Don’t Know What to do With Straight Friend

[the_str8adviser]

here's a take from someone who actually read all your posts, i feel like you should bring up the fact there is a straight(maybe bi) guy that you have a crush on but you don't know how to go approach it, maybe hinting at the fact its him by bringing up a recent toxic relationship, if he tell you to ask him out then do so (him saying no doesn't mean the end of your friendship). really hope this works out for you regardless of the outcome.

 

[al1011]

In a fantasy - can you just meet up and jerk off and see what he does? Like get him aroused let him take the next steps?

 

[PutItInHere691]

alot of guys would call it--gay baiting--alot of guys --straight or gay--will have something happen to make them think--holy shit he or she likes me--likes smacks you on the ass orgrabs your ass--maybe even kisses you on the cheek or quick kiss on lips--its all in fun to the person doing it but the other person takes it as if he/she is interested in us---

i have literally had a straight friend stand in front of me --have his dick 1 inch from my face/lips--so close my nose can smell his sweet dick--but i dont do anything with anyone until they say ok--sure he was being a tease and all--but it was just all in fun--i respected his sexual preference he respected mine---

what was funny was one time he tells me i can suck itif i wanted to--i was like-do you want me to--he would say he just told me i can suck it if i wanted to---thats not him really agreeing he wanted to be sucked--that was him saying go ahead but wont guarantee that he will like it--if he doesnt want me to suck his dick as much as i do then its one sided and thats not right..


in your post you said---I was never shy about discussing my skills around him so it’s possible that he wants to test them.---you go bragging about what you do and how good--or great --you are at doing things like sucking dick and taking a fucking?--i been with couple straight guys over the years---alot of guys at certain periods of their lives will let other guys suck their dicks and even fuck them--this is just a time when nothing serious is happening--just two guys having fun and getting laid.. one guy screwed me more than some i been with--but one day he finds a girlfriend--ddates her sometimes breaks up with her and dates another girl then marries her--so the days of having fun just to get laid are done--sometimes may sneak over for a blowjob--or get his ass rimmed and fingered because his wife wont do it--but other than that he is more 90 percent straight 10 percent gay--

but--last thing i wanna say is you are a grown man--if he does this stuff toward you and it bothers you because cant jump on his bones and do it---tell him--especially if he knows you are gay and it bothers you--
there can be a chance he dates girls because he is trying his true sexuallity from others including himself--

talk to him about his girlfriends--not in sexual manner--ask him things like what about her you didnt like or she didnt like about him and those reasons became the reasons they broke up--some guys will break up for strange reasons--he/she wont suck his dick or he/she wont swallow--a friend of mine would date girls and hed rim their assholes but when he would mention it to them rimming his---theyd say no--so he would break up-- i told him i didnt understand that because he had a nice ass i would rim it as long as he would let me--as for swallowing--not everyone enjoys it but i do-- so one nighti got to show him both things--- but what was funny--before i can rim his ass i had to shave around his hole---it was so thick and stiff--it wasnt really fun to do iti and he said he hated the hair around his asshole says it would grab hold of toilet paper when he wiped his ass--

so i shaved it then and once a month i shaved it for him--one night he meets this girl---shes sucking his dick and she didnt even ask him if she can lick his asshole--she just went 0and did it and then she swallowed his load---told him his cum tasted pretty good--and it did--i must agree-- now he is married to her and has kids and is happy and i am happy for him..


sorry i am ranting on--when i said i would keep it short--

but in a nutshell ask about his girlfriends --why breaking up--does he feel like there is something missing when with a girl--and go from there--then if things doesnt seem to work out to where he crosses that line with you--just tell him didnt want to ruin your friendship--but the things he does to get you going--needs to stop as it is sending mixed signals--

as for me i never let the teasing and stuff bother me--i figure if it happens it happens--

 

[Hardybob]

I am in my early 30's, a rural gay who has never had a gay friend in his life. Most of my friends have been straight men. With just about every one of them I can recall a time when I thought they might be interested. I was always too scared to make a move. As I got older I stopped giving a fuck and made a move/told them how I felt at every opportunity. I've had at least 7 straight friends politely reject me, 2 that said "someday when I'm ready", and 1 that rejected me at first but then eventually came out as bi to me in private and we have been fooling around ever since. I know that sounds like a lot but there's dozens more guys I regret not making a move on, including one who I caught looking at my dick once who has since passed away (that one hurts the most cause maybe I could have fixed him). It's a small chance you will get your desired outcome but I would rather try and fail than spend my life wondering what could have happened if I was a little more brave at the time. Tell him, anyone who is advising you not is speaking from the pain of being rejected or hurt by guys like this, and it's more likely than not he will hurt you too, but it's worth the risk I promise. I would rather live with the pain of rejection than the torture of wondering what if. Keep us updated.

Good advice honestly most of us are afraid to make a move when we don’t know the outcome. Your results are actually quite impressive!

 

[Hitch123]

Sounds like you ignored him when he was in a relationship but have taken an interest again when you've found out he's single. Likely you'll see signs if you're looking for them. I'd go back to ignoring.

 

[King4sk]

Just be yourself around him, don’t be trapped by your brain worrying about if you should tell him or not. You never know one day you might have that moment with him out of the blue. Which to me sounds more sexually attractive don’t you think?

 

[Rmoscew]

I'm waiting for updates

 

[justfor_me]

I'm waiting for updates

Sorry but there isn’t much of an exciting update. Thomas returned to his full level of attractiveness after the breakup and I still see him daily. Nothing much has changed in our interactions; he occasionally initiates a conversation and I barely engage. Not everything has stayed the same though.

Recently I’ve become more confident in the idea that he likes my attention. He’s been following my private social media accounts and sent a hot shirtless picture of him after practice with a random caption to explain why he’s sending it.

Whether I interpreted them correctly or not, these subtle moves brought me to a point where I planned on talking to Thomas about a week ago. Then he sent a follow request to me on Instagram and I went to follow him back. I found out he has a new girlfriend of two months.

That discovery stopped my plan and I’ve decided not to try and pursue anything. I’m going to start engaging in his conversations the same way I used to and see what happens. As many people suggested, if something comes from it that will be great and if nothing comes from it that’s ok too.

At the end of the day Thomas isn’t my only option. It’s not like I spend all day drooling about him, I just like the idea of getting with him.