Never mind! I searched for 'Madea chainsaw'. I think I got the right one haha. :biggrin1:
"Call the po-po, Ho! CALL THE PO-PO HO!"
Never mind! I searched for 'Madea chainsaw'. I think I got the right one haha. :biggrin1:
"Call the po-po, Ho! CALL THE PO-PO HO!"
I can't believe I had never even heard of Madea! Deserves to be as famous as Mr Bean.
No, it's not about changing. It's about making you aware of yourself- how someone else may perceive you. You'd be amazed at what you learn about yourself. It could be something that you either like or dislike, and you may not even be aware of such things. I know that it could sound like a slap in the face, but you've already been snubbed. And she tells her friends that you're a weirdo for asking for criticism, then that's obviously not the type of girl you should have been going out on a date with anyway. You seem like a very a genuine person. Just from looking at your pictures, your videos, and some of the things you've said, I gather that you may be a bit shy, maybe even a little introverted, hypersexual, and possibly even sensitive. I could be wrong, but that's just what I gather. (If you want a break down of why I believe those things, I'll be happy to explain). Just be you, dude =) And be confident. People can suck, I know, but always keep your head up and like you!
You're a sexist pig.
And women aren't the only people who do this, men do it too. The only time it seems like the woman has the upper hand is when a man lacks GAME. Yeah, I said it. The reason why guys go crazy over women is because women put forth more effort in their appearance and what they have to offer. Lets be for real, women are selling a product, themselves- and they know how to market it. It sounds like some of you straight guys need to take it upon yourselves to do the same. Women have no problem chasing after a man- as long as he's worth chasing.
Just sayin'
I'm not saying this girl is horrible, it seems that has been the consensus among a few people here. She is really sweet - just a little confusing, perhaps a little confused. Although, maybe I was a bit confusing, too. But I thought for sure I was obviously nervous. When she sent that text message I thought it was ok and was going to send a message after a week had passed, telling her that I really did enjoy the "date" and admit to my nervousness as to explain why I wasn't as responsive. I did smile throughout though, as well as paid for the meal and insisted on taking her home even after she said she was ok.
...she was just being nice to you when she sent the message about having a good time
when someone is attracted to someone else, there is no "confusion" they either are or they aren't, and if you sense that there is any sort of confusion, 99 times out of 100, the answer is a no
maybe she was turned off by the insecurity you might have showed throughout the date, telling her that you were nervous and you would have "opened up more" (code language for "i would have done better") if you weren't so nervouse etc. and having an excuse or explainations for your actions/antics ... all of these things are generally not attractive for women
the two obvious things that jumped out were
1. she didn't accept the ride home with you
2. (correct me if i am wrong) she didn't speak/make contact with you in a week
hope i helped
and someone else pointed out that you both have mutual friends so it could be very likely she asked her friends about you and she heard something that turned her off completely (must have been pretty bad, or you might have a "frienemy" who is spredding nasty stuff about you)
I still don't get why she would have sent a text message that took up nearly all 160 (or is it 140? w/e) characters.
I got the impression that she was very into me during our lunch. She was saying my name quite a bit, along with other signs.
Exactly what I thought about telling her I was nervous. Glad I didn't do that. Thought it might be taken as a compliment tho - like, "hey, you're so attractive that it makes me nervous." Guess not.
She did accept the ride, just that at first she said she said she was fine and it may have been just to be polite because she knew I didn't wanna go all the way out to her for the first meeting (seemed a little desperate for the first get-together when she's a good hour away.)
Correct on 2 though, she didn't contact me in a week - although I sent her a facebook request a few days later. I sent the request at night and she accepted first thing the next morning. I figured it was a good sign because if she wasn't interested anymore she would've denied it.
That's Madea, Bud!!! Madea is the shit! I feel that I can relate to her on so many levels... Except I'm 25 and a male (even though she's played by a male), and I'm not a grandparent. Cheers Mate!
OOPs..in another tread i said Medina..LOL..I meant Madea!!..:redface:
Absolutely, and I'm glad you didn't take offense. You seem like a sweet guy. What I will say is this- you'd only be calling to find out what happened. You can't be worried about how you're going to come off, especially to someone who isn't even communicating with you. At this point, she's no longer in your life, so it really doesn't matter.I personally would ask for two reasons: 1. To get an explanation of why there's no interest and to express that there's no hard feelings and maybe you could be friends. 2. To find out what were possible turn offs, and what were the turn ons- so that you'll be aware of this going forward.
