After reading the most recent posts on this thread, I'd like to offer yet
another woman's perspective.
I think the thing that is being overlooked, especially in the latest posts, is how different women are from each other. There is no formula for giving great head to a woman. Rather, it is a
set of skills that the best oral lovers have, and they utilize whichever techniques are the best
for the woman they are with.
The best way to know which skills to use, when, and in what combination, is to
pay attention to the woman's reactions! If she is confident and knows her preferences, she will make it very clear what pleases her and what doesn't. However, if she is too shy to state what she wants,
ask her! "Do you like this?" and "How about this" are really good questions, and the answers will serve you much better than following a set formula based on one woman's (or one man's!)
advice.
Some women are too sensitive to have it licked directly, especially before getting completely warmed up. When in doubt, lick everywhere except her clit until she panting for it.
I, personally, am
not too sensitive for direct clit licking. Not at all.
If you spent too much time licking me everywhere
but where I really want it, I would tell you immediately, "Lick my clit," and probably give you further direction as to
how I would like it to be licked. But many women are not so communicative. They might conclude that you don't know what you're doing. Ask, or try licking her clit gently. Use her response to decide whether to stay there or back off.
A woman's clit has the same number of nerve endings as your cock so imagine how sensitve she might be.
The most important word in this sentence is "might." She might
not be that sensitive, and may become frustrated with you for understimulating her. I do think, though, that it's best to
start gently.
The ladies here may be able to suggest some good ideas but I have found that if you can purse your lips air tight around her clit and GENTLY suck while LIGHTLY licking her clit, good stuff happens.
Maybe, maybe not. Depends on the timing and the skill of the clit-sucker (sorry, couldn't think of a better term). Although I find the above quite pleasurable, it isn't likely to send me over the edge.
But don't try this until she is really squirming from your other ministrations. You might not get to this stage for 10 or 15 minutes. Its a good stage tho to reach.
Actually, I like it a lot earlier. Probably within the first few minutes. But I usually reach orgasm in less than ten (provided my G-spot is also being stimulated). Incidentally, G-spot stimulation is a
really, really good thing to at least try while going down on a woman. In my case, it induces orgasm much more quickly and also vastly improves the quality and intensity of the climax.
Interesting that the men have given the best advice on this topic so far.
Not really. Men have given some good advice, but have really only scratched the surface, addressing only the likes/dislikes of
some women.
OK then, if you want specifics, then yes, direct clitoral stimulation with a tongue is not normally a turn on for me. For some reason, done at the wrong time, it makes me feel like I want to pee! When I'm getting close to orgasm it's good but most guys go straight for it and you end up wriggling your hips to try and move him away from it.
Better to gently lick everything around it, as well as the entrance, and let her build up before trying to suck it directly into your mouth.
This is a perfect example. AmyGirl and I are
very different from each other. And I'm sure there are many variations in between our two extremes.
See. Was that so hard? It's like you were giving up the keys to the kingdom or something. Here's another question. Guys single orgasms last like 6 seconds women's single orgasm can last as long as 26 seconds (so I've read)
Yes. My orgasms generally last for around 30 seconds. Every once in a while, I'll have a "surprise" orgasm that occurs with no warning whatsoever, and they are much shorter and less intense. But they're the exception rather than the rule.
Most times, when I've been stimulated well and the orgasm has had some time to "build," it will be quite powerful and long-lasting.
