Duration of Sex

[petite]

But then there is something about the human mind in general that makes us think the more the better.

This is so true!

I realized reading this thread that I have no idea how long we have sex. I'm not aware of time passing at all.

A lot of how long we go depends on how gentle or rough TheBoyfriend is with me because we're mis-matched size-wise. If he's bottoming out a lot, I can't keep going for a long time. If he's bottomed out a lot the day before, I'll often be very sore deep inside and I don't want to have sex for a long time because I'm sore from the very first thrust. If we haven't had sex in a long time, his girth will also make me sore a lot faster than usual. It's proof that more isn't always better if it's just too much.

I can enjoy sex with a man who has an average sized penis for hours and hours, day after day and love it. I enjoy quickies, because a little sex is better than nothing, but I'll always prefer more.

 

[petite]

Well I noted times because I think mine times himself. He says how long he goes for. I wouldn't notice

I found out not too long ago that TheBoyfriend always counts and keeps track of how many orgasms I have. He never told me, it just came out when we were talking about it. I think most guys are competitive and like to quantify things, even if they're only competing against themselves. A matter of personal pride. :smile:

 

[B_subgirrl]

I found out not too long ago that TheBoyfriend always counts and keeps track of how many orgasms I have. He never told me, it just came out when we were talking about it. I think most guys are competitive and like to quantify things, even if they're only competing against themselves. A matter of personal pride. :smile:

I used to have a couple of guys who did that. Counted my orgasms and compared scratch marks with each other. It used to make me giggle.

 

[HiddenLacey]

I found out not too long ago that TheBoyfriend always counts and keeps track of how many orgasms I have. He never told me, it just came out when we were talking about it. I think most guys are competitive and like to quantify things, even if they're only competing against themselves. A matter of personal pride. :smile:

:tongue: See!!! So when I first answered the thread I was quoting his times. Honestly when I'm in the moment I don't care if it's 5 minutes or two hours. The only things I notice are dryness, soreness, tiredness, orgasms, he's on my hair, ow! ow! ow! Darn that hurt, ohhhhhhhhhhhh that felt niceeeeee "do it again":tongue:

I'm sure there are a million things that I notice but time is rather unimportant.

 

[Countryguy63]

I always had an issue with my last gf. It wasn't based on time, but that she was a multiple orgasm'er and it takes me a long time. More than a few times, she would have a series of orgasms and soon said that she was so sensitive that she couldn't do it any longer. I kind of relate that to my cock head after cumming. Sensitive to the point of being painful.

We could wait a couple minutes and continue and eventually I'd get mine, bu that usually made it even longer :frown1:

 

[HiddenLacey]

I always had an issue with my last gf. It wasn't based on time, but that she was a multiple orgasm'er and it takes me a long time. More than a few times, she would have a series of orgasms and soon said that she was so sensitive that she couldn't do it any longer. I kind of relate that to my cock head after cumming. Sensitive to the point of being painful.

We could wait a couple minutes and continue and eventually I'd get mine, bu that usually made it even longer :frown1:

Gah! Sex during and after orgasm is always the best sex for me. I guess we all differ in what we like:wink: I prefer that intense I can't handle it anymore sensation sometimes.

 

[luvmycock]

thanks for this question! i have wandered this for a long time:smile:

I was listening to this human sexuality talk show on satellite radio the other day, and this girl was lamenting the amount of time (15-20 minutes) that her boyfriend pounded her before finally cumming. The host therapist was saying it's a popular notion that guys get from porn videos that women like to be fucked for long periods of time, or that it makes them look more "manly" if they can do it. In fact, the host was saying, past a certain point, many women really don't like it, and seemed to suggest that most of the time, anything much past 5 minutes was just too much of a good thing.

So, the question to women on here: For what length of time, and assuming you like/love the guy and he knows what he's doing, do you enjoy sex, and at what point does it become "geezzz, can we finish already?" or boring or annoying or painful? I'm only talking about penetrative sex, not the total lovemaking experience including foreplay, etc.

 

[bigjd69]

I went close to an hour the other night not because I wanted to but I was just having a hard (no pun intended) time climaxing. I can usually last the norm 10 minutes.

 

[B_subgirrl]

I always had an issue with my last gf. It wasn't based on time, but that she was a multiple orgasm'er and it takes me a long time. More than a few times, she would have a series of orgasms and soon said that she was so sensitive that she couldn't do it any longer. I kind of relate that to my cock head after cumming. Sensitive to the point of being painful.

