it's like... if someone's drink was spiked, it would be arseholish to be angry at them for being drunk. a little support and understanding can really help.We don't ask for the hormonal frenzy and most of us don't know how to handle it,
it's like... if someone's drink was spiked, it would be arseholish to be angry at them for being drunk. a little support and understanding can really help.We don't ask for the hormonal frenzy and most of us don't know how to handle it,
it's like... if someone's drink was spiked, it would be arseholish to be angry at them for being drunk. a little support and understanding can really help.
not unless you're pregnant :tongue:does this mean I can blame someone for spiking my hormones?
not unless you're pregnant :tongue:
it's like... if someone's drink was spiked, it would be arseholish to be angry at them for being drunk. a little support and understanding can really help.
it's like... if someone's drink was spiked, it would be arseholish to be angry at them for being drunk. a little support and understanding can really help.
please quote the posts where abuse has been excused.I had great hopes for this thread, but it's turning into a list of excuses. Abuse is abuse, no matter where it starts.
i know when i have pms.I agree with this.
The effect of hormones on temperament etc can be all-consuming...kind of like when you wonder if a crazy person knows they are crazy. Personally, I don't know and I only ever realise it with hindsight. It does freak me out tbh.
I can never tell when I have PMS attitude because, at the time, I feel completely normal, sane, reasonable, etc - it is everyone else that is being difficult and that is my 'reality' at the time because I don't feel different inside my own head. I never knowingly have it at the time or recognise it creeping up on me. It's only a couple of days later that I can look back and see it for what it was. The same thing will happen next month though.
There are no excuses for inappropriate behavior. There is no break for hormones. True, they are a part of what we are. Does testosterone play a role in my behaviour? Yes. There are good and bad aspects to that. If I give in to my worst urges and hurt someone, then I have no right to hide behind my balls and try to blame them. My hormone levels fluctuate but I'm always able to tell the difference between a rational thought and an irrational one, and to govern myself accordingly.
I had great hopes for this thread, but it's turning into a list of excuses. Abuse is abuse, no matter where it starts.
i know when i have pms.
same as i know when i'm drunk.
i'll make a point of spending more time alone in order to prevent me snapping at my family. i'll remind myself that i'm hormonal a dozen times a day. i get mightily offended by people seeing my acknowledgement of hormonal influences on my mood as excuses for behaving in a way which i go to great lengths not to.
for me there's a physical knotty frustration. i feel it in my lower throat & stomach. unless i'm in an exceptionally high stress situation, i just don't get it when i've not got pms.I wish I knew.
Why bother?i know when i have pms.
same as i know when i'm drunk.
i'll make a point of spending more time alone in order to prevent me snapping at my family. i'll remind myself that i'm hormonal a dozen times a day. i get mightily offended by people seeing my acknowledgement of hormonal influences on my mood as excuses for behaving in a way which i go to great lengths not to.
for me there's a physical knotty frustration. i feel it in my lower throat & stomach. unless i'm in an exceptionally high stress situation, i just don't get it when i've not got pms.
i was like that as a teen. puberty is a rough ride.I am irregular so I don't even know to expect it at a certain time of the month and I feel... normal. At the time. It's only when I am coming out the other side that I think "shiiiiiiit, it was me"
i was like that as a teen. puberty is a rough ride.
it took a while to figure out what of it was really me.