- Wrey,
Just to answer a few questions.
We talked about the Don't Ask Don't Tell thing in my Spanish class not because of the military, but my teacher considers herself an activist for gay rights. We talked about it in practical application of life, business, public places, etc.
Playainda: I realize that the initial tone of this thread had nothing to do with the military. The reason I swung the discussion is because of the choice of words. Let me explain....
Don't Ask Don't Tell has come to have a rather loose meaning concerned with dicussion of one's sexuality or sex life within environes that might be considered questionable such as work or school. My issue is that D.A.D.T. means a very specific thing to a cirtain group of people. When this term is coopted to mean something else, especially something rather casual, then it dismisses the import of the original issue. It makes those of us who have felt the strong, backhanded slap of discrimination feel that what happened to us is being taken lightely enough for the terms and words of our experience to become commonplace, even comical catch-phrases.
Have you ever heard a person use the word Gay to mean lame, bo-bo, stupid....?
When I hear people use this word in this way my blood turns to steam. They have no idea how much more insulting it is to hear this word mean lame or stupid than it is to hear it used to describe someone as homosexual.
I realize that this is an arguement on semantics, but sometimes semantics count. Semantics can be a window into how we think.
When I hear someone use D.A.D.T. casually, what I hear is someone saying that they have no sensitivity or care about me and my experiences or the experiences of others.