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You didn't explain if your mother gave you a choice of whether you wanted her to view your exam. A doctor should ask the teen, not the mother if he wishes to have the exam done in private. Also there are ways to hide the genital area of the male while doing the exam so that another person in the room does not see the genital area. I understand the mother needed to be present for the questioning process of family history.I was told by the doc then that because I was so much larger below down there, especially over what then what she considered normal for even most adult men, and I was yet still so young,...
she had wondered if I had another problem, possibly with that gland also and was sorting it out one step at a time....and so wanted to check it out
worried that I may have alot more growing yet to do down there....
She also noted that one of my balls had not dropped yet also...
I had a liIttle hair on my balls and base of my cock back then, but it was not a full as it is normal, and I was not yet shaving my balls like I sometimes do now.
The doctor asked me if I shaved it or not, and noted my "no" answer, she asked about my dad's hair and noted that my mom said he was normally hairy down there. In other words... as compared to my penis size she noted that I did not have much hair there yet....
My mom was asked if we had any american indian bloodline in our family while she was there..., as they are generally known to have less body hair usually...
( I am scottish though)
I did not need to shave my face seldom(rarely) until I was 19,
yet at that time I still had a very abnormally large penis and I think she was just looking to see if I was having any other problems.
My getting a erection in front of them cause me so much embarrasement that I wanted to just get dressed and leave and never go back.
My mom drove around for awhile before taking me home just talking about how my erection was a "normal " thing that this happens and that she had obviously seen mine since I was a baby, so please dont feel so embarrrased that she had seen it. and to make me laugh told me of all the times I would get them as a child. (once surprising my grandma with it, and how big it was even then when she changed me. and yes, i pee'd on her too)
Mom fixed my favorite dinner that night and we moved onward...
But on our drive.... She said she for one was very proud of my large penis and told me that I was rare because of it, and gave me the "birds and the bee's" speach and told me how some women will prefer a larger ones because most men dont have them.
Also, we have to consider the father's wish concerning what he wants his son to know about him. The mother telling the doctor is fine. The father may or may not want his son knowing some of that information.
If a father is available or even a grandfather or favorite uncle or family friend, I think would be better than having a mother in the exam room.
The main reason for this is the erection problem. A male doctor would have been more sensitive to a young teen boy than a female doctor would have been. To mothers who changed their sons diapers and saw their erections when they were little, it is no big deal. (Pardon the pun there) but to a young teen, it can be a traumatic event to have a full blown erection in front of a parent.
But, in the end, the decision should be up to the boy. Consider: What if the boy had blown his load in from of his mother? Some guys have done that when touched by another person. that is another reason for the mother to not see the actual exam. Doctors know that some boys will do have an orgasm on the exam table. They should consider this when the doctor gets ready to do the exam.
Knowing that, the doctor should at least give a true opportunity to have some privacy. If the teen boy says, "You don't have to leave Mom, you've seen me lots of times before." That is different. A few guys will welcome an opportunity to show mom what they are packing and this gives them a golden opportunity. The vast majority do not want mom seeing them nude as an early teen. By age 18 the number objecting would be less. Some young teens would not want Dad watching this exam either.
I know it is difficult for parents who just three years ago were walking into the bathroom while their son was taking a bath with the door wide open. But some boys desire for privacy changes dramatically when they enter puberty.
End my quote.
How to cover it up and not seem like your hiding a salami in your pants.
(yes I was once accused of stealing a salami , In this store off campus in college at the Uof M in Ann Arbor, Mich and my date and I went in to get something to munch on after a late class, having a problem deciding what we wanted, we walked the store several times. on the way to the register to pay and leave.... we was held back and accused of shoplifting because I had something large in my pants, she said.( the female store owner)
the only way I could prove that we had not shoplifted anything was to drop my jeans and show it,...I refused at first until finally with the cops there, I was finally ordered to drop my pants and show them all what was in there, or go to jail
When I dropped my pants and showed it....that "it" was my large limp penis was all that was in my pants I was standing in front of the store wndow where others passing by seen it also...
I was very embarrased, my date was tramatized somewhat and it ruined the whole rest of our evening...
(Later I think this fueled my occasional having sex in public places with like minded partners)
I received an apology from the store owner (older female, but kind of sexy) and I was so embarrassed then because I had a girlfriend with me at the time whom I was not sexually doing anything with (yet) and she also was not allowed to leave and was present when this scene happened.
She stared at my limp cock for the first time handcuffed right next to me with such surprise, (and the store owner gasped!)
[/quote]You should have received more than an apology from the store adn the police. You had grounds for a wrongful accusation lawsuit against the story with public humiliation, and duress for both you and the girl friend. And a major compliant to the police department requesting disciplinary action against the police who handled the search. Requiring a man to drop his pants and underwear in a public setting like that is against every rule in the book. I know that they thought this was so much an open and shut case as there was 100 percent chance that you had stolen goods in there. But how could you reveal that without also showing your private areas?
All of this goes against our legal protections under the US Constitution. This is a federal case, not just a state case. I wish you had thrown the book at the store and the police.
It is not right that they got away with unlawful search and public humiliation. That is suppose to be the reason our soldiers have died in all those wars: That is to protect the rights of Americans. Sometimes we have more to fear form our own government than we do from the "enemies" overseas.