Easing tensions between average size men and size queens

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  1. necro86171

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    Hello to All,

    I am a regular reader of these forums, though I seldom post anything. Recently I read several threads in which there was a certain degree of hostility between those women who prefer larger men (the so-called sizequeens) and those who do not, a few of whom are of average size. I would just like to comment on what I see as a misunderstanding between the two groups, one that I believe has a negative impact on relations between the genders and potentially on the sex lives of many couples.

    First, as you can see from my sig, I am of size that is commonly considered to be within the average range. I have accepted this, and for the most part I am happy with it. However, I am bothered by the trend in the media which essentially says that 95% of men are of an inadequate size to satisfy women sexually. Not only do I believe that this is patently false, but I also think that it is this trend which causes many men to have size related insecurities, and to take out these insecurities on women who prefer men which larger endowments.

    Personally, I have absolutley no problem with size queens whatsoever, and I actually believe that this is the view that most men share. If I am insufficent to please a particular woman, we are probably not a good match. She has a total right to seek out men that will give her maximum pleasure, and she should not be condemmed for doing so. We as men need to accept the fact that we will not be able to sucessfully please, or be attractive to, every single woman on the planet.

    The problem lies in the fact that those of us of average size (and I can only imagine what this must be like for a man who is actually small) are incessently told how "small" we are, and how women don't want to sleep with any guy under 7", and that we should be striving to move genetic mountains to add that additional .25" of size in either direction. To go further, the recent trend has been to focus on girth, so that even longer men such as myself are made to feel inadequate.

    The point of this is that upon hearing women express a preference for larger size, rather than rationally viewing it as her individual viewpoint, many men immediatley see it as an extension of this media money making scheme. "Here is another person who is telling me I am inadequate." What I want to do here is to tell you that often times it is not you who an insecure man is angry at, it is the general message. So don't feel guilty or ashamed of your preferences, but please keep this in mind there might be a legitimate reason a particular man is hostile to you the next time you express a preference for the endowed....

    Thank you and I apologize for poor spelling....
     
  2. zaza

    zaza New Member

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    Does the media really state that 95% of men are of inadequate size to satisfy a partner? Thats bizzare.

    At the end of the day most men are average. Therefore most women will be having sex with an average size man. Many women will never have experience of anything other than an average size penis. I also believe that most women are like me, we fall for a guy not a penis.
     
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    I read the first paragraph... yeah we have a difference in wants... but thats life...
     
  4. rob_just_rob

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    I sympathize to some extent with the men out there who feel that they are being slighted for their size.

    However, our culture slights women who don't have ideal looks all the time. And I mean, ALL THE TIME. Women endure much more of this is-my-body-okay crap than men do.

    And beyond that, we're all being judged every day on various criteria. Are you smart enough to make a timely comeback to that verbal barb? How long are you going to keep driving that old clunker? You're not still hanging around with them, are you? Why didn't you make it into med school, anyway? Did you give up your gym membership? And so on.

    Besides, no matter how big you are, you're still too small for some people. And there's always someone bigger.
     
  5. biguy2738

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    I'm about average in the tool department and yes, I've encountered those threads...have I taken offence? No. Some women (and men) are size queens, some aren't. They are entitled to their preference.

    At the end of the day, I really don't think that we have a right to complain. What about the men that like big breasted women? I'm pretty certain that women with small chests are made to feel the same way that we do? It comes with the territory.

    I think that if someone makes me feel inadequate because of my penis size, the only person that I can blame is myself. If I had a healthy enough self esteem and didn't base it solely on penis size, then I wouldn't be feeling that way.
     
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    Very well put, I guess I would be labeled a size queen but that is only because I cannot reach orgasm unless my G-spot is stimulated and that just happens to take a 7 1/2 - 8" long penis to do.

    So why should I be frustrated with a man who cannot make me cum?

    Let me tell the vast majority of guys I have slept with have been in the under 7" category, and as I have gotten older I simply do not return to someone that does not satisfy me. If average size men have a problem with this than so be it, but I would much rather be with a guy who can satisfy me.

    So like big guy says if my breasts are not big enough for you, go find what you want, there are lots of people in this world I am sure you will be able to find one that is a good match.

    I would also like to say that most women I know do not worry very much about penis size, most climax clitoral and the size is of no issue and I also know several women that men over 7" hit their cervix and make sex very uncomfortable for them. They prefer 5-6" guys.

    Everybody is different and nobody should really take offense.
     
  7. Lordpendragon

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    Let me ask you, if I may.

    Would you want to stay with a woman if you found her vagina to be so slack for your penis, that you derived no pleasure from penetrative sex with her?

    It would be easier if we referred to the 5 - 7 inch range penis as normal.
     
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    I don't think those issues are because of women but the porn industry. Even I with about 8x6 feel small sometimes. That's because I watch porn and hang around here ^^
     
  9. Principessa

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    It's not the size of the boat, it's the motion of the ocean; is a big fat hairy lie!

    The truth is if you have a 50' yacht but can't pull it into port properly you are useless. If you have a rowboat but can only row in circles you are equally useless.

    My point is that if you are small, average, or large cocked you need to know how to work your equipment. Many of the men who are offended by the proclamations of size queens don't know the difference between the vulva and the vagina; and couldn't find a g-spot with both hands and a compass.
     
  10. va_lk_yr_ie

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    Hear, hear.

    Sex is not the be-all-end-all of a relationship - but it's a darn important part of it.
     
  11. B_hungnate

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    Dude if you ask me it seems the media is the one saying size doesn't matter. When I started having sex I was suprised that most women were stoked about my size. You always hear size doesn't matter. For sure I believe for some women it doesn't but if you ask me it's like women say different things in private than to some newspaper or something.
    Oh and the other thing anybody else notice sometimes women talk about size more like to put guys down. It's like their pissed off or something and they think that will get back at some guy who dissed them. Me it doesn't really bother me because I'm pretty big but I've heard women talk about how their ex was too small, but I'm thinking when you were with him you weren't complaining about that. Basically the way I figure it is there's a lot of women where if they're looking for a fling or some fun they really dig a big guy, then if they're looking for a guy to marry or something maybe they still like big but they're looking at a lot of other stuff too. That's just my take on it.
     
  12. necro86171

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    Thanks for the responses guys,

    With all due respect, I think the point of my post is being misunderstood a bit....

    I understand completley why some women are sizequeens, and I fully respect their choice. I was simply trying to explain why some men tend to feel insecure about the issue when it is brought up, as I feel that there is a tendency to chalk all male insecurity up to total irrationality, rather than examining its true causes. My intent was not to set up a pity part for average sized men, merely to say that there are legitimate reasons behind male insecurities as well.

    And for the record I completley sympathize with the way women are constantly evaluated as well...
     
  13. dolfette

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    you promised not to tell people.
     
  14. transformer_99

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    Analogy: Hey, I never walked away from a good steak, lobster, shrimp, fish or whatever because it wasn't the biggest piece of meat on the plate. I'd expect women do the same when it comes down to penis size ?

    Same goes for men when they have an opportunity to sample the "goodies" when a woman offers it up. Take love where you can get it these days.
     
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