ED at 22

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  1. abcd1

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    Ok this is a long story but I really need to tell someone and get some opinions so thanks for bearing with me.

    First of all I am a 22 year old straight male, 6'2" 195 lbs., don't smoke, work out consistently, high testosterone (I've been tested) and eat healthily (more or less). I have never been ridiculously potent (long recovery time, not a lot of sperm), but I had always been able to at least get it up (before this problem). About a year and a half ago, my girlfriend at college was coming back from a long weekend away so we hadn't had sex for about 5 days. I really wanted her, couldn't wait for her to get back, but when the time came, for whatever reason it just wouldn't work. I was understandably upset, as this was the first time this had happened without a good reason (I should mention it had also happened the first time I ever hooked up with my two girlfriends to that point, which I attributed to performance anxiety and which worked itself out quickly both times), but I wasn't devastated by any means. I chalked it up to a fluke, but from that point on, it became very difficult to achieve an erection with her. There were no significant changes or stresses in my life, so I kind of figured that I wasn't really attracted to her anymore, which was partially true anyway. Anyway, we broke up, but the same exact thing happened with the next girl I hooked up (for about 2 weeks) - I could get partially hard but not hard enough or for enough time for penetration, and sometimes I wouldn't get hard whatsoever. At this point this was really getting to me, so I went to my doctor who prescribed Cialis. That worked wonders - I got better erections, better recovery time, and was more confident in bed than I had ever felt before. I got a new girlfriend with whom I almost NEVER had the old recurring problem, and I figured it was behind me now that I had Cialis. Well, I recently broke up with that girl (about 2 months ago) and about a month ago started hooking up with another girl. We started pretty slowly, but when it was time to get in bed, I couldn't get it up... and I had popped a 20 mg Cialis a few hours before just to make sure (before that I could get a good erection off a 5 mg). Once again, I got a semi for about 5 minutes but when it came down to it it was totally gone.

    Here's the weird thing: for about a week after that I had the same problem with her, but then for 3 days (still using the Cialis of course), I was able to get ROCK hard, go forever, and go more often. I had actually just began to take GNC Maca Men or whatever, and attributed it to that. I told myself it had just performance anxiety again, and all my confidence was restored. Unbelievably though, the problem has come back again, about a week ago, and has persisted since. Sometimes I can get it up enough for sex - with a 20 mg Cialis, 15 minutes of foreplay, a blowjob to get it hard, and quick penetration to make sure it doesn't go down - but with Cialis I used to be able to get hard and stay hard after about a minute or less of heavy making out.

    I have been to the GP consistently, a urologist twice, and am going to a specialist next week for (hopefully) a Doppler test. I switched to Levitra last night, but that was just as ineffective. I really am baffled as to why this is happening, particularly why Cialis simply stopped working when it used to work SO well why I had that little 3-day island when it worked just as well as it used to. By the way, I can get hard to porn but I can't get it up by myself without visual aid. I have pretty much stopped looking at porn because I thought that could've been a problem, but it hasn't helped. Also I don't ever get morning wood unless I had a Cialis the night before. I should mention I am a very confident guy in almost every area, but this is really starting to take its toll. If any of you guys has any ideas, suggestions, anything, I would love to hear them. Thanks...
     
  2. nevergiveup

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    Is it possible that you gained a level of tolerance to the Cialis and you need to be rotating medications in order to have sex so often?

    You really should look into less chemical means for helping you solve this problem.
    I will say it is my opinion that this country uses entirely too many prescription drugs and most of us don't know a damn thing about the compounds in those little pills you pop. But we rely on them anyway. I recommend you try serious meditation and/or trance, PC exercises (like thousands of them!), dietary factors, strengthening masturbation, and maybe even some psychoanalysis or therapy (Do not underestimate the power of the mind.)

    I don't mean to imply that there is something terribly wrong with you, just that you have been popping high doses of pills and that isn't working. Maybe it's time to try something else... or everything else... everything in moderation right?
     
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    I thought that might have been a possibility too, but when I suggested it to my urologist he said that becoming immune to a drug like Cialis is very rare. I do PC exercises and eat healthily - trust me I'd love to find a non-prescription solution but I just am not sure what that might be.
     
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    damn guy...hate to hear of such problem at your age 22....using ED drugs so young...trust your doctors...keep the faith...see a specialist....what happens when you watch hot porn?? normally helps maintain..men are visual..good luck, hope you can beat it...really...lube it and beat it...
     
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    You should perhaps consider the possibility that your problems are more psychological than physical. An erection is generally totally dependent upon your arousal, and arousal is centered in the brain, your largest sex organ. This would account for the irregularity of the effectiveness of Cialisis or any other drug.

    The longer you wait to explore this alternative, the more stressed out you will become.
     
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    I agree, although I'm not sure how to go about exploring this alternative. Is a psychiatrist the only viable option?
     
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    Hey Ed, there are many factors that could be contibuting to your erection problem besides mental thinking: Are you taking any other medications besides Cialis for other things (ie hairloss, allergies, sleeping pills)? Have your hormones checked, and also have your thyroid gland checked. You could also be masturbating way too much (2x a day or more). There is also one other thing about the mind and that it likes to always get something better or bigger the next time aound, like drugs, so you might want to reconsider laying off the porn. I hope you find the problem and solve it. :smile:
     
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    Hey bb,

    Thanks for your suggestions. I am not taking any medication whatsoever, never masturbate more than once a day, and haven't watched porn in 2 weeks (although I used to watch it all the time). I really hope I'm not a hopeless case....
     
