Enlightened attitude

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  1. B_Hornaplenty

    B_Hornaplenty New Member

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    My parents had a good attitude about sexual matters, and I'll always be grateful for the way they guided me. I've tried to be the same sort of parent.

    At puberty my father told me that I would have urges to masturbate, and it was all right, but not to depend on it habitually. He told me I'd find out that cocks were made for pussies, and about how much more enjoyable that would be than a "manual job".

    My mother clearly knew what boys "have to do" when they become sexually aware. I found out about her understanding, one day in my room. Normally, I ejaculated at least once a day when I was 15 years, and I would cum into an old tee shirt. Then I'd roll it up and hide it in the drawer, under my pile of underwear. It got wrinkled and spotty from the jizz. One day when I prepared to jac off, I reached into the drawer for my rag, and found it had been freshly laundered and neatly folded. My mom just wanted it to be clean for me to use. Nothing was ever said, but it was regularly done.

    I hope many of you had such understanding parents.
     
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    You're a lucky guy. My parents never brought up a single word about sex.
     
  3. SomeGuyOverThere

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    Yep, same here, and I'll wager for almost everyone.

    I only got "The talk" because I didnt understand the ten-gallon hat joke in Blazing Saddles.
     
  4. My mom was an OB-GYN ... talk about enlightened ...

    and the sex talk ... well @ the time (5th~6th grade) i was still @ catholic school. my mom actually taught the girls sex talk/ed thing. i became really good friends with the girls from there on, which seemed odd but whatev.
     
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    you were lucky for having parents like that.

    doubt i will get into details about my parents, wouldn't want to traumatize the members here. hehhe

    one comical instance, the only thing i really remember as a sterotypical "sex talk" was when my mom told me at the age of 7 i might see white stuff come out of my PP. and to tell her when i did see it as she would explain in more detail what is was and what it meant....

    so the next day i was peeing and noticed my urine was almost clear. (drinking lots of water) i thought it was "the white stuff" and ran out of the bathroom with my pants down and penis dangling shouting at my mom, "it's the white stuff, the white stuff!". red with embarassment, my mom kindly escorted me back to the bathroom and explained it in better detail. i still had no clue what she was taling about....I was 7 years old....

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  6. OmahaBeef

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    My parents didnt tell me anything as a child...I never knew what my parents were doing at night when I heard my Mom making noises, and I never knew why they needed "quiet time" every now and then. I just knew I did what I was told OR ELSE...

    Everything I ever learned was from various forms of pornography that was gaffled from someones father or parents. I remember seeing my first Playboy in like 1st grade and my little pecker got hard and I didnt know why.

    When I saw my first actual porno I was stunned...it was like..."OMG! What are they doing and why?!?!?! not to mention...."Ohhhh so THATS where it goes!" or "WOW! What just shot out of his winkie?!?!?!"

    When I really hit puberty in about 7-8th grade, Mom would fly off the handle at random and say: "Now dammit don't ever believe a woman who says she's on a pill! Put a cap on your thingie!" and then she'd go on about the weather or something...

    By high school they just kind of assumed I learned things on my own, because on numerous occasions they barged into my room when I was bare-assed and balls-deep in one of my girlfriends...

    That being said, if I have children some day, I will make a point to be very frank about sex to them. I want to get my point across so that they don't make life-altering mistakes, but easy enough with them that they feel at ease talking about it with me.

    If I have a daughter, I will basically tell her that she should be very selective of who she "dates" and explain to her that while she is young...she won't always be attracted to the guys who would end up being the best fathers, and the best father's wont necissarily be the ones she's attracted to. That being said...she shouldnt have sex with anyone unless she is both attracted to them and know they would be good fathers.

    If I have a son, I will explain to him that he should trust women about as far as he can throw them...and that he shouldnt let his dick do the thinking for him because it WILL steer him wrong if he is not thinking clearly.

    OmahaBeef
     
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    And to be really enlightened, be prepared for the possibility that you can have a child who happens to not be straight.
     
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    Mom left an Ann Landers booklet under my mattress, with explicit instructions not to show it to my younger brother, 2 years difference. I imagine this was a booklet that she had also given to my older brother, again 2 years difference, and I imagine it was passed on. This was in the early '60's and there wasn't much out there for pre-teens. I remember she was somewhat nervous when she told me about the booklet. That booklet represented more information than any of my friends received from their parents. I remember one neighbor who believed that women gave birth through their ass, he couldn't believe that women had another hole.
     
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    I learned most of it from my mates ie when we raided a friend's dad's house and 'stole' (he let us have them) his porn mags (he had loads!). Then we went into the forest and 'wanked' each in a seculded area. There were about eight of us.

    Then as we got older, we had talks about sex and girls and tits etc.

