Embarrassing comments about big dicks

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by citygirl, Aug 16, 2005.

  1. citygirl

    citygirl Member

    Joined:
    Jul 6, 2005
    Messages:
    168
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    California
    My man and I have been to many family gatherings but since we got engaged we've heard more than our fair share of comments regarding his big dick. His family is more laid back and joke about it since its well known within his family that he's above average. When they met me for the first time I saw some winking going on (at me and him) and it took me a while to realize what it was about. My family (being Taiwanese) is more serious and made a big deal out of it after they noticed his bulge. And it doesn't help that at 6'3" he towers over most of my family. I find it very embarrassing and try to deal with it the best I can. Some of the comments:

    From his side of the family:
    "How does it fit?! You're so small!"
    "Does it hurt? You should try ... "
    "Must feel pretty good eh?!" (from grandpa!)

    From my side:
    "Why you pick someone so tall? Your children will be too big, you'll have to deliver by C-section and that will scar that flat tummy of yours!"
    "What happens if he doesn't fit and you can't have kids? I want grandchildren!" (from my own father who assumed I'm a good girl and will not have sex with him until after marriage like all Asians girls are supposed to do)

    The list goes on and on but I was wondering if this has happened to any other members and how they dealt with it?
     
  2. DC_DEEP

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Apr 13, 2005
    Messages:
    9,029
    Likes Received:
    12
    Has not happened to me, as my endowment is just average, as is my lover's. But it seems the simplest thing to do is just nip the problem in the bud. If someone starts to bring up your sex life, especially someone in either family, just cut them off, and say "that really is not an appropriate topic for conversation." Don't add anything else, just use that one phrase. If you repeat it over and over and over, eventually, they will understand that it is not appropriate conversation, and will leave you alone in that regard.
     
  3. Pene_Negro_Grande

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Dec 27, 2004
    Messages:
    1,100
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Right Next To You
    Wow I couldn't image comments like that coming from family members....I guess I would just tell them that your sex life is none of their business....Your boyfriend must be huge to get noticed so easily....I have a very close friend who is 6'3'' and married to a Taiwanese girl too....
     
  4. Knight

    Knight New Member

    Joined:
    Jan 25, 2005
    Messages:
    892
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Sheffield, England
    I've said this before but at my great uncle's wedding recently, well last month my uncle said (we'd been talking about the hot girls there, and one girl in particular):

    "Why don't you go over and talk to her, just don't scare her away with your python" That was in front of ALL my family, old relatives who I barley knew and my nan, sister etc. Very embarrassing.

    Another time, I was talking about Ali, a woman who has wanted to meet me for ages (we talk on MSN) he said 'yeah I know why she wants to meet you 'n'all, I've seen the evidence' *sigh* lol.

    That's about it, thankfully.
     
  5. B_Hickboy

    B_Hickboy New Member

    Joined:
    Jul 13, 2005
    Messages:
    10,730
    Likes Received:
    5
    Location:
    That twinge in your intestines
    My father still tells people I was a breach birth and had to be "delivered by my penis". :mad:

    So, my whole family and most of his friends have heard. [:(] I have mixed emotions about these types of rumors. 'Course, I am a southerner, and am grateful that my cousins know, in case, well, in case I ever have to look for a date at a family reunion. :evilgrin:
     
  6. taven

    taven Member

    Joined:
    Jan 16, 2005
    Messages:
    174
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    Has not happened to me, as my endowment is just average, as is my lover's. But it seems the simplest thing to do is just nip the problem in the bud. If someone starts to bring up your sex life, especially someone in either family, just cut them off, and say "that really is not an appropriate topic for conversation." Don't add anything else, just use that one phrase. If you repeat it over and over and over, eventually, they will understand that it is not appropriate conversation, and will leave you alone in that regard.
    [post=336181]Quoted post[/post]​
    [/b][/quote]
    Your suggested response is pure class, DC. Wish I were naturally so patient with rude people.
     
  7. Latinoboy9

    Latinoboy9 New Member

    Joined:
    Mar 11, 2005
    Messages:
    762
    Albums:
    2
    Likes Received:
    82
    Location:
    CT
    My dad use to say at night time when we were younger and had company over "I gotta go put the horses in the stable" his meaning of putting us boys to bed...Jose'Latinoboy9
     
  8. rope9839

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jun 23, 2004
    Messages:
    1,457
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    666
    Gender:
    Male

    I have to say that if that many people from my family brought up cock size in a short period, I would be disturbed. It just seems a little weird.

