when we have sex and I'm still the dominant one. The term "power bottom" comes to mind :wink: I'm always the one making him cum and usually myself too. We are both pretty masculine in our personalities but we also switch positions. There really isnt a set role that most gay men play in their relationships that I have found. I'm sure there are plenty that live up to certain stereotypes but I think most of us just do what we are in the mood for. Though he tends to like to top me because he says it turns him on like crazy when he fucks me and can see my dong bouncing around. We both have above average sized cocks. For me...I like watching gay porn where a huge cocked guy is the bottom. There is an actor in particular, Ralph Woods, that bottoms from time to time and it is HAWT!! So....cock size probably doesnt enter into equation very often....unless I guess one guy is not secure with his cock size and is put off by being with another guy that has a larger cock than him. I've seen that happen with straight guys that try to have sex with a gay guy. I have a real idiot friend that hits on straight guys trying to get them to have sex him all the time. He hooked up with one guy that freaked out and beat the absolute shit out of him. He (my friend) was giving him a BJ and the straight guy told him he wanted him to pull his cock out and jerk off while he sucked him. Well, he pulled it out and the guy saw he had a really huge cock and immediately kneed him in the face and kicked the shit out of his stomach. I can only assume he was insecure about his cock size. I wondered after he told me that if the straight guy was assuming because my buddy was into sucking straight guys off alot that he was going to have some small insignificant cock. I dunno....I do know that moron still does this shit and hes going to get hurt or worse one of these days. But back to the point....gay guys are as varried as leaves on all the trees. *Hugz*
 
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I used to get teased for my small cock in locker rooms. At first, it was something that made me get really embarrassed, but then it started to turn me on. I would daydream about one of the hung guys 'forcing' me to worship his big cock. As I have gotten older, being submissive to a guy with a bigger cock is what turns me on most. I get really into rough sex and the sph component really turns both of us on. I love for him to tell me that he wishes my dick were bigger, or that if I had a bigger cock to turn him on, he would suck me off. He will also never touch my cock, He lets me jack it after I get him off. Giving pleasure has always given me more pleasure than receiving it, so this just takes it to a new level.