simcha
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I am heavyset myself. I lost 20 pounds since moving to Florida. It just came off it was stress and misery weight. I grew up heavy. My mother was stocky but not obese as was my paternal grandfather. I lost the weight at 17 gained it back and then lost it again. I was not heavy for 15 years. It then crept back on as I got lazy. I can pretty much each whatever I want and keep the weight that I am at now. I would love to lose 30 or 40 pounds, but I don't want to do the work that it takes. I taught myself not to go crazy and eat a large bag of Doritos at one sitting. I am tall and broad shouldered and people were often surprised when I told them how much I weighed.
I feel bad for morbidly obese people. They have different genetics that a slim person. Some people can eat all they want and not gain weight. Most people can eat all they want and never get to 800 pounds. A conjoined twin with one body and two heads may take up only one seat but will be charged for two people.
I always choose a window seat. I don't want to be in between two people ever. I don't spill into anyone else's seat. when I was a bit heavier I noticed that the seat belts on airplanes are not very big. I had a 40 inch waist and the slack on the seatbelt was only a few inches.
It's not discrimination that some helicopters will not let you on if you weigh over 300 pounds. It's a safety matter and a matter as to how the weight is distributed.
FYI, I don't spill over into the seats next to me. I usually order a window seat because I like to look down and see the world.
I am a large guy. And even if I were to lose weight I'd still be uncomfortable in airline seats these days. It's just a matter of chest size and hip size. You can't lose bone (unless you have osteoperosis or you shave bone).
I'm so glad that even you who has experienced being fat makes assumptions about why other people are fat. Do all fat people eat bags and bags of Doritos without ever moving? Really? That's the level of discourse that is acceptable when talking about fat people? And this isn't bigotry? Really?
Your experience is universal to all fat people? Really? You claim you got lazy, have you done any research on what failures diet and exercise have actually been at controlling weight? Did you consider that you are being lied to by the weightloss industry and the medical industrial complex that likes people spending money on products that don't work?
I'm playing devil's advocate because I work with all sizes of people and have truly observed people's eating choices and activity levels in relation to their size because I wanted to live in reality about this for my own health. I've seen that yo-yo dieting is one of the number one killers of fat people in this country, not cholesterol, not the fat itself, but yo-yo dieting. What causes yo-yo dieting? I'll tell you. It's the vast amount of misinformation given to fat people about the effectiveness of dieting and exercizing and their utility in maintaining a lower weight and the alleged health benefits of losing weight.
My Dad was a prime example of this. He died early in has early 60s. My Grandfather (his Dad) is large too. My Grandfather turns 90 on Tuesday. Both men were consistently active throughout life. My Grandfather who golfs and bowls at 90 and even plays softball has never, ever dieted or started an "exercise regime" to attempt to control his weight. He wasn't raised with propaganda about size and health. My Dad on the other hand tried countless diets and exercise regimes. He lost weight, he gained weight. He was almost never at rest with his weight. He'd always end up gaining more weight after the diets and exercise failed. He didn't have high cholesterol, he had no heart disease, and he had no high blood pressure. He never suffered from diabetes. He never had cancer. What killed him? He had a massive heart attack that they still can't explain after exercising in the morning. Two months before he died he had a stress test and an entire physical/medical workup. He was given a clean bill of health.
What do I believe killed him? I believe his heart gave out due to the strain of the body's weight fluctuations. There is ever more evidence about this in medical literature. It's just beginning to come to light.
You know what? Statistically, and using Grandpa as a model, if he simply lived reasonably while doing the sports he loved and eating reasonable amounts of food (which many fat people do) without having the large weight fluctuations, he'd still be alive. I believe that Grandpa is alive because he never put his body through the stress of following bad medical advice to diet or exercise compulsively. Dad's dead because he internalized the bad medical advice and society's assault on the esteem of fat people.
I won't fall victim to it. I refuse. I'm quite healthy and my cholesterol is fine now that I've learned what I need to do to keep healthy (and it most certainly isn't dieting and exercising compulsively or taking dangerous diet drugs).
So, I don't expect attitudes to change. I just wanted to make sure that the other side got heard. Now that this has happened, I'll leave this place to its continued lack of ability to hold intelligent discourse about any subject.