Hey, kiddo- what's it going to hurt?! I mean, right now, you have no idea what the hell happened. At least you could possibly get some answers. And if none are provided, then it's not like you lost anything. Trust me, I'm gay and too wise and smart for my own good.
nobody is saying she's horrible, she's just not into you
i know nothing about this girl, or you for that matter, but this little paragraph pretty much said it all, she was just being nice to you when she sent the message about having a good time
when someone is attracted to someone else, there is no "confusion" they either are or they aren't, and if you sense that there is any sort of confusion, 99 times out of 100, the answer is a no
maybe she was turned off by the insecurity you might have showed throughout the date, telling her that you were nervous and you would have "opened up more" (code language for "i would have done better") if you weren't so nervouse etc. and having an excuse or explainations for your actions/antics ... all of these things are generally not attractive for women
the two obvious things that jumped out were
1. she didn't accept the ride home with you
2. (correct me if i am wrong) she didn't speak/make contact with you in a week
the second one is the biggest because like i said earlier, if she was attracted to you, she would have gotten a hold of you somehow .. you should probably just sever all ties with her because i doubt she will be coming back (nothing against you, but thats just what it looks like based on what you posted) ... and if there was some miraculous reason why she could not get in contact with you and she really was attracted to you, then she will rebuild the line of communication herself to get to you
hope i helped
She could have been direct, but I assume she's afraid of confrontation, not mature enough to say unpleasant things, even when they need to be said. So you're not going to get any closure. It would have been kinder if she simply said she didn't want to see you, but she's saying it without the confrontation. Happens all the time.So I go out with a girl and when I drop her off, she says to text her when I get home to let her know I got home alright (she is about an hour away and was worried I'd get lost.) So I do, and mention how I had a good time and hope to meet again next week. She says yeah, that she will get back to me when she knows what she's doing. That was last weekend - not the weekend that just happened. Never heard from her. She snubbed me. I'm pretty mad, and I'm not even gonna bother saying anything to our mutual friends because I know people will just say that I can't expect it to work with everyone. But I can be damn sure that if it were me doing the snubbing, that her friends would be all pissed off at me for being mean.
So why do women get to snub guys and it's ok, but when a guy does it, he's either a player or some other such term??
Hmm, relationship advice from someone with such sound experience of dating. You paid for half the women you've had sex with. Sexual partners.Women are the weaker sex. The fair sex. They can get away with that. You're a man. Be a man. Suck it up ya pussy. :nana:.
Let's hope you stay in paid employment so you can continue to get laid.oh oh. looks like i'm on the shitlist of every woman on the forum. all 3 of them.
seriously ladies. you're pictures are really hot. i love what you did with your hair. and those shoes make your ass look great! that color looks FANTASTIC on you.
i'm totally jerking it to you right now.
we good?
Hmm, relationship advice from someone with such sound experience of dating. You paid for half the women you've had sex with. Sexual partners.
Let's hope you stay in paid employment so you can continue to get laid.
To the OP. Judging from your pics and thoughtful posts I'm sure you'll meet someone else. :smile: As AE said, your date probably doesn't like confrontation.
how am i a sexist pig? because i suggest that double standards tend to be hushed a bit more when women benefit? just an observation ive noticed ...
and to the OP, dante is right, you need to sell yourself and make her chase you (i think thats what hes saying) ... and try not to get attached to someone unless you KNOW they are highly interested in you because you'll just end up getting hurt ... people (women) get bored when you "ask" them to hang out etc. if they want to go out with you, they will make themselves available ... try not to be the first person to call or text after you make the initial step in getting to know them
and someone else pointed out that you both have mutual friends so it could be very likely she asked her friends about you and she heard something that turned her off completely (must have been pretty bad, or you might have a "frienemy" who is spredding nasty stuff about you)
but at the end of the day you just have to keep your head up and move on until you find someone worth calling:smile:
what did her message say?
and facebook is a very interesting creature, people will be "friends" with anyone ... if you give somebody directions to the nearest gas station, they request you, if you stood next to someone at a urinal, they'll request you, if someone offers you gum, they'll request you .. so being "facebook friends" doesn't really mean anything ... but you are right if she denied you then that would be a very clear sign lol
Quite often what is reasonable is subjective.....By now I should know that the majority of people do not have much reasoning....
She wanted to know that you got home safely. It was a friendly gesture. The fact that she later snubbed you was probably after a period of reflection on her part. Maybe she didn't feel the chemistry the following day, maybe she's scared of relationships, maybe she thinks you're too good for her, maybe.., maybe. You may never find out.Just don't understand why she would tell me to text her when I got home.....