    The closest thing I've had to this wasn't with "real" family, but with the family of our very closest friends. A few years ago our families went together on a cruise. Their grand daughter was 19 and ready to cut loose. Anyway, one day at the pool they had a "Whitest Legs Contest" for the men at the pool and some of our group wanted me to enter. (It was January in Michigan. I was way pale.) During this discussion, the grand daughter blurted out, "He'll have to wait for the Third Leg contest. That's his best chance." I just turned bright red. A handful of the group laughed, but I think a couple of them were uncomfortable. I did manage to say, "not if you're the judge, child."
     
  9. citygirl

    citygirl Member

    Joined:
    Jul 6, 2005
    Messages:
    168
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    California
    Has not happened to me, as my endowment is just average, as is my lover's. But it seems the simplest thing to do is just nip the problem in the bud. If someone starts to bring up your sex life, especially someone in either family, just cut them off, and say "that really is not an appropriate topic for conversation." Don't add anything else, just use that one phrase. If you repeat it over and over and over, eventually, they will understand that it is not appropriate conversation, and will leave you alone in that regard.
    [post=336181]Quoted post[/post]​
    [/b][/quote]

    His family jokes around alot and their way of welcoming/initiating a new person to the family is to find something to embarrass them with. Upon seeing I'm so petite and he's so tall and big, they knew what to do. I take it in stride but its gotten out of hand after a long night where alcohol is involved. Its usually stopped when I say "ok that's enough", turned red from embarrassment, or my man steps in to stop it. Lately I think its gotten better and more civilized.

    My family, on the other hand, is a different story. Asian families are more strict, especially the women. My mom has been giving me a hard time lately because not only did I not marry an Asian but someone who's too tall. But I see her point of view and I think she's warming up to the idea. However she was very upset when I moved in with him recently, that's always a no-no in Asian culture. My dad (and the other men) in the family are less strict; I think my dad just wants me to be able to give him grandkids without an astounding amount of pain to 'daddys little girl'.

    I usually can handle these types of situations without a problem, but when it comes to family and relatives you have be very careful. Can't disrespect the elders!
     
  10. citygirl

    citygirl Member

    Joined:
    Jul 6, 2005
    Messages:
    168
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    California
    I remember reading your thread, that was funny!
     
  11. DC_DEEP

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Apr 13, 2005
    Messages:
    9,029
    Likes Received:
    12
    My mom has been giving me a hard time lately because not only did I not marry an Asian but someone who's too tall. But I see her point of view and I think she's warming up to the idea. However she was very upset when I moved in with him recently, that's always a no-no in Asian culture. My dad (and the other men) in the family are less strict; I think my dad just wants me to be able to give him grandkids without an astounding amount of pain to 'daddys little girl'.

    I usually can handle these types of situations without a problem, but when it comes to family and relatives you have be very careful. Can't disrespect the elders!
    [post=336456]Quoted post[/post]​
    [/b][/quote]
    True enough, citygirl... but it works both ways, they shouldn't disrespect you, either. Conversations about you dating outside your ethnic background is one thing, making sexual comments is another. I still stand by what I said earlier. If their comments make any sexual references, it is still not appropriate, especially from family members, yours or his.
     
  12. D_Elijah_MorganWood

    D_Elijah_MorganWood New Member

    Joined:
    Jul 20, 2005
    Messages:
    5,361
    Likes Received:
    6
    I always feel really uncomfortable with dick size talk among family. My father always brags about how huge he is and it never fails: every time I feel like vomiting.
     
  13. ladsoncub

    ladsoncub New Member

    Joined:
    Jul 30, 2005
    Messages:
    11
    Likes Received:
    0
    True enough, citygirl... but it works both ways, they shouldn't disrespect you, either. Conversations about you dating outside your ethnic background is one thing, making sexual comments is another. I still stand by what I said earlier. If their comments make any sexual references, it is still not appropriate, especially from family members, yours or his.
    [post=336497]Quoted post[/post]​
    [/b][/quote]




    so the movie"Joy Luck club" is somewhat accurate on asian culture? You must have children right away and you are to a sub to your husband. He must plant his seed in you right away.....
     
  14. summertime01

    summertime01 New Member

    Joined:
    Feb 11, 2005
    Messages:
    208
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    1
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    North Carolina
    citygirl,
    My family is not Asian, but is identical to yours (old traditional southern/mtn) & they are extremely nosy about all of my business. I'm so tired of it!
    I have written down the phrase that someone wrote, "that really is not an appropriate topic for conversation." however, my entire family thinks otherwise & is practically glued to their windows to see what goes on over here at my home.
    I am shunned, except by a couple of my mother's sisters. My older kids will not visit me, as my Dad &my ex has them convinced I'm so kind of fluzzy or something.
    My SO is my second partner ever & we attend church together, various other issues i.e. credit, assests, etc. to clear up before marrying one another. And the ex is the one who had affairs, & was engaged to presnet wife, 10 months before our divorce was finalized. I need lots of prayers, this is so tough, But SO & I are very happy & get along wonderfully!
     
