Okay, we've been fucking for over a year. I've communicated numerous times that I need more sex and yet we're down to once or twice a month. However there's a problem... I'm almost certain he has erectile dysfunction. He could barely get it hard. After I sucked on it for a while it go hard but by penetration it was already getting soft and after a few strokes it was completely soft. I'm getting so sexually frustrated at this point because I'm not getting the sex I need and he won't open up to me about possibly feeling the same. I expressed some frustration once and I think I made him feel bad and he hit me with the "be nice" line.
So how do I have this conversation with him?
Thinking about the angles...what if he's in denial? What if he agrees with me but refuses to go to the doctors because he doesn't want to pay out of pocket? Should I just accept no sex forever? Would I be a shitty person if I left him because of the lack of sex? Have any of y'all had conversations with your partners about this? Was it embarrassing? Full disclosure: he had someone close to him die and honestly that's when the sex went downhill and I suspect it may be stress/ mentally related. I've been trying to stick it out but it's been like 10 months of trashy sex and I've tried to see if it could work it out on its own but it has not. I've tried a lot to please him and get him there but it's just not working.
So how do I have this conversation with him?
Thinking about the angles...what if he's in denial? What if he agrees with me but refuses to go to the doctors because he doesn't want to pay out of pocket? Should I just accept no sex forever? Would I be a shitty person if I left him because of the lack of sex? Have any of y'all had conversations with your partners about this? Was it embarrassing? Full disclosure: he had someone close to him die and honestly that's when the sex went downhill and I suspect it may be stress/ mentally related. I've been trying to stick it out but it's been like 10 months of trashy sex and I've tried to see if it could work it out on its own but it has not. I've tried a lot to please him and get him there but it's just not working.