:wink: . Oh, when it comes to female orgasms, I have no trouble speaking in detail - what a lovely topic :wink: .
It's interesting what you say about it being validating to hear from other women that our orgasms and the causes and reactions aren't unique. I know what you mean. I have a few girlfriends who I tend to discuss sex with in detail, and we've long since determined that my orgasmic response is very different from theirs. It's funny - in the past there was a misconception that women were supposed to cum from intercourse, and nobody really paid much attention to the clit. Now everyone knows women orgasm mostly from clit action and most can't cum from intercourse alone. At one point I was a bit self-conscious because I cum like they used to think women were supposed to

. What I mean is I orgasm from intercourse alone, without direct clit stimulation. Just thrusting. Sure it helps if it's
skilled thrusting from a man who knows how to move, and it also helps if the guy gets me hot first by kissing me all over, fingering me or oral. But I still orgasm from just thrusting. I'm aware this is very rare, but as I've read more and learned more I've come to understand my orgasmic response. I've learned that I have G-spot and cervical orgasms but that I also have clit orgasms through indirect stimulation of my clitoral hood through my labia. That's why I do so love a thick penis - more friction on my labia. As for external clit stimulation, it feels good but the outside of my clit just isn't as sensitive as the inside of it. So the bottom line is I get my easiest and best orgasms from regular 'ol vaginal thrusting, and oral sex gets boring to me after a couple minutes.
My point in all this is to say I too know the validation that comes from understanding my orgasms and knowing there's nothing wrong with me. Now, feeling self-conscious about how I cum seems just silly :wink: .