I totally have given up the will to live. FFS on reading it was obvious it was a joke. Davey is a fun guy as is most of the mods and admin. With regard to Kotch's post about slagging the owner off and he does not know how to run a site, that is insulting ,it is free so instead of moaning why not fuck off and don't visit if it is that bad.
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Bingo.
I was completely thrown by it, tbh. I didn't believe that it was a spoof, because given recent events and the current mood of the site, I didn't feel anyone would be quite so ill-advised as to post it (therefore it looked like Davey was a fake, had been banned, and subsequently slagged off by other mods).
Lol - which implied he'd been found out as a fake, if you read the thread...
It maybe seems like an over-reaction in retrospect, and the comment about leaving (which still stands) was based on a cumulation of things. I do think a rift has opened up between the mods (many of which I like) and quite a few general members, where their trust has perhaps been damaged. I also stand by the comment of needing mod elections in future - I understand the site is owned by Rob_E, but I think it could help reduce pressure (also on the mods), to have some public accountability, and a role for the members in selecting who is to be in authority over them.
I apologise if I've blown this out of proportion - and it certainly wasn't my intention to have Davey step down. Just would've liked a clarification of the situation, an acknowledgement that it perhaps wasn't the best idea (which has since been given), then a return to business as usual...
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I'm glad i'm not the only one who has been humming this while reading the thread. No more tears indeed
Cover art.
You just like it cos it's a disco tune.I'm glad i'm not the only one who has been humming this while reading the thread. No more tears indeed
Fuck off, Luka - I can do much worse too. :smile:
I stand by my first post 100% - see joll's recalculation of his reaction for the why of that.
LOL - not a recalculation luv, just an attempt to explain, consistent with my initial post.
I bet you can, but that would probably get you a ban, then some asshole here would say-Manly deserved her ban!!!!!:frown1:
And then I would have to defend you, cause I believe contributors deserve a second chance!:smile:
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Pretty much ditto.
I would prefer to stick around - there are good things on this site. But if I'm banned I'm not going to get fussed about it. We're suddenly like chickens waiting to see who is going to be taken out of the coop next and never return. The present mood is just ghastly, and a situation where a couple of April Fool's jokes get such a response is indicative of the problem. This site is supposed to support members, the good, the bad and the plain weird.
I would like to see some form of reflection period. The mods have a horrible job (I don't really understand why they choose to do it - I wouldn't). They are going to get things right and things wrong, that's life. They deserve praise for the things they get right, most of which members never even notice. But they also need taking to task when they get things wrong. Right now (active) members don't have any way of holding mods to account. And there should be some way - maybe a lesson of this period is that the site badly needs such a mechanism.
We also need to press the reset button. Basically we need to turn back the clock, which means reviewing (bad) decisions which have been made and which are driving a wedge through this site. The big issue is surely Mitchymo's banning. The only reason I can think of for not bringing him back is that this would be unsafe, eg because Mitchymo has been found to be under 18. If by chance this is correct then of course the Mods are performing admirably in the face of unreasonable criticism. But if not I cannot imagine a reason for not bringing him back on a trial.
The Mods could present some sort of "amnesty" as a positive step to resolve a problem, and would cover themselves in glory by so doing.
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The Etc. forum on the board is where this shit is most prone to happen. It's like the same dozen people who get riled up about the mods and bannings to the point where it's left some poor bloke crying in his oatmeal contemplating suicide over being offended.
The Etc. forum has the least to do with dicks or support. So don't be surprised when it doesnt pertain to dick and support conversations. The thought of everyone stopping a joke because some dude starts crying about it is pathetic. Grow up and quit expecting everyone to feel the same way about your friends that you do.
Being sensitive is one thing but expecting everyone to act according to your sensitivities is a whole different ball game. Boo hoo.
It's taken a while for me to figure out that the Etc. board is a wormhole into an alternate universe where people are highly emotional for whatever reasons. It is what it is. Things that don't fit in all the other categories come here and get criticized.
So in the future put the jokes on another forum. This forum is for serious, damn serious shit.
The Etc. forum has the least to do with dicks or support. So don't be surprised when it doesnt pertain to dick and support conversations. The thought of everyone stopping a joke because some dude starts crying about it is pathetic. Grow up and quit expecting everyone to feel the same way about your friends that you do.
Being sensitive is one thing but expecting everyone to act according to your sensitivities is a whole different ball game. Boo hoo.
It's taken a while for me to figure out that the Etc. board is a wormhole into an alternate universe where people are highly emotional for whatever reasons. It is what it is. Things that don't fit in all the other categories come here and get criticized.
So in the future put the jokes on another forum. This forum is for serious, damn serious shit.
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Better to post if you have something useful to say sweetie
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Oh, maybe i should have asked your permission? Sorry, i dont mope around here quoting everything is unfair. It's LIFE, might want to try living a little bit of it and get used to a little bit of disappointment. It just shows how incapable you are of handling minor situations if your emotions are hurt.
I can't imagine how you deal with real life if this is so bothersome to you. It's really sad more than anything. Go volunteer to work in an animal shelter, read to the elderly who can't see or hold the hand of someone who is dying. It makes a lot of things fall into perspective of what is really sad, painful, and worth getting riled up about.
I wouldnt expect YOU to find what i said useful since it shows your overt sensitive side. But i can post what i want, when i want. It's a public, open thread.
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I dont think age has anything to do with it. You can lose a pet, a loved one or see personal tragedy at any point in your life. Maybe i'm too fresh with it in order to seperate myself from it. It keeps me grounded about the garbage that goes on to remember those things.
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Don't forget that even I can loose people and see personal tragedies, also fresh in mind.
Well. you must be speaking for yourself; since, you have already decided that we were all supposed to know it was a joke.Must be nice knowing so much about everything...
At the time I entered the site, Davey/Cunning had a thread and 'banned' was shown below his name. There was no way to know that it was meant as a joke. Perhaps you, the moderators and staff and several members knew it was a joke and perhaps some members did as well. I, and many others do not have that relationship with him so for some of us it was very real.
The opening to the site with the upside down bit sufficed for April foolery, to make a fake banning as an additional element shows immaturity and inconsideration.
Yes, and FAKE could have been Davey/Cunning indicating he was a fake. The next words were My apology. There was a hyphen between FAKE and My apology. When reading the op the following words are found:
" I recently posted about moving back to England as a way of trying to correct all the fakery I have posted. I never lived in Tenerife I used proxies to fake that. A lot of personal stuff I posted was not true. The pics I have had up were not me and not even in the same age range.
I apologise but feel I will be banned pretty quickly as this is just the excuse a certain admin is looking for. Those I have been close to have my email address. Please keep in touch."
Those words, coupled with 'banned' under his name, offered no indication that it was a joke.
The first real indication that it was a joke was when the 'banned' was suddently removed from beneath the name.
But Northie, you pointed out yourself, did you not, that all the mods and admins banned themselves last year. (Or was it 2 years ago.) Was it really not obvious to you?
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What a rude and offensive post! Think about what you have written before you hit the "submit" button.
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