I get your point. I simply don't understand why a woman would choose to be treated like that by a man. But it's your life to do with as you see fit.
Treated like what? I (A man) did this with a buddy and his wife. There was no "take it bitch" there was no domination. She wanted to try it and did. She was pampered and treated like a fucking goddess (which she is, pun intended) and she totally loved it. It was a very powerful stimulus and she came hard, repeatedly. There was no degradation, domination or any other negative connotation. If anything, she was more in control of us, giving instructions, dictating the pace etc.
It was a great experience all around for everyone involved and you hanging your own issues on it doesn't make DP a bad thing inherently.