Ok, so I'm fat. I've been battiling being overweight as long as I've been alive. I was a fat kid and got very thin through my teens and early 20s, went off of Wellbutrin and quit smoking, and gained weight. I got married and got pregnant and gained weight. I'm working my ass off to lose and it's hard, slow, and thankless.
I'm fortunate that I am tall and really do have a large frame so I can carry more weight than most women. But I'm still fat.
Is this my fault? Yes. I have asthma, obstructive sleep apnea, polycystic ovarian syndrome, and I'm bipolar and take medication known to cause weight gain. All of these things have influenced my weight in the upward direction. I don't eat a lot of fast food-- I don't even eat out all that much. Mostly I grab whatever I can eat and don't think about it because I'm completely consumed with work and caring for my son.
My point is, people like to make generalizations that because you're fat, you're lazy, unhealthy, slovenly, and don't give a shit about yourself. Nothing can be further from the truth for most people that are overweight. My mother and grandmother have both been obese for lengthy periods of time in their lives. I can't help but think there's a genetic component. Neither of these women are lazy or slovenly. Mostly, like me, they have been completely overwhelmed by the circumstances of their lives and have slowly put on weight.
It is hard to eat healthy when to do so you have to prepare most all food from scratch. Almost everything you get out is terrible for you, including the innocuous bagel and light cream cheese from Starbucks that will run you close to 1000 calories. It's very easy to think you're not eating that much if you don't start looking at nutrition information for everything you eat. Getting that nutrition info can be difficult and time-consuming.
My point is, it angers me that people point the finger at fat people (especially women) as examples of irresponsible slobs who are a burden on society and did it to themselves. I used to work a job where strong men would come in still sweaty from the gym and have me load 20 40-pound bags of topsoil into their cars. I work a job now where I'm on my feet and running, most of the time in heels and a suit, for 12-14 hours nonstop. I am not lazy and I'm also very strong physically.
Yes, I know I'm fat. I'm working on getting healthier and losing weight. But I resent being put into a group and being called lazy and burdensome. For some of us, the battle with our physical health is truly harder than others, even in matters where it seems to be our choice. It's just not fair to paint all people that are overweight with the same brush.
I am so sick of being looked at as a lesser person with no self-control and that attitude being okay. It's discriminatory and infuriating. If my doctor yelled at me for being fat and it all being my fault, I'd switch doctors immediately and maybe punch the motherfucker. What about all the studies that show how influential childhood obesity is on adults, yet my mother was told "a fat baby is a healthy baby," and so by getting me fat, she thought she was doing the right thing? The last time I was in the doctor's office, I cried because I've been dieting, exercising, and doing all the right things and still the weight is coming off very slowly. There are days that I just want to bang my head into a wall. Rather than chastise me, she commended me for the two dress sizes and pounds I have lost and suggested ways I could make this an easier process. A doctor calling a patient fat and yelling at them does nothing but make the patient feel worse and makes them less likely seek out medical help until it's an emergency. And this is a burden on the healthcare system much more than if it weren't such a stigma even with doctors to be overweight or smoke or anything else that is considered "asking for it."
Further, most doctors are not in the position to claim superiority over a patient for this or that habit. Last time I checked, doctors are just as bad with their health as a group as everyone else.
I'm going to go get some of my alotted 1200 calories for the day now.
Snoozan