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Ok, people, so I really need some input. Though I've been going through some rough life circumstances/speedbumps, I figure it should have nothing to do with this -- despite the fact that it's totally NOT the first time this has happened....
Seems like damn near every time I turn my back, my husband is online (be it on his phone or on the PC) downloading porn of some sort or another. It is nothing overtly shocking ... I pretty much know what he's into.
Admittedly, I can't fulfill all of his niches/wants/nuances. Nonetheless, we've been together for (what will be) 9 years (in November). Am I wrong that this bugs me and pisses me off?
I might add that, hell yes, I look at and download stuff too. The difference(s) here is(/are) that 1) without even being asked, I tell him I have and do look at and download. 2) I don't lie about it. 3) Even if "caught," he lies. 4) When we've discussed or argued about it before, he tells me it's due to sex seeming taboo to him when he was growing up (though he's damn near 35 now) and that he has always found it a difficult subject to deal with. And 5) No matter WHAT I'm going through (though we're a couple and I figure when one suffers the other does too, and sex ain't necessarily on the front burner -- specially the download variety), he STILL is found to be online doing what the hell ever.
To be honest it makes me so mad and I can't help feelong annoyed, pissed off, and even jealous. Maybe it's just me. Your comments, thoughts, experiences, guidance, PLEASE???
(Pardon me if this is a repeated question. In my angst, I didn't search. I'm sure someone will inform me if it IS a repeat.)
Thanks guys. Hope to hear from you. If you need more info, I'll damn sure get back to you ASAP.
Seems like damn near every time I turn my back, my husband is online (be it on his phone or on the PC) downloading porn of some sort or another. It is nothing overtly shocking ... I pretty much know what he's into.
Admittedly, I can't fulfill all of his niches/wants/nuances. Nonetheless, we've been together for (what will be) 9 years (in November). Am I wrong that this bugs me and pisses me off?
I might add that, hell yes, I look at and download stuff too. The difference(s) here is(/are) that 1) without even being asked, I tell him I have and do look at and download. 2) I don't lie about it. 3) Even if "caught," he lies. 4) When we've discussed or argued about it before, he tells me it's due to sex seeming taboo to him when he was growing up (though he's damn near 35 now) and that he has always found it a difficult subject to deal with. And 5) No matter WHAT I'm going through (though we're a couple and I figure when one suffers the other does too, and sex ain't necessarily on the front burner -- specially the download variety), he STILL is found to be online doing what the hell ever.
To be honest it makes me so mad and I can't help feelong annoyed, pissed off, and even jealous. Maybe it's just me. Your comments, thoughts, experiences, guidance, PLEASE???
(Pardon me if this is a repeated question. In my angst, I didn't search. I'm sure someone will inform me if it IS a repeat.)
Thanks guys. Hope to hear from you. If you need more info, I'll damn sure get back to you ASAP.