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Hey everyone! I am 38M somehow in a good shape and have a healthy lifestyle / not much drinking and watching what I am eating, exercising etc...
Last year I divorced after a +10 years relationship with couple of kids. sex was good and I was able to perform when I want it etc.. after my divorce I had 2 relationship, the first one was quick (3months) but sex was amazing and no ED problems I was able to cum twice! but we had a lot of disagreements / fights and it did really stress me out in the addition on being newly divorced with kids. During this time I also had a very bad burn out at work that made me leave work and have a sick leave for almost 2 months.
Right now I am with a very sweet lady! we get along very well we have been together for almost 6 months. The only part that bothers is my bedroom performance.
I love her and fancy her! and I love making love to her. The first time we had sex I just could not have an erection and I was so much in shock that I was just laughing. Fast forward few weeks after, I was able to have sex but switching position instantly kills it for me even though I want it. I almost now have a pattern where If I change the position i will lose my erection. Right now, kissing will get me aroused and have an erection and with some foreplay I am so much horny and I am able to penetrate and have a good moment with her (passionate sex etc..) the moment i switch position i start to get soft and my mind start to race thinking about keep ip up etc.. and eventually it goes soft. If she put her hands on my penis then I get erect and a min or so otherwise it take some good 10-15 mins before i am up.
What I have noticed is few positions will straight makes me go soft (cowgirl for exp) even though I used to love this position so much that now I have the certainty that I will just go soft on that but I am also able to get my penis erected in doggy style variation.
This is so much confusing me as if my mind is not in sync. I have seen a doctor who told me that this is all because of stress from divorce, kids, work and the second relationship and while I am doing better stress hormones are still in my body for a while but he could not explain why it only happens when I am changing position.
Worth mentioning that my gf is so wet when it happens and I feel confident in bed.
Anyone has recommendations, similar experiences? I am also now starting to stop watching porn / cam2cam etc.. It was a daily thing for the past 10 years at least so I hope it will solve it from that perspective.