Duration of Sex

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    I was listening to this human sexuality talk show on satellite radio the other day, and this girl was lamenting the amount of time (15-20 minutes) that her boyfriend pounded her before finally cumming. The host therapist was saying it's a popular notion that guys get from porn videos that women like to be fucked for long periods of time, or that it makes them look more "manly" if they can do it. In fact, the host was saying, past a certain point, many women really don't like it, and seemed to suggest that most of the time, anything much past 5 minutes was just too much of a good thing.

    So, the question to women on here: For what length of time, and assuming you like/love the guy and he knows what he's doing, do you enjoy sex, and at what point does it become "geezzz, can we finish already?" or boring or annoying or painful? I'm only talking about penetrative sex, not the total lovemaking experience including foreplay, etc.
     
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    I think it depends on how I feel at the time. It would be nice to have a "quickie" everynow and then and penetration not always turn into a marathon. I think 15-20 minutes is good normally. I'm not saying I never like it longer or shorter. Sometimes we've had sex for 30 minutes, stopped went back into "playing" and then back into penetration. If my partner and I have adequate foreplay 10 minutes of penetration is good. I would not want to put a certain time frame on penetration because I change each time, my level of arousal might be different. You also have to think about lubrication and the size discrepancy that some of us have. Those things can also impact how long I want penetration for. A poll might have been good for this question.
     
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    I'm usually too busy enjoying it to realise how much time is passing. When we finish playing I'm usually wondering where all the time went. I suppose it depends how good the sex is. If the sex is crap I might be bored after 5 mins. If it's good . . .
     
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    Exactly...when sex is good, you shouldn't be aware of time passing.
     
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    ...my girl says that she never has enough. She is insatiable.
     
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    my girl likes it for about two minutes..then she starts to feel somewhat sore... :p
     
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    i never tried to count the minutes, nor do i think its needed if you make the minutes count.
     
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    Well I noted times because I think mine times himself. He says how long he goes for. I wouldn't notice :)
     
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    But is too long really a problem, i mean i would imagine i would pick up on it if it was.
    Not saying that the longer is always the better, but that it does regulate it self, in the sense that you just feel whether more is appreciated or it gets uncomfortable for her and you may need to change it up. But i guess there are some guys who keep going just to satisfy their ego.
     
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    half an hour is enough time to make sure they enjoy it i reckon, i normally get complaints if it's too long
     
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    BINGO- you're pretty smart:tongue:

    Sometimes I think men think a longer "session" is more impressive?
     
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    has anybody else read The One Minute Lover ? :eek:
     
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    What dollygirl said^^
     
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    Yeah well, i guess it is insecurity, i mean with the more of openness about sex, there also is more talk about women who don't orgasm, premature ejaculation and all kind of that. Men want to proof not only to the girl or man they are sleeping with but to them self that they are a stud, and that sometimes leads to stupid things.

    But then there is something about the human mind in general that makes us think the more the better. It is irrational, and rather stupid but a common way of thinking. I remember a buddy of mine when he started to do his own laundry he used way to much detergent, just because he thought that would make it extra clean, and he did it to the point that detergent stayed with him like cologne.
     
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    Ahhh, but the sad thing is longer does not equal better. An orgasm is not about the length of time in most cases, I think motion, depth of penetration, etc. are all more important than just a timeframe. I can have intercourse for 30 minutes and that doesn't mean I am going to have an orgasm.
     
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    That might be so, but it is much easier timing with a watch to convince yourself your the man than to keep track of your exact motions. :biggrin1:
     
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    The only time my wife had sex for a really long time, like 2 hours of steady penetration, Is the only time she has squirted and says it's the best orgasm she has had. The regular steady thrusting in the same position was aparently what made her cum so hard.

    On the other hand her and I usually have sex for about 30 minutes and she says that's enough. I guess the situation and how things feel are the most important rather then a specific time limit.
     
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    :eek: Sex is about convincing yourself that "you are the man." I thought it was for fun, making babies, releasing stress, because your horny, etc. Well I guess I just learned the key to sex, convincing the man that "he is THE MAN." At this point I should just go sign up for porn star lessions so I can pant and moan all for him and his ego:tongue: (just kidding)
     
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    I didn't say it's about that, nor that it should be.
    But for us it is very important to perform in bed, not being able to do that would question our masculinity. Thats a big part of why so many men are obsessed with size, it is pretty much the same issue. There are other factors playing, but it is just easy to measure, so is the duration of penetration.
    And yes we need confirmation of our masculinity, and i don't think there is so much wrong with that, all humans need affirmation only that allows to grow self-confidence and only that allows you to actually deal with criticism in a productive way. But some just take the wrong indicators to get their affirmation. And i do think that with the increased social openness about sex, and the talk about ED, about premature ejaculation about orgasm problems and and and it is more likely to get a little uncertain and then more likely to look at the wrong, the easy and fast indicators to reassure your self.

    It is kind of like certain women (and some men) who define them self by their looks, don't actually pay as much attention to how they actually look and factors like proportions but rather focus on the number the sclae shows or the size of the dress.
     
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    Awww, I said I was just kidding:frown1: :tongue: I agree, I have actually learned a lot about better ways to be open with my guy since I joined this forum. Communication, while not always comfortable is the key. How to say things somethings without hurting someone's ego is another issue. Anyway back on the time frame topic, I need to not take the thread into another direction:biggrin1:
     
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