So I got this new boyfriend who I've been seeing for about a month and now I'm contemplating breaking up with him because his attention toward me is getting so overwhelming. At first, it was cute. He would just be gazing at me. We'd be watching a movie and I could feel his eyes on me. I'd look at him and go "What?" and he'd go "Nothing" and smile and continue gazing. And that starts to make me feel uncomfortable. I would have thought that it would let up after a while but it never has.
We'll be hanging out and all the sudden he'll say "I miss you" and I'll say "I'm sitting right here with you" and he'll say "I know. But when I leave I'll miss you" and I'm like oook....
He keeps saying "What did I do to be so lucky to have a guy like you?" The first dozen times I'd say "Aww I feel the same way" but he keeps saying it!
On my facebook I'll log on and see I have 34 messages all from him. Messages like "I miss you" "I want you" "I need you"
He IMed me and said "I miss you" and I had just had enough of it and I said "So I've heard" because I was SICK of saying "I miss you too." Then he got upset and was like "Well at least somebody is missing somebody in this relationship."
I don't know if it's me and maybe I don't know a good thing when I got it. Maybe I'm an insensitive jerk or if it's him. I mean, I like him and I find him attractive but the constant gushing over me is really pushing me away.
I wish he would just chill out
edit: I should note this is his first relationship
edit 2: Oh, and he doesn't have a job. Which, I think, is a big part of the problem. He's 22 and doesn't go to school or work. I ask him what he does at home and he says he gets up at like 6am and will sit on his porch and play with his cat all day. And I'm like "That's it?" and he'll go "Pretty much"
So here I come along and all the sudden all his focus is on me. And I both work and go to school and he doesn't understand how that takes up a lot of my time. He even called me a flake because I had to not spend the night with him because I had finals. But even though I had to cancel the spending the night, I did spend the day with him. So I tried to compromise but he saw it as me flaking out. Which really pissed me off
We'll be hanging out and all the sudden he'll say "I miss you" and I'll say "I'm sitting right here with you" and he'll say "I know. But when I leave I'll miss you" and I'm like oook....
He keeps saying "What did I do to be so lucky to have a guy like you?" The first dozen times I'd say "Aww I feel the same way" but he keeps saying it!
On my facebook I'll log on and see I have 34 messages all from him. Messages like "I miss you" "I want you" "I need you"
He IMed me and said "I miss you" and I had just had enough of it and I said "So I've heard" because I was SICK of saying "I miss you too." Then he got upset and was like "Well at least somebody is missing somebody in this relationship."
I don't know if it's me and maybe I don't know a good thing when I got it. Maybe I'm an insensitive jerk or if it's him. I mean, I like him and I find him attractive but the constant gushing over me is really pushing me away.
I wish he would just chill out
edit: I should note this is his first relationship
edit 2: Oh, and he doesn't have a job. Which, I think, is a big part of the problem. He's 22 and doesn't go to school or work. I ask him what he does at home and he says he gets up at like 6am and will sit on his porch and play with his cat all day. And I'm like "That's it?" and he'll go "Pretty much"
So here I come along and all the sudden all his focus is on me. And I both work and go to school and he doesn't understand how that takes up a lot of my time. He even called me a flake because I had to not spend the night with him because I had finals. But even though I had to cancel the spending the night, I did spend the day with him. So I tried to compromise but he saw it as me flaking out. Which really pissed me off
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