Domination

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  1. D_Dick_Everhard

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    Early next week I've been asked to come to a couple's house and make them my slaves. I've already cleared up with them that this will be the entire time I'm at their place, not just in the bedroom. I've never done anything like this before. I'm more of a "I'll do this for you if you'll do this for me" type of person, yet still on the dominant side... I'm not used to the "Do my will or be punished" attitude.

    This was originally just a cuckold situation but very quickly turned into general domination of both the guy and the girl in the relationship. I know the guy has a very small penis and his girlfriend craves something bigger and for me to humiliate him but since I'm the kind of person who goes out and talks to everyone this will be different for me.

    For those who have experience in this situation I need some tips on what couples like this usually like and ideas and advice in general. I'm trying to turn this into a recurring thing and if it does I may eventually have pictures to post.
     
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    This is not something you should be doing if you have no experience with D/s.
     
  3. hurry

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    +1. You could get yourself in over your head quickly and end up not having a good experience.
     
  4. randomoniker

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    Right. Never do anything unless you have already done it.

    Sarcasm aside, you may want to start out slow with this couple, and communicate a lot about what exactly they want, building to the point where you and they are all comfortable with what you expect of each other - rather than ask the internet about what sub couples want in general. There are good websites and books out there about BDSM, too, so check those out.
     
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    It's not that he shouldn't try it for the first time at some point. But this is definitely NOT the situation to experiment with something that has such potential to fuck with people's minds and bodies (including his). If he can't even communicate with them about what they want, he certainly shouldn't be participating in BDSM with them. And trying to be a Dom without taking the baby steps first is like throwing a child who can't swim into deep water - there's a good chance they'll drown, possibly dragging someone else down with them.
     
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    I have a couple of points.

    As a Dom, you are giving them something. You are giving them direction and ways of pleasing you. In doing that you are providing pleasure to them.

    Also, since the opportunity has arisen, do some research and reading about such scenes. Realize that most stories are simply fantasies, and don't expect it to be like the porn, but do get pointers from such reading. There are also sites on this that are legitimate. So research smart about it.

    I would suggest just being the guy in charge once you get there. Have them get you a drink, water, coffee, something else. Let them know what will make you comfortable. And expect it from them. Don't plan on heavy duty bdsm scene, since it does not seem like any of you have experience with it. You may work up to that, but don't force it at first.

    As for humiliating the husband, again I would not aim for the asshole, but more for the dominating guy. Just state the obvious, not too necessarily be mean or play with his mind, but just remind him that he asked you to satisfy his wife as he can't.

    Start out slow, don't push them too far, don't expect to be Master SteelRanger, Dom from Hell, but be the big man on campus, the guy who is sure of himself, and willing to let other know he is the top dog. Also let them know that this is just the beginning and with the right attitude of service, time, and practice you all can go much farther on the path to D/S relationship.
     
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    I would be missing out on a lot if I hadn’t jumped in head first at half the things I now do at a professional level.
    You’ve misunderstood me though. This isn’t a matter of a lack of communication, it’s a matter of gathering ideas that can be used in the communication process. This would be nothing more than the guy watching me please her in front of him if we had poor communication. I appreciate the concern though.
    For the most part, this was what I was wanting direction to. I know there is no such thing as general pleasure but it was the broadest way I had to state it. Thank you.
    I haven’t seen it that way but it makes perfect sense and I will keep it in mind.

    I do plan on taking it slowly as I do with almost everything I’m unsure about these days. I suspect I should hold off on verbal abuse of the guy until after we are all comfortable with each other and I know that’s definitely what they’re after. One thing I’ve come to learn after going through my tyrant stage is that no matter how much some people, especially many women, love being commanded, there is still the core need to be loved. I consider it one of the greatest lessons I’ve ever learned.

    I appreciate the input I’ve been given so far. I do understand that communication is key and assumption is a deadly poison – no worries there.
     
