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Hey everyone! I am 38M somehow in a good shape and have a healthy lifestyle / not much drinking and watching what I am eating, exercising etc...

Last year I divorced after a +10 years relationship with couple of kids. sex was good and I was able to perform when I want it etc.. after my divorce I had 2 relationship, the first one was quick (3months) but sex was amazing and no ED problems I was able to cum twice! but we had a lot of disagreements / fights and it did really stress me out in the addition on being newly divorced with kids. During this time I also had a very bad burn out at work that made me leave work and have a sick leave for almost 2 months.

Right now I am with a very sweet lady! we get along very well we have been together for almost 6 months. The only part that bothers is my bedroom performance.

I love her and fancy her! and I love making love to her. The first time we had sex I just could not have an erection and I was so much in shock that I was just laughing. Fast forward few weeks after, I was able to have sex but switching position instantly kills it for me even though I want it. I almost now have a pattern where If I change the position i will lose my erection. Right now, kissing will get me aroused and have an erection and with some foreplay I am so much horny and I am able to penetrate and have a good moment with her (passionate sex etc..) the moment i switch position i start to get soft and my mind start to race thinking about keep ip up etc.. and eventually it goes soft. If she put her hands on my penis then I get erect and a min or so otherwise it take some good 10-15 mins before i am up.

What I have noticed is few positions will straight makes me go soft (cowgirl for exp) even though I used to love this position so much that now I have the certainty that I will just go soft on that but I am also able to get my penis erected in doggy style variation.

This is so much confusing me as if my mind is not in sync. I have seen a doctor who told me that this is all because of stress from divorce, kids, work and the second relationship and while I am doing better stress hormones are still in my body for a while but he could not explain why it only happens when I am changing position.

Worth mentioning that my gf is so wet when it happens and I feel confident in bed.

Anyone has recommendations, similar experiences? I am also now starting to stop watching porn / cam2cam etc.. It was a daily thing for the past 10 years at least so I hope it will solve it from that perspective.
 
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Hey everyone! I am 38M somehow in a good shape and have a healthy lifestyle / not much drinking and watching what I am eating, exercising etc...

Last year I divorced after a +10 years relationship with couple of kids. sex was good and I was able to perform when I want it etc.. after my divorce I had 2 relationship, the first one was quick (3months) but sex was amazing and no ED problems I was able to cum twice! but we had a lot of disagreements / fights and it did really stress me out in the addition on being newly divorced with kids. During this time I also had a very bad burn out at work that made me leave work and have a sick leave for almost 2 months.

Right now I am with a very sweet lady! we get along very well we have been together for almost 6 months. The only part that bothers is my bedroom performance.

I love her and fancy her! and I love making love to her. The first time we had sex I just could not have an erection and I was so much in shock that I was just laughing. Fast forward few weeks after, I was able to have sex but switching position instantly kills it for me even though I want it. I almost now have a pattern where If I change the position i will lose my erection. Right now, kissing will get me aroused and have an erection and with some foreplay I am so much horny and I am able to penetrate and have a good moment with her (passionate sex etc..) the moment i switch position i start to get soft and my mind start to race thinking about keep ip up etc.. and eventually it goes soft. If she put her hands on my penis then I get erect and a min or so otherwise it take some good 10-15 mins before i am up.

What I have noticed is few positions will straight makes me go soft (cowgirl for exp) even though I used to love this position so much that now I have the certainty that I will just go soft on that but I am also able to get my penis erected in doggy style variation.

This is so much confusing me as if my mind is not in sync. I have seen a doctor who told me that this is all because of stress from divorce, kids, work and the second relationship and while I am doing better stress hormones are still in my body for a while but he could not explain why it only happens when I am changing position.

Worth mentioning that my gf is so wet when it happens and I feel confident in bed.

Anyone has recommendations, similar experiences? I am also now starting to stop watching porn / cam2cam etc.. It was a daily thing for the past 10 years at least so I hope it will solve it from that perspective.
It’s been my experience that ED issues are a catch-22: an ED issue happens, we focus on it, it sometimes makes the ED issues worse, we focus on it more, and so on.

Kudos to you talking about it with your doctor. Many men don’t do that. I think the doctor gave you good advice. From what you said, you’ve had a lot in your plate. Add in the catch-22 effect and I think you may have some explanation for what’s going on.

Did your doctor suggest medication?
 
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He gave the blue pill, I tried it twice in the bedroom and with it or not it did not change much. I have to say that at the begning i was not getting the morning boner but now I have it.
Is it true that the more I focus on it the more problematic it becomes it is annoying!
 

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He gave the blue pill, I tried it twice in the bedroom and with it or not it did not change much. I have to say that at the begning i was not getting the morning boner but now I have it.
Is it true that the more I focus on it the more problematic it becomes it is annoying!
that is because those pills don't work when your depressed
 

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He gave the blue pill, I tried it twice in the bedroom and with it or not it did not change much. I have to say that at the begning i was not getting the morning boner but now I have it.
Is it true that the more I focus on it the more problematic it becomes it is annoying!
There are alternatives to the blue pill. It’d be worth your while to discuss things further with you doctor. Maybe the blue pill wasn’t the right option for you. Cialis is a good one to try.
 
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I am sorry to hear about the relationship problems you have had. It may be worth thinking about whether all of this has been traumatic for you. If you sought the divorce in the absence of a crisis, perhaps not. On the other hand, if your ex-wife initiated the divorce either directly or indirectly by cheating, it may be the case. It sounds like you are now with a very nice lady. Is she exciting enough? Some find conflictual relationships to be sexually exciting.
 
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Well, once I came back home and she had left. Still don't know the reasons. Indeed I am now in a better place with a better lady. What I have noticed is that whenI try to have sex in some positions I go soft. these positions are ones I have enjoyed with my ex. Now it is like a blockage that I have.