Emotional Affair vs. Physical Affair

which is more unforgivable

  • emotional

    Votes: 34 51.5%
  • physical

    Votes: 16 24.2%
  • really can't decide

    Votes: 16 24.2%

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Definitely an emotional affair. If you can classify something as a physical-only affair, I won't be hurt by it and wouldn't want to deny my partner some fun. Of course, those physical affairs tend to become emotional over time...
 
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I'd say physical, but both are unforgiveable, I have a 1 strike and you're out policy. So if she does either and gets caught then she'll kindly get a "fuck off forever please :)" text on her phone and I'll be ghost.
 

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i'm very emotional and have low self-esteem so both would devastate me. Only reason being is that I always tend to care/give to much for the other person and i would never do that to someone so I wouldn't expect it. maybe this is why I'm still single and alone.
 

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For me the physical can be overwhelmingly more unforgivable. Not that the emotional couldn't be as devastating. I can deal with not clicking emotionally, the unwillingness to to work on things and whatevs. It'll take time but sooner or later i'll heal.

The physical is a whole nava ballgag. Me ego is in a good place so if i can't please in the bed, it's no biggy. If it can't be worked on then it can't be worked on. Physical cheating though, is like forcing me into and restraining me to the passenger seat of a car. Said car's driver is blind folded and we are going down a one way highway at 200 mph with hazard lights on.
 

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I've been cheated on physically 4 times (3F, 1M), all 4 times ended our ... whatever the fuck it was we had. I honestly can't forgive either. Emotional, I can sort of get over if that shit stops but physically you have put me at risk of STDs and STIs and you cannot be trusted.
 

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I replied with an easy answer at first, but I think in actuality it depends a lot on the circumstances.

I put up with a cheating girlfriend in a past relationship (I think there were 4 occasions that she did things with other men, up to and including sleeping with at least one of them). I did eventually break things off with her, but I don't think the cheating was ever the big issue.
 
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Can't imagine an affair that was purely physical.

If there was no emotional attraction then why would I sleep with someone.

Same reason that the poster above you gave as why he couldn't deal with an affair... low self esteem.

I don't think it's super uncommon that someone with low self esteem sleeps around even while in a relationship because they want/need the ego boost that comes with others finding them attractive.
 

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for me, some nasty types out there

Physical,most wouldn't stand a chance, so geuss i am fortunate in that respect

GOOD Topic OP .... as hurtful as it can be for some ..
 

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Both really suck--my wife started with an enotional affair which apparently turned into a physical one. She said the physical part didnt start until after she left me-do you beleive that or do you think she was fucking him before that?
 
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Both really suck--my wife started with an enotional affair which apparently turned into a physical one. She said the physical part didnt start until after she left me-do you beleive that or do you think she was fucking him before that?

Haha, you believe her? I'd kick her to the curb ASAP if I were you.
 

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Haha, you believe her? I'd kick her to the curb ASAP if I were you.

I honesty believe shes full of shit..like most people say too. She had probably been fucking him for quite a while before she left. Little things now that i didnt realize at the time...like how she actually tasted differnt when i would go down and eat her pussy....
 
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I honesty believe shes full of shit..like most people say too. She had probably been fucking him for quite a while before she left. Little things now that i didnt realize at the time...like how she actually tasted differnt when i would go down and eat her pussy....

If I thought my lady was cheating, I wouldn't even hug her, let alone eat her pussy smh.
 

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Definitely physical. I may forgive an emotional affair. If she has sex with another dude, thats 3 strikes in one.

I agree....In my old job, I have had many many chances to cheat, but didn't.....out of respect for our marriage....and believe me, I had some beautiful women come on to me over the years, that would have been a real joy to fuck. But when I found out she was fucking some slimy jerkoff for almost a year I went ballistic. She was risking my life with this slimebag.

...I did a little investigation, I found out who he was, where he lived and his wife and kids names....and told his wife (should have fucked her, but she was fugly)...frankly, I was going to kick the shit out of him, but he died before I could get to him. Fucker...