We could wait a couple minutes and continue and eventually I'd get mine, bu that usually made it even longer :frown1:

I'm lucky - multi orgasmic but I don't get too sensitive. Well, I do sometimes, but the best sex I ever had was with someone who pushed me past that point.

 

[Countryguy63]

Gah! Sex during and after orgasm is always the best sex for me. I guess we all differ in what we like:wink: I prefer that intense I can't handle it anymore sensation sometimes.

I'm lucky - multi orgasmic but I don't get too sensitive. Well, I do sometimes, but the best sex I ever had was with someone who pushed me past that point.

So, I guess she was a wuss :tongue:

 

[deleted356736]

I have also pondered this question, and read some surveys which had average durations of intercourse ranging from 6 minutes to 8 minutes (1 standard deviation). I also read two research studies where women were interviewed, and the ideal duration was between 7 and 13 minutes in both cases. So, I am guessing our usual 10 minutes is about right, although we do have much longer (about 30 minutes) every now and then.

For me to work out time, it was a case of glancing at the clock. It's surprising that you can be having a wonderful and glorious time, your partner is murmuring with pleasure; it seems like forever and it's only one or two minutes so far!

 

[Jhbmeetbuddies]

We've had sex from 2 mintues long to hours of foreplay, bathing together, kissing, etc. I think it really depends on whether you like the person or not, my gf never complained before about long sessions, at least not in front of me! ;-)

 

[RawDog]

For the most part the high end of our average (45 minutes) is what makes me happy, but ends up making my wife too sore. Although any less than that leaves her unsatiated.

 

[sbat]

I have a hard time with quickies because I often take forever to come. There have been times where my GF and I have been going at it for 45 minutes and have to stop without either of us coming because it gets too painful for her.

At the same time, I don't feel good if we stop without her climaxing because she really works hard to make me happy, doing things that make her feel uncomfortable but she knows I like. Normally, if we keep things nice and wet and vary the positions, she'll come from intercourse in 15-25 minutes

 

[Embrace69]

On average, I'd say about 30 mins tops to climax for me. But I can do multiples and do them often. So it's nothing to have sex climax, and go again, rinse and repeat until both of our stamina wears out. Which has gone on evening, night, morning and then finally other obligations (work etc..) get in the way. Damn them...

 

[molotovmuffin]

On average, I'd say about 30 mins tops to climax for me. But I can do multiples and do them often. So it's nothing to have sex climax, and go again, rinse and repeat until both of our stamina wears out. Which has gone on evening, night, morning and then finally other obligations (work etc..) get in the way. Damn them...

I love marathon sex... hours and hours and hours... climax or no. I don't care.... quickies are great if you have to rush out the door... but that's more for him than me. Of course I love morning sex as well...so I always seem to be the odd bird out.

 

[Embrace69]

I love marathon sex... hours and hours and hours... climax or no. I don't care.... quickies are great if you have to rush out the door... but that's more for him than me. Of course I love morning sex as well...so I always seem to be the odd bird out.

I'm a big fan of marathon sex. I don't have to climax to do it but it usually ends up that way anyway. I don't mind quickies but like you said...it's more for him than me. Morning sex is the greatest. I love waking up to him on top of me. It's the best time IMO because all of your senses are just waking up so it feels amazing.

 

[sbat]

I'm a big fan of marathon sex. I don't have to climax to do it but it usually ends up that way anyway. I don't mind quickies but like you said...it's more for him than me. Morning sex is the greatest. I love waking up to him on top of me. It's the best time IMO because all of your senses are just waking up so it feels amazing.

Quick question to you two:

How important is it for you to come during sex?

 

[Embrace69]

Quick question to you two:

How important is it for you to come during sex?

Wow, that's kind of double edged. I'd say for me, It's important about 85% of the time, because if I didn't climax during the majority of the time we engage in sex then I'd end up getting bored at some point. BUT my satisfaction relies on synergy between my partner and I. If I know I'm making him feel amazing, then in turn that turns me on and if he knows I'm getting turned on it turns him on. It's this whole "circle of sex thing" if you will.

But if I don't come occasionally and he does, I still feel good and satisfied that I can make him feel good. If he wants to go at me and make me come because that's what he wants, well then we just play a game of sorts and it happens. The point for me is not to focus on if I'm going to come or not, it's how I'm making my partner feel and what we're sharing with each other. If he feels the same way (and he does) then it comes naturally and we don't have to worry about if it's important or not because it happens.

 

[AdrianaOne]

Maximum= 1 Hour