Ego trippin

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  1. D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah

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    On a scale of 1-10 how big of an ego do you think you have. Is it justified, out of control or do you get comments from people about how 'into yourself' you are?


    I ask out of curiosity because i was out with a friend on the weekend and was suprised about the amount of ego she has. She is an attractive girl but is convinced majority of men are looking at her and we even had to search through 3 different restaurants before we found one to eat at because she thought at he first 2 there were to many men looking at her and she was uncomfortable.

    Personally i put mine at maybe a 3, or 5 on a good day
     
  2. dong20

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    Maybe she's confusing ego with vanity, and perhaps a touch of self delusion!

    Ego is commonly confused with self confidence, they're related but not co-dependent. For example, in the case of your friend, her 'ego' may have convinced her she was really the object of these guy's attention, but her discomfort with that situation (real, or imagined) suggests confidence issues in conflict with that. Alternatively perhaps she really wanted to swap resturants because she felt not enough men were looking, but her ego wouldn't permit her to admit that to you (or even herself) that again would suggest a lack of confidence. Alternatively, perhaps she just wanted a quiet lunch with her friend.

    People are funny critters, aren't they.

    I am very confident in myself, but not at all egocentric, unless I don't get my own way, naturally. I rarely if even get comments that I'm 'into myself' but sometimes get comments that I'm relaxed and confident in my own skin, that I don't feel any need to prove myself to others. :tongue:
     
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    I think ego and self confidence are often confused, I think of someone with a big ego as someone who's simply big headed for no good reason, self confidence is based on life experience.
     
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    Let go my ego! :smile:
     
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    I have the opposite problem to your friend. I am usually convinced that men are NOT looking at me, and wish they would! When I go out, I try to dress in my most flattering clothes and try to get men to notice me. Ironically, the last time a guy noticed me I was wearing comfortable but not really all that flattering clothes! I figured I was just going to the grocery store... but a guy shopping there too recognized me from the poker tournament we'd both been in two days before! So maybe I do get noticed after all! :smile: I love attention (if it's positive, that is... I made a comment on another thread about negative attention, specifically that I'd be devastated if I was getting written up in the tabloids the way Britney Spears, etc. are...)

    Not much ego here, and not a lot of self confidence either, although I am trying to improve the self confidence, at least.
     
  6. B_Swimming Lad

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    I don't really get the concept of an ego.

    I'm happy cus I'm successful in all my sports, decent academic results, fit and healthy, alright to look at, gorgeous girlfriend. But I don't know that them things make up my ego??
     
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    I'm happy with who I am and where I am in life for the most part. I'm very much a realist, aware of my strengths and weaknesses, appropriately confident or cautious depending on the situation. I feel that I am not categorically better nor worse than anyone else. I don't feel that my acknowledgment of my strengths equals egoism, and I don't feel that my acknowledgment of my weaknesses equals low self-esteem. Both to my mind represent a realistic assessment of who I am.
     
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    I used to be like a 7 or so when I was a young man (18-25) but now I am about a 3 with NO self confidence anymore... it's an illusion anyway. I'd rather be humble and kind.
     
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    On any given day my id runs anywhere from 1-10 as does my superego, so if I describe ego as it was originally intended it runs fairly high since i'm always striving for balance in my life. The modern day usage? My ego and self confidence vary depending on a number of factors and current emotional and psychological health.

    For example, yesterday was the most frustrating day i'd had in some time. My confidence level wasn't too high. I slept well last night and was able to calmly sort things through in my mind so today is a different story. I think that's typical for most people. My ego sometimes gets out of hand if i'm on a soap box about something so I try to monitor my reaction to a given situation, which is probably not unusual for many either.
     
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    it depends on the context. when i'm doing my sport and things are going well, i can pretty full of myself. in those times, people for the most part don't seem to mind, perhaps because i share a lot about what i'm doing and offer suggestions on how they can improve their performances.

    but whenever i've come close to being cocky or even self-confident in "real" life, the world has seen fit to slap me right back down, and HARD. i wish i'd had some cocky times as a younger man.
     
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    about 5 moderate i dont believe that iam better than other people but like most people sometimes i give me more importance than others in some situations.
     
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    Some people let their egos run away with them, I've noticed a few people on here referring to having fans - we all get our fair share of pm's and compliments but it's a mistake to start reading anything into them. I went in the chat room once and a newcomer to the room pm'd me saying he felt a little awestruck, he felt like he was meeting a porn star - I presume he felt that because he'd seen my photos on the site repeatedly, seen what I said on the forums so in a way possibly felt like he knew me in some way yet didn't - pretty much the situation people share with celebrities. But it's a site, we're all more or less on an equal footing and it really is silly to get carried away with what people say in pm's :) An ego that gets overblown in ways similar to this isn't the same as confidence.
     
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    Massive. I have a massive ego. I can give you numbers to call and verify.
     
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    ONE. Since you aren't allowing zero's or negative numbers...
     
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    Less than Arliss' and more than Viking's.
     
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