Embrace your inner asshole | The Mystery Key For anyone who has any questions about the asshole vs nice guy debates and as to how these two approaches affect your life, give this a read. "When you are in touch with your inner asshole you still do nice things but they feel differently to her. It feels like you are giving out of love and appreciation instead of giving out of fear of not giving! She will feel your strong core and know that you deserve respect. She will know that she must treat you well or you won't stick around because you value yourself and won't be in a situation where you aren't being treated right." This excerpt from the article is what drove me to post it since I thought it was worded very eloquently and it actually explains the thought process and reasoning behind it. I will even go as far as saying that in some aspects the article is wrong in describing this behavior as "asshole" behavior. You do not need to be an asshole or a dick or mean in any way to deserve respect. In fact, it should be the other way around. Men who behave respectfully towards women but still reserve respect for themselves first and foremost should be regarded as examples. We tend to think in extremes...like if someone is leaning to be nice then he will be overly nice and get stepped on while the other opposite is disrespectful and mean. I hate the fact that in this forum I see people describe themselves as nice guys in a bad light when it is perfectly normal and according to majority of women, its a good thing to be nice and care for them. Think about it...would you rather be with a an angry woman who yells at you and belittles or someone caring and reciprocating? haha ok...some people might but that's besides the point. Let me just reiterate..It is a GOOD thing to be nice to women but you must first be nice to yourself and respect you for you and no one else. Thanks for reading!:smile: P.S.- I know this has been beaten to death and bringing it up seems redundant and repetitive but it seemed liked a good resource for future reference.