eharmony

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  1. mattbuddy

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    Has anyone tried this site before? One of my friends have suggested it before and say it works, but I don't know anyone who has actually used it. So, for those of you who have, how'd it go or how is it going so far? :confused:
     
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    A friend of mine did this. It's a christian site mostly I hear tho think they got sued in the last yr and a half. Fun commercials tho...if you like this kinda site.
     
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    I used it for st8 dating a few years ago...it takes longer, but you generally do find people who you match with better.
     
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    Yea, when I was filling out my profile thing, they would ask so many questions about religion and how important it is etc.

    It's pretty expensive...in their ads they always say its free for some amount of time. :mad:
     
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    I've used it in the past. Have to agree with it being kinda pricey. They send you your "matches', you can't surf their site like yahoo or match.com
    If you're not a member you can't see the matches profile picture, you can communicate with them through their "guided communication" process though. But once you have gone through all of the steps there, you still need to be a member to talk directly with them, so don't waste your time unless you're willing to be a member.
    I did meet someone on there, we dated for 7 months but ended up breaking up, it was a long distance thing, should have known better.
    Good luck if thats the way you want to go.
     
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    Now is my chance to tell my eharmony story. I had a friend who was complaining that she and most of her other black female friends were really having a hard time on most of the dating sites. This made me think back to my initial voyage into the world of E harmony. I had heard about it when they first started and thought what would the harm be in trying it out. I filled out the entire and quite extensive questionaire and in racial designation I put African American. For months they were apologetic and kept telling me they were working on it. (This was when they wanted to try it without pictures). I got two matches and they were not acceptable.
    So... I decided to conduct an experiment. I filled out the questionaire identically in all but racial designation, in that space I put other. I had done this to see if the racial designation had anything to do with the success rate in being matched. Not only did I all of a sudden receive a box full of matches but most of them were professional men including men of color.
    The majority however were white professional males. Seeing this I went through the entire vetting process and when asked was there anything else I wanted to tell the prospective matches about myself I said that though of multi ethnic heritage one of those mixtures was African American. Not wanting to shut me down blatantly most of the matches just sat in my box after much vigorous interaction prior to my revelation. Knowing they didnt want to be the bad guy I put all freak outs in my permanently suspended category.
    When I started corresponding with one of the African American male matches I talked with him for quite a while before revealing myself. He had sent out some very pointed feelers to find out my persuasion, (This was prior to his seeing my picture) and finally I decided to let him off the hook and inform him that yes I was a woman of partial African American descent. He cracked up laughing. Then I explained my experiment to him and he felt really bad about it. When he received my picture he said he was pleasantly surprised. I let that go...

    All this is to say that E Harmony though wonderful for many individuals can also serve as a litmus test for some of our more basic and biased selection criteria. I had hoped to be proven wrong, but unfortunately I was proven very right in my presuppositions about the online dating phenom as a whole.
     
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    Sorry to be so dense, but are you saying E Harmony was screening the matches or that the guys (including men of color) were not responding to African American female profiles?

    E Harmony doesn't accept gays either.
     
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    Hi,

    No, I am not saying that Eharmony does not respond to African American female profiles. The way in which Eharmony works is that the prospective matchee states his or her preferences. What I am saying is that by merely changing my status from African American female to Other female (without showing my picture) I went from being matched to 2 individuals in 8 months to pages filled with professional men of all races and descriptions. What I am saying is that it seems that for whatever reason when given a choice there must be a small percentage of men who ask for or include African American women in their pool of what they consider acceptable candidates sight unseen. This included a number of African American men. It did not show a very pretty picture to me.
     
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    Wow! I'm just amazed. That's a freelance article right there. Write it and shop it around naughty because it's a great, if disturbing, story.
     
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