Emotionally attracted to women...Physically attracted to men..

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Anyone else feel this way? Emotionally I feel like I get fulfillment with women but physically I'm way more attracted to men. Does this just mean I'm gay? I've never had a relationship with a man but at the same time it doesn't fully interest me to have one.

Anyone else in the same boat? Thoughts?
 

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personally I do not think this would qualify you as "gay" but perhaps "bi"... god I love Labels~~~ :rolleyes:

maybe you should try being with a guy once and see where it goes... who knows you might find the same emotional attachment to a particular man as you would a woman... THEN you can consider adding "gay" to your list of "who I am" ...

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Anyone else feel this way? Emotionally I feel like I get fulfillment with women but physically I'm way more attracted to men. Does this just mean I'm gay? I've never had a relationship with a man but at the same time it doesn't fully interest me to have one.

Anyone else in the same boat? Thoughts?

Oh yeah! :yup: You just described how I feel perfectly. You are not alone my friend.
 
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You get to define yourself however you want; that could be a description of a bisexual or gay man, so call yourself whatever feels most right and true to you.

Also, check out the Klein model for sexual orientation, which is a more nuanced (and ultimately more accurate) way of looking at sexuality than "gay/straight/bi". The Klein model acknowledges that people feel different kinds of attraction to different people, and that sexuality is fluid and changes over time. It still gets a little caught up in the male/female dichotomy, but it's a step.
 

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Somewhat like you, I relate emotionally to women - some, anyway - but not at all to men. I feel tender and loving to some of my women but not to any of the men I have sex with. We're all somewhere on a spectrum of sex appeal/emotion, don't worry about where you are or think you are, just be yourself.
 

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Anyone else feel this way? Emotionally I feel like I get fulfillment with women but physically I'm way more attracted to men. Does this just mean I'm gay? I've never had a relationship with a man but at the same time it doesn't fully interest me to have one.

Anyone else in the same boat? Thoughts?

There are many people, like myself, that feel the same way you do. Actually, it's pretty common and there is a term that describes it. It's called disjunctive bisexuality. A sex activist in the 19th century coined that term (Karl Ulrichs) when he did a paper on bisexuality in men and women. Disjunctive bisexuals are actually more romantic with women and more sexual with men. It can also be vice-versa (more romantic with men, more lustful for women). Conjuctive bisexuals can be emotionally and sexually attracted to either sex.
 

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Dude that is totally me too. I love to be with women emotionally but sexually I want to be savagely fucked and or jerked or sucked by a man usually hot not to hairy but lean and muscular and of course with a big dick. I struggled for years with how people thought of my sexuality but now I feel accepted and am looking again for love I have had one girlfriend and she was all thru high school and I would totally love to be married but my cock loves men more so its all good
 

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Sounds a bit like me. I absolutely love women ,both emotionally and physically , but also love being fucked really hard by very well hung men . The older i get , i just seem to appreciate women more and more , though if you put a nice super fat 10inch cock in front of me , i'll have it balls deep down my throat in a flash. Best of both worlds i guess.
 

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I am in a similar situation, though not entirely. I am very attracted to woman both romantically and physically. My god there is nothing hotter then a curvy chick with a huge set of tits.

With men I am far less attracted. I am turned off by hairy men. I am completely turned off by anal sex and man ass in general. I have zero desire to make out with a man or be in a relationship with one. But, and this is a big but, I am totally in love with dick.

I love seeing cocks, cut (uncut doesn't do it for me) I just love it. What I would do to just blow one and stroke one. When I watch porn, it is usually straight porn. I look for porn with men who have very nice cocks fucking woman. If the cock doesn't do it for me in straight porn then I keep searching till I find one.

I also love watching gay porn, but only when it involves the following: Handjobs, blowjobs, people just jerking off, or people comparing cock size. My god do I love seeing a big cock dwarf a small one, it's hot to me (This is due to a childhood experience.) I don't watch gay porn much because it has too much making out, and someone always ends up getting fucked; I am totally turned off by anal sex with men.

I stopped trying to label myself as straight or bi or whatever. I am what I am. I just accept that because labels piss me off and in the end, the only thing they are good for is denying someone some sort of freedom.
 
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Johnweek1, I feel EXACTLY the same. I go to strip bars to see girls, but go back home and log on to lpsg to see the big cocks. I like to give bjs to any big one I can find.

I also gave up trying to classify or rationalize my behavior. I do not worry about it anymore.
 
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Yes, there are lots of men like you. Generally speaking I'm often more attracted to women when it comes to emotion, the mental aspect in a relation, but physically it's only sex with men that counts. That's why I call myself 90% gay.
 

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For a long time I wasn't really into the idea of relationships with guys, but I was physically mostly attracted to men. At this point, perhaps just as I've grown up, I've realized I could have very fulfilling female companionship, but it would never really be sexual to me.

I can now picture myself in a gay relationship. There's a strong appeal in female personas for me that even leads me to still have 'crushes' on women, but it just isn't really about the body, so much as what how they are as a whole person.

I could be satisfied by a guy, but I'd still want female friendships in addition because I find pleasure in the company of an intelligent, good-looking, and put together woman.
 

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I'm definitely more physically and emotionally attracted to women. With men, it's an attraction to the big cock more so than the guy attached to it. That said I can appreciate a decent looking masculine guy. All sounds a bit shallow but that's how I feel.
 

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This describes me very well. Except I'm not physically attracted to men during normal day operations. However, the sexual side of me wants hot anal sex with men. That's my biggest sexual turn-on. I'm basically fucked.


Anyone else feel this way? Emotionally I feel like I get fulfillment with women but physically I'm way more attracted to men. Does this just mean I'm gay? I've never had a relationship with a man but at the same time it doesn't fully interest me to have one.

Anyone else in the same boat? Thoughts?
 
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Some people just cannot be labeled by the traditional gay/straight/bi stamps. Sexuality is far more complexed than that.
Personally I don't label myself as any of these things. I'm definitely NOT straight, that is for sure and I'm out and open about it, but I don't see myself as gay or bi. Yes I like men and women and also transsexuals, MTF and FTM also non-op cross dressers and... You get the picture, I like what I like and I'm happy about it, no label, just me.
If you must give a name to what you are then pick one and be happy about it. I'm often called bi or gay and don't mind either (in fact I find being referred to as gay quite cute).
Just be who you are and open about what you like.
 
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Oh, and my last girlfriend, knowing I enjoy sex with guys too, brought a strap-on and used it with quite some enthusiasm. It might be something that brings you closer together that she can fuck you like a man, when you are in a relationship with a woman.
 
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Just do what you want to do. Gay bi or straight, it doesn't mater who your with, we're all just people.
Just don't use it as an excuse to cheat. It gives the rest of us a bad name!