Erection Issues

[Bently]

Ever since I was 16, I have had trouble getting aroused at things I was usually aroused by. Haven't been able to have a full erection for 5 years. I Finally got the courage to see a Dr about the issue. Everything checked out fine and he told me to seek a sex therapist and handed me a slip for Viagra.

I am still able to have sex but it is a hassle. I can't get aroused by her just touching me or even sucking me off. I have to play with myself for a few minutes just to get it hard enough to stick in ( bout 70% erect)

I am lost on what I need to do from here, I would like to hear some suggestions cause this is really killing my social life with the females.
Nothing worse then knowing if you meet some girl out at a bar that you wont be able to fuck her later that night..

 

[dazzla]

viagra will sort it mate! trust me. but in the long term its just a pshychological thing, im similar to you. porn doesnt get me going anymore, i cant even masturbate properly. but when im with a girl it works fine, try not to get to used to the viagra, short term it will help. but in the long run itll probably make matters worse.

 

[Bently]

I am only 21 years old. I shouldn't have to take Viagra. Have you tried it?

 

[D_Hammond Happydipper]

Ever since I was 16, I have had trouble getting aroused at things I was usually aroused by. Haven't been able to have a full erection for 5 years. I Finally got the courage to see a Dr about the issue. Everything checked out fine and he told me to seek a sex therapist and handed me a slip for Viagra.

I am still able to have sex but it is a hassle. I can't get aroused by her just touching me or even sucking me off. I have to play with myself for a few minutes just to get it hard enough to stick in ( bout 70% erect)

I am lost on what I need to do from here, I would like to hear some suggestions cause this is really killing my social life with the females.
Nothing worse then knowing if you meet some girl out at a bar that you wont be able to fuck her later that night..

If you can get a full morning wood then it's psychological.
You should try PE ,before I could not get 100% during the day.
Maybe around 5.5" to 6" out of 7.xx
semi hard at best.
After a few weeks of doing it I can get fully hard most of the time without much trouble
just slight over 7" when fully hard



this site is more dedicated to the whole PE thing.

http://www.thundersplace.org

 

[Billy Batts]

It could be depression. It can really mess with your hormones and sense of pleasure. Arousal is all in the brain anyway. It could also be a nerve issue, but because the doctor seemed to think there is nothing physically apparent, then it might just be a mental thing.

 

[798686]

viagra will sort it mate! trust me. but in the long term its just a pshychological thing, im similar to you. porn doesnt get me going anymore, i cant even masturbate properly. but when im with a girl it works fine, try not to get to used to the viagra, short term it will help. but in the long run itll probably make matters worse.

Are you on any medication, for depression or suchlike? They can have a bad effect on sensitivity and arousal.

 

[Big Al]

You can also try doing exercises to improve your penile functioning as well as your confidence and sexual control. My favorites- the Stop and Start, and the "HOW TO BECOME THE MASTER OF YOUR ORGASMS" exercise

 

[Bently]

Was never on meds when it first started happening. I used to smoke a lot of weed back then. and when I say a lot I mean a lot lol I just remember one day I was masturbating and it would not get hard. Whats PE?

 

[D_Hammond Happydipper]

http://www.lpsg.org/penis-enlargement/


Definitely helps with the erection problems.

 

[sdbg]

Hi Bently. Welcome to LPSG!

Do you exercise regularly? I find that when I'm in really good cardiovascular condition, I don't have a problem getting hard or getting off. If I get lazy and my cardio slips, then I have a difficult time getting all the way hard. I go to a gym and ride my bike. Makes a huge difference.

 

[Bently]

Hi Bently. Welcome to LPSG!

Do you exercise regularly? I find that when I'm in really good cardiovascular condition, I don't have a problem getting hard or getting off. If I get lazy and my cardio slips, then I have a difficult time getting all the way hard. I go to a gym and ride my bike. Makes a huge difference.

I do exercise daily. I also forgot to mention, I do have morning erections but they are not always 100% firm..

 

[buffbaldy]

I exercise regularly but and I am in my early 50's but have had problems getting aroused for about ten years, viagra helps get hard but does not get really hard if not aroused, they are not the same thing. I have also tried cialis with greater luck but I have found supplementing with Yohime gets me aroused along with the viagra or cialis and man I have great orasms! I require more stimulation now then when younger even to get off.