    My mum has always been ok with me masturbating. She's caught me a few times, which is bound to happen when you do it as much as I do! Luckily though she didn't show me HOW to do it...that would be weird lol.

    One of my mum's ex boyfriends used to give me loads of 'fanny mags'...which when I'd stuck all the pages together, I used to sell to my mates hehe.
     
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    My parents didn't mention sex and never made a noise when/if? then made love.
    However they did buy my brother a book about love and sex, which I often borrowed. Well by the time I lost my virginity I was as clued up as a sexologist, so my first lover had no idea that I was a virgin, still doesn't!

    So I think that my parents' easy way out was a good way.
     
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    my parents didnt tell me anything at all about sex growing up. I of course had alot of questions, believe it or not it was my gym teacher in 8th grade who answered all my ??????"S
     
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    My mum's a nurse. Whenever I asked a question, she'd just answer it, simple as that. I think I knew what sex was by the time I was 7 or so. Looking at some of these posts, I guess I'm lucky that my mother was so open with me.

    And I guess I'm also lucky that by the time I was really sexually active, I'd moved out of home. I've only ever ben walked in on once and that was about a month ago, my dumbass housemate didn't bother to knock on my door before barging in. Needless to say it kinda killed the mood somewhat...
     
  13. Thats exactly how it was with me. If I had a question, there was no embarrasment just black & white answers. She always used the proper names and such.
     
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    My parents, both medical people, were, I suppose, reasonably enlightened about sex.
    Their way of introducing us to the birds and the bees was to give a pretty explicit pamphlet with a lot of diagrams and pretty direct language.
    One paragraph confused me, though.
    It described your parents in bed, hugging each other and being affectionate.
    “And then,” it went on, “in a loving gesture, your father’s penis entered your mother.”
    The meaning was clear to me. You hugged your wife, and then all at once your ‘doodad,’ as we called the penes in our home (very enlightened people, as I said) suddenly took on a life of its own. Pursued its own project. The whole action was apparently hands off and worry free.
    Dad, in the last analysis, wasn’t even an agent.
    I explained this to my prepubescent friends next door, who were already a pretty tough pair.
    “No, that’s stupid … your dad fucked your mother,” the older one, Neil, said. “He pounded her.”
    And for a few months, I walked around with the satisfaction of once more knowing more than Neil.
    He was hopeless, a poor reader. And pretty damn uncivilized, to boot.
    Imagine, Dad ‘pounding’ Mom.
     
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    :biggrin1::biggrin1::biggrin1:

    Thats like when I was little and I asked my mother why my brother was in her stomach, and then how did he get there:

    "Well when a man and a woman love each other very much, get married, and want a baby...the man fertilizes the woman's egg."

    This only confused the hell out of me, because the onlu image in my mind was my Dad using that "bucket-on-wheels" that spreads fetilizer on your front lawn. I deducted then that the familiar yellow pellets thrown on an "egg" would then produce a little brother:smile:

    Man...they just dont make babies like they used to...

    OmahaBeef
     
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    I am still grinning from ear to ear with tears running down my cheeks. You could easily do stand-up with that gem. OMG :biggrin1:

    Rob
     
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    Thanks, Rob. I must owe you a PM by now.
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    My mother raised me Catholic. The only part that stuck was, condoms are evil.
     
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    in the high school days my parents must have seen me jerking off to internet titties at least 50 times...it got to the point where i didnt even care if they saw me doing it or not. i knew they saw me but they never said a word to me about it.

    i remember once my dad told me, in a car conversation, not to jizz in the toilet. i explained to him that it was silly string and not jizz...(who has hot pink jizz?)

    but still they were very understanding.
    *i guess they were just happy i wasnt gay?
     
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    One of my favorite poems and a very enlightened attitude, i'd say:

    Ah son, do you know, do you know
    where you come from?

    From a lake with white
    and hungry gulls.

    Next to the water of winter
    she and I raised
    a red bonfire
    wearing out our lips
    from kissing each other's souls,
    casting all into the fire,
    burning our lives.

    That's how you came into the world.

    But she, to see me
    and to see you, one day
    crossed the seas
    and I, to clasp
    her tiny waist,
    walked all the earth,
    with wars and mountains,
    with sands and thorns.

    That's how you came into the world.

    You come from so many places,
    from the water and the earth,
    from the fire and the snow,
    from so far away you journey
    toward the two of us,
    from the terrible love
    that has enchained us,
    that we want to know
    what you're like, what you say to us,
    because you know more
    about the world we gave you.

    Like a great storm
    we shook
    the tree of life
    down to the hidden-most
    fibers of the roots
    and you appear now
    singing in the foliage,
    in the highest branch
    that with you we reach
    .


    "The Son"
    - Pablo Neruda
     
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