Hmm...Dr Laura...
In 1998 I bought my first car because my job demanded that I go to places not accessible to Boston's public transit; I found broadcast music radio formulaic in the extreme and, at that time, hadn't yet installed a CD player. So I cruised the AM dial (NPR really is as dull as unbuttered dry toast on a weekday afternoon) and "discovered" the shock and awe of her program.
To say that she was a strident reactionary is like equating a bee sting with a snake bite; her views on everything were fed through a very narrow funnel of her own version of morality where everything is black and white and completely cut and dried. It was actually fascinating to hear a viewpoint so completely the polar opposite of my own repeated with such complete and monotonous regularity.
I'll also gladly admit to a certain sadism that went 50 leagues deeper than
schadenfreude in listening to how she chose to speak with her callers: curt, rude, condescending, dismissive. She cut so many people off before they had a chance to really tell their stories that any grasp of the specifics of the issue at hand was tenuous at best. But what did it really matter, because, much like
Name That Tune, she could summarize the caller's problem in three to five notes, and then funnel the particularities into one of her simplistic answers to
everything.
What I didn't really understand though, was who these callers really were: if they were regular listeners, they'd be well aware that, in almost robotic fashion, she'd slice-and-dice their reasoning (and generally the lack thereof) to ribbons live, from coat to coast. I presumed that there was a scripted quality to her show (much like later "reality" TV), as I could not believe that so many people would have such a masochistic zeal to undergo Dr Laura at her worst (or best, depending on your POV, I guess). She maintained a steady flow of victims for many many years.
Her views on "
tough love" horrified me profoundly, going far beyond the paradoxcal combo of "Do as I say,
not as I do/While in my house, you play by my rules
or leave" that constitutes way too much of the parenting skills in far too many homes. She advocated Zero Tolerance be applied to kids who were entirely dependent on their parents, and I'm not just talking about random sweeps of adolescent bedrooms or the removal of bedroom doors. What she seems to have forgotten was that she'd never have had the "strength" of "reason" and purpose without first having made an assortment of myriad youthful mistakes and errors in judgement. It's a privilege of one's teens and, to a reasonable degree, a parental responsibility to see that such things occur
with consequences.
Micromanaging teenagers does not keep them on the straight-and-narrow, it turns them into neurotic messes and perpetuates precisely the sort of post-adolescent dependence and reliance that, at other times, she found equally distasteful. I felt profound pity for her son,
Deryk, who was held up as a kind of paragon of virtue (which I found doubtful even as I was hearing it) instead of giving him the privacy (and the ability to live as just another regular kid) he deserved. Using one's children (especially teens) as props to "prove" one's politics as sound is a loathsome and despicable act of exploitation and abuse.
There were times, though rarely, when she she made some sense; that is to say that occasionally we'd agree :redface:. She decried the materialism of otherwise affluent couples who put money and the acquisition of material possessions ahead of rearing a family by reminding listeners that kids need someone at home every day when they return from school; we were in agreement in deploring "latchkey" kids, though she was unwilling to be pragmatic enough to understand that this needn't necessarily be one of the birth parents. Likewise, her stance on abortion was/is at odds with her insistence that people (couples) who cannot afford children do everyone a disservice in having them.
There was another time when a caller expressed concern about her gay brother-in-law taking a paternal interest in her tween son, which sent Dr Laura into a five-minute diatribe about homosexuality not being "contagious" and calling out the suddenly-disoriented caller as bigoted. She cited the many gay friends whom she trusted implicitly with Deryk, both in group settings and in private outings (to ballgames, theater, etc). I distinctly recall sitting in my car waiting for the call to end before getting out to keep an appointment with a client. She genuinely impressed me: but that was either in '98 or '99. As everyone knows, she reversed herself on this important issue and as a result lost tens of thousands (at the barest minimum) of socially moderate listeners as well as several sponsors and ultimately, her TV show.
It should come as no surprise that she has a
staunch ally in Mrs Palin, as both of them seem to not understand that the First Amendment does not constitute freedom from criticism and dissent: in fact, the First Amendment guarantees everyone the right to voice criticism and dissent
. I have the funny feeling that, among the Palinistas, Dr Laura will remain as celebrated for her martyrdom, to the same degree that she is infamous and reviled among LGBTs, their families and friends, though for the vast majority, this whole thing will completely blow over and be as quickly forgotten as her "biological error" comment was in 2000.