Domination/submission

[Apolodorus]

I once met a straight(ish) young, handsome guy online who loved fantasising about being abused. Calling him a fag, getting him to go through mental scenarios in which he was forced to suck dick, was spat on, got him so hard he lost control.

It unexpectedly made me hard to do that to him. I joined in the play. But I never quite got what he took out of the bargain, especially because he was ostensively straight and handsome. He was too young (college age). Can any of you guys, who are in the straightish spectrum tell me what the appeal of this can be? Of the surrender and submission?

 

[1313128]

I entertained a few married guys in my celler in my younger days, they never opened up much about why they wanted me to humiliate or abuse them per say, though it is as hard to explain why I like to do it than they wanting to receive it. My take was either, being straight and then abused, debased or punished by another man and especially a gay one was really humiliating for them, or they felt going with a man wasn't cheeting unlike them going to a proffesional woman. The difficulty with married guys is leaving skin marks for any disobedience, or even rope pressure marks.
There used to be a site called the Acadamy in the USA. which was said to be non sexual but guys where locked up and verbally abused, as well as bound by other straight guys. Never quite understood that one myself.

 

[BigDickGrandpa]

Welcome to the world of Dom/s or Master/slave. This is all about power transfer. People who in their normal life that are normal, may be a boss or important, want to surrender their power and be totally submissive and under the control of their Dom or Domme. It is a totally mental game although there is a physical aspect. They surrender their bodies to their Dom. Words and actions are within the roles they are acting out. Limits are known and a script is followed. It meets a need of the submissive one. When it is over, they return to their normal lives.

I have had both men and women - quite successful and that you would never even suspect as subs. I tell them up front, communication is so important aspect of this relationship. They are intelligent and articulate of what experience(s) they seek. Then the journey begins.