Basically a few days ago I was pretty much brought into the world of sex, having been without female contact for the last 21 years of my life. So yeah essentially a 21 year old kissless virgin. But over the last weekend I had my first sexual experiences with my girlfriend, problem I had is that the moment I put on a condom (I was hard by this point) then went to penetrate I went flaccid in literally seconds.
We tried again a few minutes later with her performing oral to get me hard again then the exact same thing happened, put on condom, went to insert and then it goes limp in seconds. After that we tried dry humping and it just wouldn't go up (By this point I was so stressed) then I couldn't get hard even hours later that night. Bearing in mind I had actually masturbated the day before and she had given me three hand/blow jobs (One about 30 mins before we tried) would that have such a massive effect on it? because normally I can go through erections like its nobodies business.
I've heard of something called 'first-time nerves' but does that work in the same way as I really REALLY wanted to have sex but clearly my penis was disagreeing or is it a sub-conscious nerve?
Thank you for taking the time to read about my problem and I look forward to reading any replies and personal experiences that may shed some light on this problem.
We tried again a few minutes later with her performing oral to get me hard again then the exact same thing happened, put on condom, went to insert and then it goes limp in seconds. After that we tried dry humping and it just wouldn't go up (By this point I was so stressed) then I couldn't get hard even hours later that night. Bearing in mind I had actually masturbated the day before and she had given me three hand/blow jobs (One about 30 mins before we tried) would that have such a massive effect on it? because normally I can go through erections like its nobodies business.
I've heard of something called 'first-time nerves' but does that work in the same way as I really REALLY wanted to have sex but clearly my penis was disagreeing or is it a sub-conscious nerve?
Thank you for taking the time to read about my problem and I look forward to reading any replies and personal experiences that may shed some light on this problem.