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    abcd1,

    I have read the other comments on here and they are really good advice. Start writing down everything from your past that turned you on ie... porn, magz, to how you first started masturbating. Write down your fantasies, no matter what or how just be truthful. You will find the mind can play tricks on us on how we learned things. Maybe you think that what you have learned in your childhood was dirty or really freaky. But trust me the world has it's own freaky way of doing things. Sometimes when you are with a female the way see them is not the way the we have seen in porn or how we have visualized the way a woman or girl should be. Lastly, check your preference in your sexuality, I am not saying you are straight or gay but sometimes alot of young men develop ED from not realizing there sexuality. Again, I say I am not determining your sexuality.
    I believe you are going through a phase and you will bounce back.
    This is just my opinion.
     
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    Hey, sorry to read about this. It sucks. It's my understanding that a pretty good test for whether ED is physicial or psychological is whether you have erections while sleeping. If not, that might tilt things toward a medical problem. An easy way of testing whether you get erections while sleeping is to make a ring of postage stamps and put it snugly (NOT TIGHTLY) around your penis before going to bed. An erection will break the loop at the perforations. If it's there in the morning, that would be really useful information for your doctor.
    Dave
     
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    Good point Dave.

    Having ED at 22 isn't rare. It's a common misconception that it is rare.

    Cialis and Levitra are powerful drugs that shouldnt be taken lightly. But they require stimulation of some sort.
    If your mind isn't totally into the task, you won't achieve an erection no matter how much meds you pop. And DONT overdose on that shit again. You could have a heart failure right on the spot. Talk about a dead lay.

    If you can achieve an erection but not always, it sounds more psychological to me.
    Mabee these women your dating aren't quite your bag? Mabee there's something more you are looking for.

    Is it a woman thats a bit more frisky in bed? Something that is turning you Off that she is doing?
    What about giving guys a try? Mabee you really want a woman to be close to, however the sex of a man is what really pushes your buttons. (This has happened quite a bit, and theres nothing wrong with it)

    You've got Youth on your side. Use it to your advantage. Don't break hearts, but rather be true to yourself and others in your quest to find out what turns you on, and what your comfortable with.
     
  12. abcd1

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    Thanks Dave, I will give that a try tonight.

    Ritker - that is an interesting idea. The last girl I was with was VERY freaky; the girl I'm currently with is more reserved, but I really like her and am very turned on by her. I really can't imagine that this is being caused by that transition, however... Also I am definitely straight, I have no doubts about that.
     
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    if this problem is psychological does anyone have any tips/advice on how to get rid of performance anxiety? yesterday i was talking on the phone with my ex and i got hard as soon as she mentioned that she had been watching some of the videos we had made.. so i really don't think it is completely physical. however last night i had trouble getting hard again with the new girl. i am very comfortable around her and i try to relax when getting intimate, but i just can't stop thinking about how hard i am at all times. how can i relax??
     
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    you probably don't want to see a psychiatrist since their specialty is in medications for depression and mania. Persons trained in therapy may be a psychologist, therapist, or licensed social worker, among other titles. you want someone who is well versed in sex therapy. if it worth it? for me, it was. if you are in college, check with the student health center to see if they have such a person on staff or can refer you to. otherwise, your MD should be able to do so.
     
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    has anyone else this young had this problem? please share your experiences.. i don't know what is wrong with me and i fear i'm on the brink of sinking into a deep depression... i don't want to live with this the rest of my life ...
     
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    I'm 20 and have lately noted that my erections are getting weaker and last less time than they used to, to the point of not being able to get an erection at all with some girls, but in my case it is caused by the huge stress and lack of sleep due to my studies, or at least that's what I want to think. It also depends on the period, some times I have to jack off twice a day for a couple of weeks just to get it down and then I don't even remember I have a dick for a month...

    I really hope you get through it as I know how devastating this is, especially on a young male with a healthy sex-life. Will check this thread to see how you do. Good luck!!
     
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    does anyone know anything about the administration of Alpostadil in gel form? I have read about it online but I don't know if it has been approved by the FDA yet
     
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    I battled this problem at 22-23, I had two different girlfriends in college and I had erection difficulties with both. I started to get it under control twards the end of my last relationship, its a really rocky thing not being able to maintain an erection. Luckily the second gf understood and stood by me... until she showed her true side, but thats a whole other story.


    I think my problem was that I watched entirely to much porn growing up, so it was hard to keep my turned on during sex. I had to find ways to keep myself turned on. I would finger her asshole durring sex, she hated it at first, but she loved it by the end because it kept me "up".

    I need to stop watching porn and masturbating everyday, thats hard to do tho! My star player wants attention!
     
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    abcd1
    For some reason, when I posted this before, it didn't display. Something you could try is setting up a rule of no intercourse for a set amount of time, such as a week or two. Focus instead on sensual pleasure. Trade massages, do foot rubs, lick cool-whip off each other's tummies..... Whatever, just nothing that counts as intercourse or calls for an erection. This can take the presssure off and give you time to get your mutual sexuality wired up together. Hey, it might be worth a try. It's a standard sex therapy technique.
    Dave
     
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    Hi!

    I have also suffered with ED problems, between the age of 18-22, after years of constant worry about it I finally went to see a doctor about it and got nowhere.

    I found help through a charity in the UK called relate, they put me in contact with a Psycho-sexual consellor who gave me a series of different exercises to do, these exercises explored different sensations and what got me turned on, they also gave me confidence and freed up the anxiety I had.

    If relate (or a similar charity) exists in the US I would really recommed you give them a call. (www.relate.org.uk)

    Hope this is some help to you.
     
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