I've been bi for as long as I can remember. Before I asked my wife to marry me, I told her. I also told her that every once in a while I visit this guy, pay him a bit of money, get a massage and have some gay sex. She was fine with it, and actually turned her on that I was "a bit kinky", but it was never brought up again. 14 years later, I'm feeling guilt for having sex with a different guy (same deal..massage...), and I feel I'm cheating on my wife, but also cheating on myself for not being myself. I went back to my wife and explained the situation. I wish I wasn't bi, it would make my life far less complicated, but you can't just turn off the "BI SWITCH". My wife understood, and told me to proceed safely, what a women!! The guilt has gone away mostly, what I'd really like to do is bring another guy with a nice big dick into our bedroom and let my wife enjoy it as well. She has said she's not interested, but many years ago we shared our bed with another women. Perhaps we'll try that again some time. Bottom line, being honest with my wife has improved my life. Good luck