Hey guys. I know I haven't been around for a while, but my boyfriend and I have a situation we need some help with! I met George online a few months back, and we fell in love before we even met. He came into town on Friday, and everything is as amazing as we'd hoped, if not better. He's absolutely perfect, and everything I've ever wanted in a man, and I think he feels the same way about me. We get along great, we're very open and honest with each other, etc. That's all gravy. Now here's our problem...
George has issues staying erect when we're making out, engaging in foreplay, and having sex. His erection seems to come and go a lot. He'll get rock hard, but it only stays for a few seconds before it turns into a semi, and sometimes he goes almost completely soft. He says that everything I'm doing feels good, so we're not sure where the issue lies. He doesn't have this issue when he's masturbating, so I'm thinking it's psychological. There's a few things we've discussed that could possibly be the culprit, but we wanted to get your take on it. (Yes, we... he's sitting next to me as I type this.)
One thing that we've discovered is that while having sex doggy-style, he stays erect without an issue, and so far that's the only position he's been able to climax with. He just told me that it feels like he receives more stimulation in that position than any other. And while other things I do, and other positions we engage in feel good, he doesn't seem to get the same stimulation from them.
I brought up the idea that maybe he's just not physically attracted to me. I explained to him that just because he's in love with me doesn't mean that he likes the way I look. While a possible concern, he doesn't seem to think that it's true. But it DOES seem mildly suspect that when he doesn't have to look at me, he stays hard without an issue and cums just fine.
There's also the idea that he was sexually abused as a child by a male relative. I know that this can cause sexual issues in people as they get older, so who knows.
We've also discussed his past sexual experiences, and how him losing his virginity wasn't exactly a positive influence on him. She was less than kind, from what I've been told. He said that he had more issues during that experience than any other as far as his erection is concerned. Couldn't get hard at all at some points, and even doggy-style didn't fix the issue.
As far as his actual penis goes, he's uncircumsized (drool. <3), about average length and a bit bigger than average girth (he wears a magnum). So it's not like he has this massively huge dong that holds so much blood he'd pass out if he got a full erection. >.>
SO! Any ideas? Have any of you ever been through this and figured out a solution? If so, what was it?! I love this man more than any guy I've ever been with, and I absolutely adore being intimate with him... and even though sex isn't a requirement for me, it's really nice to be able to share myself with him in that way and it would be fabulous if we could do it without wasting condoms on erections that disappear before I can get him inside me. xD
Thanks in advance. :smile:
George has issues staying erect when we're making out, engaging in foreplay, and having sex. His erection seems to come and go a lot. He'll get rock hard, but it only stays for a few seconds before it turns into a semi, and sometimes he goes almost completely soft. He says that everything I'm doing feels good, so we're not sure where the issue lies. He doesn't have this issue when he's masturbating, so I'm thinking it's psychological. There's a few things we've discussed that could possibly be the culprit, but we wanted to get your take on it. (Yes, we... he's sitting next to me as I type this.)
One thing that we've discovered is that while having sex doggy-style, he stays erect without an issue, and so far that's the only position he's been able to climax with. He just told me that it feels like he receives more stimulation in that position than any other. And while other things I do, and other positions we engage in feel good, he doesn't seem to get the same stimulation from them.
I brought up the idea that maybe he's just not physically attracted to me. I explained to him that just because he's in love with me doesn't mean that he likes the way I look. While a possible concern, he doesn't seem to think that it's true. But it DOES seem mildly suspect that when he doesn't have to look at me, he stays hard without an issue and cums just fine.
There's also the idea that he was sexually abused as a child by a male relative. I know that this can cause sexual issues in people as they get older, so who knows.
We've also discussed his past sexual experiences, and how him losing his virginity wasn't exactly a positive influence on him. She was less than kind, from what I've been told. He said that he had more issues during that experience than any other as far as his erection is concerned. Couldn't get hard at all at some points, and even doggy-style didn't fix the issue.
As far as his actual penis goes, he's uncircumsized (drool. <3), about average length and a bit bigger than average girth (he wears a magnum). So it's not like he has this massively huge dong that holds so much blood he'd pass out if he got a full erection. >.>
SO! Any ideas? Have any of you ever been through this and figured out a solution? If so, what was it?! I love this man more than any guy I've ever been with, and I absolutely adore being intimate with him... and even though sex isn't a requirement for me, it's really nice to be able to share myself with him in that way and it would be fabulous if we could do it without wasting condoms on erections that disappear before I can get him inside me. xD
Thanks in advance. :smile: