Just thought I would throw this problem out there. So there's this guy, let's call him John (his real name will be kept private for privacy's sake.) So John and I were Facebook buddies for about a year before we finally met a couple of weeks ago. So far, he's perfect for me. He's a really nice guy...he's passionate about what he does- he is politically astute (and perhaps a little more to the left than I am, but variety is the spice of life). He's tall (6'2"), cute, and a total top. Pretty much everything I look for in a man. But while we were relaxing and watching TV last night at his place, the doorbell rang. At 9 o'clock at night. He got served papers from his credit card company for over $10,000...because apparently he hasnt paid squat on it for a long time. I knew he had lost his job a year ago, and that he was starting his own business. He also hasnt paid anything on the mortgage to his condo since he lost his job. My POV is that he's financially irresponsible- there's no VISUAL indication that he's in trouble. He hasn't really radically changed his spending habits from what I can see. We had a long talk about this, and I guess I've decided to try and stick it out and see what happens. My question to you guys would be- having only dated this guy for a couple of weeks, what would YOU do? I realize times are tough right now, but something about this whole thing strikes me as odd, namely, that he continues to go out and drink and spend unnecessary money, when I would have sat down and seen what I could do to hold off the banks and credit cards.