  15. naughty

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    May 21, 2004
    Messages:
    12,837
    Likes Received:
    14
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    Workin' up a good pot of mad!
    Summertime,

    I am so sorry to hear that . Ifind it interesting that so many women on this board of a variety of ethnic backgrounds came from relatively strict families yet some how ended up here! LOL! As far as you being blamed for your ex husband's indiscretions I hate to say that is all too common. Quite often the woman (wrongly) gets blamed by the family and often ( ironically) by the women. I too come from a traditional southern family of sorts (as has Dr. Bubbles) and we have all had the admonitions to a "good girl". Hang in there!

    Naughty K.
     
  16. headbang8

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    May 15, 2004
    Messages:
    1,272
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    8
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Munich (BY, DE)
    Yes you can. You can tell them it's your body and your business and they can all go and get fucked. You'll live your life on your own terms, and if they want to see their grandchildren they can button their lips. You might make it clear that you love your boyfriend, and that should be what they're gossiping about, joyously and happily, rather than mean spirited tittilation more suited to cheap porn than family gatherings.

    Sorry, citygirl, but this one is a sore point in my own family. I have zero tolerance for immature parents who treat their grown offspring like children. If they want to be respected like elders, they can behave like adults.

    hb8
     
  17. Tad_Nugent

    Tad_Nugent New Member

    Joined:
    Aug 23, 2004
    Messages:
    57
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Illinois
    How about," boy I wish you were taller so that things evened out"(I'm only 5-5)

    big BURN for us altitude-challenged guys

    ps--but it's nicer when you hook up with a tall one-legs everywhere!
     
  18. italianhunglikeastallion

    italianhunglikeastallion Active Member

    Joined:
    Jul 19, 2004
    Messages:
    72
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    269
    Gender:
    Male
    my dad always bragged about me, being the only boy, he always said he should have named me cavallo appeso which in italian means horse hung
     
  19. dimwit

    dimwit Member

    Joined:
    Oct 2, 2004
    Messages:
    75
    Likes Received:
    1
    When I go to family gatherings everyone always says how big I am, being a 6" 6" 19 year old bodybuilder. I am the biggest of my brothers older and younger and my dad.

    A family member say something like "Wow you realy are a big kid. And Quite a hand shake."
    Then my father would come out and say "Yea the boy is big all over." and if it is a male who I am TRYING to say hello to, he may say "He could knock you out with that thing hes got in his paints" One time he actually grabed my croch and held onto it just to make it clear what he was talking about. At this point I walk away and try to get away from him as I say hello to the rest of the group.

    It is not that I am shy about my family members knowing that I am hung, everyone else knows, but they dont need to find out the moment I walk in the door. And if anyone dont you think I should be the one to let them know? Hell I have been known to wip it out at these gatherings on request of course. What he did my be ok at home with maybe my freinds at the most but please dont touch me infront of family at their front door.

    To add the the insanity that is my father, I found out when he is talking about me to his friends who I have never met he discribes me and adds penis size in to the conversation somehow. I found out when I was out to dinner with my dad brother and one of my dads friends -James- The whole night he was looking at my croch. Just as I finished my meal I said I will be back I got use the bathroom. This guy James jumps up and says o me too and fallows me to the bathroom. I flopped it out and crossed my arms as I always do and looked looked at the painting to my right. When I looked back over to the left where dude was I see him leaning over the devider just staring at my cock. I punched him in the arm "Yo pay attention to what you are doing." As he stumble over hitting the edge of the sink peeing all over the wall and floor I herd him say "Wow it is as big as he said it is."
    "My dad told you didnt he?"
    "Yea, that think is sweet."
    "shut up." and I walked out.
     
  20. BigBen

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jun 29, 2004
    Messages:
    566
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    132
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Sanibel (FL, US)
    In the past I have had comments made to me by relatives, yes. From what I know, all the males in my family, to include cousins, uncles, etc, on both sides of my parents family, are very endowed. It is not a frequent occurance to hear talk, but since it is thought I am, unfortunately, the biggest of the lot, I get most of the comments in a joking, playful, someone trying to be funny sort of way. Again, the comments are rare because I don't see much of my family often, and secondly, when we are together, we do talk about other things like other families do. Most of the few and rare comments I do get these last few years seem to be related to the fact that I have never married and the family consensus is that part of the reason is my size.
     
Draft saved Draft deleted