ED problems and complete loss of libido?

[Dave NoCal]

Welbutrin is good stuff. Not only is it an effective antidepresant but studies have shown it to have a side effect of increasing libido and erections, even in men who aren't depressed. The only contraindication I know of is a history of seizures.
Dave

 

[CALAMBO]

all good info in this post...glad to hear so many very smart members...i feel so sorry form the writers that suffer from ED...i may have the occational failure of erection and attribute to drinking too much...did not realize so many men suffer this problem...seek help...get that fella strong and firm...good luck to you all

 

[zundervall]

I had a similar issue awhile ago (no libido), so I had several blood tests done, and found my testosterone level fairly low (less than 140 where 250 is considered normal). I went on a testosterone regimen, and boy (no - MAN), it made a big difference. I still don't shoot like I was 18 but the bone is back! I'd almost forgotten how much I like getting stiff easily. It improves your overall mood too.

Thing is I think my hairline is starting to recede. Oh well, if that's the tradeoff I'll take it!

 

[abcd1]

Out of curiosity, what exactly does a Doppler test determine? And if the results are "bad," what can be done about them?

 

[Hoss1975]

For an update....

I've taken the advice here and have started seeing a counselor regarding my divorce and anxiety related to my ED. It got a bit weird. She wanted to know all my sexual history, in detail.. very much detailed. I really didn't have a problem talking about it, but it was weird in the fact that she wasn't asking out of curiosity for herself or that she was aroused from it. So, she inquired about how often I masturbate, and I told her usually 2 - 4 times a day, and sometimes as much as 6 -7 times a day if I was really in the mood for it. She also inquired about how much porn I watch or if I ever masturbated without it. Her diagnosis was that I was a sex addict and I should abstain from sex and masturbation and all porn for 90 days. I looked at her like she was insane, and politely told her.. "umm.. no". Personally I think she's sexually repressed to go that long without an orgasm, but that's another issue. She did mention that I could have damaged my penis somehow with as much masturbating as I've done, something I don't think I've done, but it's possible I suppose.

I spoke with my gf about this little issue and the funny thing is, when she's with me I usually have no problem getting hard. Infact I've played on xtube before and couldn't get hard and as soon as she comes through the door and I slide my finger through her drenched slit, I'm instantly aroused and getting hard. She usually stays with me during the weekend (lives far away) and I rarely if ever masturbate on my own during that time.

This last weekend, she left on Sunday and we had had sex that morning. I hadn't seen any porn since Thursday or masturbated at all. As soon as she left, I came back upstairs and got on the computer and browsed through xtube and got on paltalk. I was just playing around, not really thinking much about getting hard when I found some interesting vids on xtube and wanted to whack off. Instantly when I tried to start jacking off however, I was limp.. and I do mean LIMP! It felt like the entire texture of my penis had changed. The skin of my shaft was incredibly wrinkly almost as though there wasn't a penis inside, just loose skin. I kept browsing videos till I started to feel a bit of a stirring down below and I was starting to get hard when a girl started msging me on paltalk wanting to c2c with me. I instantly got limp and couldn't get hard to save my life. Even with a cute college gal wanting to play with me I was as impotent as an 80 yr old. I made up every excuse why I couldn't play, needless to say, she hasn't msged me since. I ended up straining to cum with a semi erection. I could orgasm, but was still rather flacid.

I guess I've isolated the issue down to porn and masturbating at my computer. But this isn't the only time it happens as it'll happen even if I'm in bed and haven't looked at porn for a few days, I'm just dead. For some reason, when I do have this problem I notice I have a large amount of precum... almost too much, and very very watery. I had considered taking some volume pills since I haven't really had a good strong ejaculation for many moons now. But I don't know what kind of an effect that would have.

So I guess my question is, what should I do? I can't go for months on end without looking at porn. That's just... well, no.. checking xtube everyday for new gals creaming all over really gets me off, if I can get it up! My gf seems to think I masturbate so much out of boredom. Even though if I go for a few days or a week without, I have this problem. Anybody have any ideas?

 

[Eisenhower]

Hoss, when you start to masturbate at your computer, do you find yourself getting nervous, maybe even your heart racing a bit and stomach muscles tightening up, as you start worrying why your dick isn't getting hard? If that's the case, I think you're dealing with performance anxiety. I know it sounds absurd, but you can have anxiety even when just masturbating by yourself.

Let me tell you a story ...

I'm 37, myself. About 7 years ago, I had a bout of what's called Peyronie's, where you get an injury to the penis that causes internal scar tissue and your dick bends. Luckily, my case fairly well resolved, but it left me with a head that doesn't get as hard as it used to. My Uro gave me Viagra to help really get great boners and I loved it! I never had to worry about my dick getting softer while giving oral and I could recover and have sex again maybe ten minutes after cumming - I loved it.