  8. D_Neeson Niceone

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    I'm also very interested in any advice, material, or inspiration for being a better dom. While I have a naturally dominate personality, that only goes so far for situations such as what the OP is in and pleasing a submissive partner. So for members more versed in something beyond a vanilla ass-slap, please share some insight!
     
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    I'm still not comfortable with you jumping in the deep end, but it at least sounds like you've at least got a good head on your shoulders. If you must do this (I still don't think you should), just please be careful. Communicate a LOT and take it easy the first few times especially. Start gently and only up the ante if you get a positive response.
     
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    Sounds like a great opportunity. You know what you like and you know what you want done to you. Make sure you tell her and be very vocal about it. Meanwhile since she is looking for you to humiliate her husband I'd make him the errand boy. Have him go fetch you a drink if you get thirsty. Or throw all of your clothes on the floor before you get into her but make him fold them and put them up neatly. Bottom line is, you're in charge and they asked you to be there. Have a blast :)
     
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    I don't know about some of these suggestions. Obviously this whole thing is being done for the sexual thrills of it, and as someone with a bit of a sub side myself, I'm not really sure that having to do errands for a dom, fold his clothes, etc., provides much of a sexual thrill.

    I'd think the thing to do would be to walk in and basically start treating the wife like your property. Essentially, do whatever you want to her, order her to do whatever you like, while making the husband watch and limiting or directing any sexual contact he has with her.

    If you want to be dom, sexually, make him do something like guide you into her. Sit down on the couch, have her straddle you reverse cowgirl style, and make the guy get on his knees and go down on her while you're inside of her. That kind of stuff.

    For her, you could be hanging out, being normal one second, then grab her bend her over something and just start playing with her the next while you hold her in place, and continue your conversation. Treat her like your play thing.

    If the size is an issue, force her to talk about how big you are, which gives you more power over her and humiliates and puts you in more of a dominant role over her husband too.

    In otherwords, I'd focus more on the sexual aspects of domination, rather than house chores...
     
  12. D_Dick_Everhard

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    What is there to be uncomfortable about?
    I plan on doing this after we are comfortable with each other. I can see it being a big turn on for them.

    This is one of the first things I had thought about doing and will probably do it on night one.
     
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    Because of the power imbalance, D/s can go very, very wrong, all too easily. I hope it doesn't for you though.
     
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    :eek: :ugh:OOOOOOOOOOOO Big guy
    I am going to have to have to ptv PM you with my advise and
    experience(s)!

    :eek:p::3some::stups::buttkick::spankme::poke::spank:

    Hope get the picture!
    Already, you have made one of serveral mistakes as to what you have shared being a newcomer to this world of experience.

    (1) You have little to no rights to tell them what their rules will be on their turff (home)...you are taking the position of a submissive sex slave for their pleasures!

    (2) Unless you absoutly know this couple very well and trust them with you full safety and control in mind I would never spend an entire week-end in their home and presence.
    One or two hours would be just as forfulling and satisfying if you're on your game and that good in bed and stay awake the whole time.

    Watch what you eat and drink and under the influence thereof...as well as what they are too! ???

    Inform someone else you know and trust when, where and who you are with....

    Beware of photos/pic taking...let alone thinking about maybe posting them unless you plan to make $$$ and in that type of business or a wanna be and the what are your furure risk by doing this:confused: to yourself and them.

    Mannnnnnn I'll PM YOU to give you a little more to think about being your 1st time. Or you can PM me.
    If not... Good Luck!
    Be Safe, Careful, and Enjoy!
    Honestly Yours Buddy...
     
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    Spend a sit-down time with them setting up boundaries and talking about what you all wish to walk away from a session with. If someone is uncomfortable with something about the situation, have more negotiations. It should be fun, safe, and sane for all parties involved.

    And other generic stuff like that.
     
  16. hurry

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    Wow, lots of contradictory advice here. It does seem like a potentially great opportunity.
     
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