I had this idea while reading the PMSing thread. How about all the women respond with a "do" and a "don't" for the guys when sending PMs to a woman they don't know. I'll start. Do have something interesting to say, especially if it's related to something I wrote (which makes it feel less random). "What up?" and "How's it going" and ":biggrin1:" are nice and all, but they're not really interesting enough to make me want to write back. Don't ask me where I live, especially right off the bat. I can't tell you how many guys lead off with "Hey, you're in Georgia? Where do you live?" This doesn't feel like small-talk and an opporunity to find some common interests... it feels intrusive and stalkerish (to me at least). It's the kind of thing you might ask someone after you get to know them, but not right off the bat.