Then, I started a serious relationhip with the girl I'm with now. She's hot and loves to have sex. But one day I started thinking, "I wonder if I'm dependant on Viagra now?" So, one day we had an opportunity for some quickie sex and I didn't pop any V. I should also add that I'd masturbated that morning, so I'd already popped once that day. Well, we started fooling around, she started blowing me and nothing! I started to panic, and then panic some more. I had to masturbate pretty hard to get it up and then we had sex. I can tell you, that single event traumatized me. It was so emberassing, it hurt like hell to even think about.

Then you know what ... the Viagra seemed like it wasn't working right anymore. It would take stroking or oral to get hard, whereas before, I'd be hard from hugging. You see where this is going? I believe I was so freaked out by one incident of ED that my brain started overriding even the Viagra. I was freaking out thinking now even Viagra doesn't work!

I made my Uro run a Testosterone test. It came bacl 235, which is very low, yet the Uro (and this is not uncommon) sluffed it off. Many - make that most - doctors don't know a damn thing about male hormones, even some endocrinologists. Men should be in the upper third of the so called "normal" range to truly be healthy - that means a score of anywhere from 500-800 is optimal. You really need to find a male hormorne expert and not take that bullshit that your results are "normal". Most docs think if it's within the normal range, your good. That simply could not be farther from the truth. I myself am going to see a hormone specialist next month, as I want to get my testosterone right, once and for all.

But back to my original point ... performance anxiety is a bitch to kick. I'm still dealing with it a year later. Virtually every time I'm with my girl and we start having sex, if I'm not getting a little hard just from the kissing, etc., I start mentally freaking out ... and then if she starts blowing me and it's not instantly getting hard, I start freaking out some more. Nerves and adrenaline are deadly to an erection.

When I'm worried about my dick and thinking I'm having troubles, I can start masturbating and find I'm nervous, anxious and even tense trying to get it up thinking, "damn, I hope this works right or I'm going to freak out." That's a bone killer.

I would ask you a couple questions: Do you get night time erections and wake-up erections in the morning? If you do, you probably are dealing with performance anxiety, because nocturnal erections are telling you your dick is working fine.

If you don't, or have noticed a drop off in these in recent years, you really need to find a hormone specialist to discuss Testosterone therapy, which might change your life (I hope it will mine).

All these things get interwoven ... a little physical issue get's in our head, then it becomes a mental thing too ...

I can't tell you how to get past the anxiety, as I'm wrestling with that myself, but you should definitely get your hormones checked by an expert. This may be the key, my friend.

Above all, good luck,
Eisenhower

 

[Ohioguy]

I had a similar ED problem. I found that things got worse. I started having trouble breathing. I felt as though I was having a rapid heart beat. I went to the cardiologist. I needed a stent in my heart. Once that was placed in my heart the blood started going back into my dick. No problems now. There can be all kinds of medical reasons. Look for other problems. I hope you don't have any and that you find the right partner that gets things going for you again.

 

[B_Nick4444]

you seem to be aware of the cause, since you state, at the outset, the marital problems -- in a word, psychological

hence, the resolution is going to be psychological

some other guys I know, around your age, resolved those issues by taking up meditation (yoga, if you will) coupled with relaxation techniques and visualization .. the idea and rationalization is the level of concentration you need to achieve self-modification

but be sure you've got the organic bases covered: nutrition and physical conditioning

vitamin E, zinc, selenium, [FONT=arial,helvetica][SIZE=-1]omega 3 and omega 6 essential fatty acids[/SIZE][/FONT]

if I do squats in the evening, the next morning's wood will be persistent

try this or a similar approach -- good luck!

 

[Hoss1975]

Well, since this was my thread I started I decided to come back to it to ask a question. I've been fighting this issue for some time now. The counselor I was seeing wanted me to stop masturbating, having sex and looking at porn for 6 straight months. I told her politely no, and that I was free to orgasm as much as I wanted uninhibited from the chains society has placed on sexuality. But anyways, here's a symptom I wanted to inquire with the forum about.

Last night I found myself watching tv laying on my side, thinking about a gal I was watching online. I started getting hard just thinking about her. I found myself with a rock hard boner and was enjoying it, but not messing around with it. Suddenly, without warning and for no reason I can possibly think of just went limp. The horniness I felt was still there but my dick felt like somebody had opened the valve up and all the blood just rushed out of it. Literally within 5 seconds my dick was as limp as humanly possible and still to function so I could piss. It felt like even the insides of my dick had drained into nothingness and I was left with dangling flesh. This has happened to me a few times before, while watching porn or something if I take my hand off my dick it'll just instantly start going down. Perhaps masturbating too much? I hope not, I love my orgasms. Anyways, I was considering getting a cholesteral check to see if that would have anything to do with it. Thoughts?