 

[Bently]

I exercise regularly but and I am in my early 50's but have had problems getting aroused for about ten years, viagra helps get hard but does not get really hard if not aroused, they are not the same thing. I have also tried cialis with greater luck but I have found supplementing with Yohime gets me aroused along with the viagra or cialis and man I have great orasms! I require more stimulation now then when younger even to get off.

Part in bold I think is the issue. I don't believe I have erection issues, I believe I have an arousal issue. I need to find out why.

 

[erratic]

Was never on meds when it first started happening. I used to smoke a lot of weed back then.

Weed can be a boner-killer for people, as can alcohol and cigarettes. Same thing for depression and anxiety. And post-traumatic stress...and any major stress for that matter. Also, lack of sleep can affect your erection. You said you do get morning wood, so that suggests the issue is at least part mental.

For now I'd suggest rolling with how your body works. If it takes you a few minutes of foreplay to get hard enough to fuck, well, go for it. Women tend to like a good 10-15 minutes of foreplay (from what I'm told; I've never slept with one but, as for many gay men, lots of straight girls automatically assume I'm interested in their sex lives), so take that as your time to explore non-penetrative sex. If you think about it, having to have sex for a long time isn't really a problem, is it?

Basically, as long as you see sex as starting with seven minutes of frustration it's going to be tough to get hard, isn't it? After all, being frustrated and anxious works against getting horny, doesn't it? But if, instead of being frustrated, you turn it in to part of fun, exploratory sex, isn't that a good thing? Do you absolutely have to be hard the whole entire time you're fooling around?

Sex therapists often give clients homework when they say their sex life is in the ditch. This often includes telling them they have to orgasm without vaginal penetration for a few days, or they have to set a timer to fifteen minutes and have nothing but foreplay that whole time. They do this to expand people's sexual horizons. Maybe your dick is telling you to do the same thing?

(P.S. I'm not commenting on whether you should use Viagra because I'm not your doctor.)

 

[Bently]

Weed can be a boner-killer for people, as can alcohol and cigarettes. Same thing for depression and anxiety. And post-traumatic stress...and any major stress for that matter. Also, lack of sleep can affect your erection. You said you do get morning wood, so that suggests the issue is at least part mental.

For now I'd suggest rolling with how your body works. If it takes you a few minutes of foreplay to get hard enough to fuck, well, go for it. Women tend to like a good 10-15 minutes of foreplay (from what I'm told; I've never slept with one but, as for many gay men, lots of straight girls automatically assume I'm interested in their sex lives), so take that as your time to explore non-penetrative sex. If you think about it, having to have sex for a long time isn't really a problem, is it?

Basically, as long as you see sex as starting with seven minutes of frustration it's going to be tough to get hard, isn't it? After all, being frustrated and anxious works against getting horny, doesn't it? But if, instead of being frustrated, you turn it in to part of fun, exploratory sex, isn't that a good thing? Do you absolutely have to be hard the whole entire time you're fooling around?

Sex therapists often give clients homework when they say their sex life is in the ditch. This often includes telling them they have to orgasm without vaginal penetration for a few days, or they have to set a timer to fifteen minutes and have nothing but foreplay that whole time. They do this to expand people's sexual horizons. Maybe your dick is telling you to do the same thing?

(P.S. I'm not commenting on whether you should use Viagra because I'm not your doctor.)

the thing is with all the foreplay and me jacking off, I will always feel like coming 2 mins into it. I guess I will have to give Viagra a shot.

 

[Tally]

Part in bold I think is the issue. I don't believe I have erection issues, I believe I have an arousal issue. I need to find out why.

Do you watch porn? A lot? Too much porn sometimes desensitizes guys to real life. They need more and more extreme porn to get off and have trouble performing with people.

 

[Bently]

Do you watch porn? A lot? Too much porn sometimes desensitizes guys to real life. They need more and more extreme porn to get off and have trouble performing with people.

No I don't. I used to get instant erection from porn but now I don't get anything, and it's not from watching a ton of porn. My situation worries me a lot.

 

[jackhard]

I'd also definitely recommend a *good* multivitamin. You may even add extra Zinc or Magnesium to your diet as they are important for testosterone synthesis.