Well, if you read the entire post, you see that she and her boyfriend were swingers. They both invited this man into their bed. It's not like she sought out a man and slept with him, but once she had, she wanted more. It's a tough position.
I'd never want to be in it, so I can't judge, I've not walked in her moccasins, so, whose to say that if I had a bf who wanted to introduce another guy into our bed, I wouldn't fall for that guy. It's a tangled situation.
I feel bad for her, I mean, come on, she was in love, this man came in, and changed those feelings she had for her bf. And I have to agree, some men just want the chase not the catch. (not sure if woman want that, but most likely).
I'd go over. Just say, hi, what's up. It will settle your mind. It really will tell you one way or another.
I was in a similar thing, not a threesome, but a guy that just disappeared. It was a long distance thing -- I know, I know, they don't work --after a year of chatting daily, then a great two weeks together, I thought, this guy is the ONE! Got back to school, tough, tough time with midterms and all that stress, and wow, no emails. No chats. Crickets. Not normal. I freaked out, lost it, I wrote him, tried to chat, nothing. I needed some kind of closure, so I wrote him a long email and he finally was like, well it was fun....something like that. Totally don't remember, but later on, yes, I am a dork and saw him again, sigh, anyway, I found out he had like a shoebox FULL of women's pictures. He was quite the player and silly single mom that I was, so into college and raising my son, so naive, thought he was all into me. Silly. But still, it's better to know. And you know what? I am so better off without a loser like that. And if that's what the guy is all about, then you're better off too. It's sad, hurtful, but true.
But still, closure. You need it, just demand it. It's tough, hard, but you are woman. Roar! Go over and say, hey, what's up? Haven't heard from you....
good luck!!!
I'd never want to be in it, so I can't judge, I've not walked in her moccasins, so, whose to say that if I had a bf who wanted to introduce another guy into our bed, I wouldn't fall for that guy. It's a tangled situation.
I feel bad for her, I mean, come on, she was in love, this man came in, and changed those feelings she had for her bf. And I have to agree, some men just want the chase not the catch. (not sure if woman want that, but most likely).
I'd go over. Just say, hi, what's up. It will settle your mind. It really will tell you one way or another.
I was in a similar thing, not a threesome, but a guy that just disappeared. It was a long distance thing -- I know, I know, they don't work --after a year of chatting daily, then a great two weeks together, I thought, this guy is the ONE! Got back to school, tough, tough time with midterms and all that stress, and wow, no emails. No chats. Crickets. Not normal. I freaked out, lost it, I wrote him, tried to chat, nothing. I needed some kind of closure, so I wrote him a long email and he finally was like, well it was fun....something like that. Totally don't remember, but later on, yes, I am a dork and saw him again, sigh, anyway, I found out he had like a shoebox FULL of women's pictures. He was quite the player and silly single mom that I was, so into college and raising my son, so naive, thought he was all into me. Silly. But still, it's better to know. And you know what? I am so better off without a loser like that. And if that's what the guy is all about, then you're better off too. It's sad, hurtful, but true.
But still, closure. You need it, just demand it. It's tough, hard, but you are woman. Roar! Go over and say, hey, what's up? Haven't heard from you....
good luck!!!
