Enforced Chastity

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Had been with my boyfriend for about 8 months and at that point we were obviously comfortable with each other, had been having sex (me bottom, him top). One morning we woke up and he was spooning me and he started kissing my neck, which woke me up. Out of nowhere suddenly he said "Is your tiny little dick getting hard?"

Now to that point there had been NO SPH at all. Of course I was aware my dick is below average - we both were. I didn't know how to react, I just laughed, I think.

So anyway fast fwd to today and a about 6 weeks ago my bf mentioned that he'd like to try chastity - at first I thought he meant himself, which took me by surprise given the circumstance but he meant me. He said as my dick was tiny and our sex lives revolved mainly around making his bigger dick cum (it's not unusual for me not to cum at all during sex) it should be kept out of the way. Ordered a small resin one and it arrived about four weeks ago, he immediately got me to try it on when it was delivered, just to try it out. I wasn't prepared mentally. He said, at the time, that he just wanted to see if it fit so if not we could return it. By this point I hadn't cum already in about 2 or 3 days - I tried it on and it fit fine, I asked him for key to unlock it and he just laughed and said "Why don't you keep it on for a bit longer to see if it's comfortable. So I did.

That evening?

"Keep it on overnight so we know if you can sleep in it"

The next morning he woke me up grabbing my cage and kissing my neck.

Long-story short he hasn't told me where the key is whenever I raise the subject saying I want to take it off he just smirks and changes the subject.

Any advice?
 

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I really thought I would have had time. A final release. Etc. I think it feels worse as I've had no agency over it at all. It might have been more than couple of days since I last ejaculated before I put it on I can't remember.

I keep looking up things like prostate health but getting conflicting information. I've tried to engage OH but he seems totally against discussing anything about it
 
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My advice. Run. As fast as you can. A good three or four red flags popped up in my head while reading this. Now, you might be into that. Might find it...i have no idea. But from what i've read of the bdsm community none of his actions were cool in any way. The way i understand it even a sub has say so. That doesn't appear to be the case to me with your situation.

Feel free to ignore this if it is your own personal thing though.
 

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I've had no agency over it at all.

The hell?? This does not sound to me like a situation where you are truly materially lacking control. Carefully break open the device if you have to. If you care to, inform your partner of how unacceptable this situation was. That or move on if this was just completely beyond the pale. By no means do you sound incapable of asserting your agency, but you are in need of doing so.
 

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Had chat tonight. At first he smiled and tried to change subject but his demeanor altered when he recognised my tone.

He told me he thought I enjoyed it; him being in control and me being helpless. I told him I did but this sort of thing requires discussion first.

Long and short is we both had a little cry and he apologised. We've come up with a safe word, which would mean he'd tell me where the key is no questions asked but other than that we're aiming for the end of Feb as we have weekend away booked and have that as the planned goal date. I'll stay locked up until then pending the safeword being used.
 

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I've found that the hottest part of kink play was the trust we built with each other. I understood so much more about my partner when we were experimenting with kinks (we never tried chastity). Without that trust, the experience can easily become a one-sided nightmare. I'm glad you had a discussion with him about this.
 

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I've found that the hottest part of kink play was the trust we built with each other. I understood so much more about my partner when we were experimenting with kinks (we never tried chastity). Without that trust, the experience can easily become a one-sided nightmare. I'm glad you had a discussion with him about this.

Definitely and for me the low-key (no pun intended) hottest thing about trying kink is the connection you're left with after. It sounds corny but it's like when you read a new book at the same time and talk about it after.
 
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Had chat tonight. At first he smiled and tried to change subject but his demeanor altered when he recognised my tone.

He told me he thought I enjoyed it; him being in control and me being helpless. I told him I did but this sort of thing requires discussion first.

Long and short is we both had a little cry and he apologised. We've come up with a safe word, which would mean he'd tell me where the key is no questions asked but other than that we're aiming for the end of Feb as we have weekend away booked and have that as the planned goal date. I'll stay locked up until then pending the safeword being used.

I'm glad to read that you guys got that worked out.

I wish my wife would be willing to engage in chastity play, but she thinks it's weird and simply will not go there. :(
 

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I'm glad to read that you guys got that worked out.

I wish my wife would be willing to engage in chastity play, but she thinks it's weird and simply will not go there. :(

Sorry to hear that. All things seem weird at first. Does she control your orgasms now? Maybe introduce it slowly, during sex ask her for permission to cum, see what her reaction is. In the heat of the moment she might like it and this might be a gateway to chastity play.
 

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Sorry to hear that. All things seem weird at first. Does she control your orgasms now? Maybe introduce it slowly, during sex ask her for permission to cum, see what her reaction is. In the heat of the moment she might like it and this might be a gateway to chastity play.

Sad to say, with the exception of a year or two here and there, my wife has never been interested in anything even remotely "fun" where sex is concerned.

Light bondage? Tried it.

Chastity play? Tried it.

Denial play? Tried it.

Pegging? No way.

Harness/dildo play? No way.

I could go on. I've tried just about everything over the years. At best, she'll play along in the moment but then never revisit it on her own. Quite honestly, I've given up.
 
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Sad to say, with the exception of a year or two here and there, my wife has never been interested in anything even remotely "fun" where sex is concerned.

Light bondage? Tried it.

Chastity play? Tried it.

Denial play? Tried it.

Pegging? No way.

Harness/dildo play? No way.

I could go on. I've tried just about everything over the years. At best, she'll play along in the moment but then never revisit it on her own. Quite honestly, I've given up.

With my Wife it's all systems go on the fun side of sex .

Light bondage ? Loves it

Chastity Play ? Cannot get enough

Denial Play ? Always

Pegging ? Oh yes

Harness / Dildo Play ? Adores It

I talked with Her about all of these , there was some initial hesitation but now She has turned into a Real Doninatrix, Lucky Me
 

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With my Wife it's all systems go on the fun side of sex .

Light bondage ? Loves it

Chastity Play ? Cannot get enough

Denial Play ? Always

Pegging ? Oh yes

Harness / Dildo Play ? Adores It

I talked with Her about all of these , there was some initial hesitation but now She has turned into a Real Doninatrix, Lucky Me

Lucky you. :)
 
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Sad to say, with the exception of a year or two here and there, my wife has never been interested in anything even remotely "fun" where sex is concerned.

Light bondage? Tried it.

Chastity play? Tried it.

Denial play? Tried it.

Pegging? No way.

Harness/dildo play? No way.

I could go on. I've tried just about everything over the years. At best, she'll play along in the moment but then never revisit it on her own. Quite honestly, I've given up.
You have a great looking cock and balls. I hope she appreciates them and gives them a lot of attention!