Erection Problems At A Young Age

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Hi,

I don’t really know how to describe this fully, but I’ll try my best!

I am relatively young (28) and in the last 4 - 5 months I have noticed I have really struggled to get, and keep, an erection
I have also found that my libido seems very low all the time.
I can’t quite pin point any particular time that this change started, but I am starting to worry
Even when I try on my own, I feel like I have to play with myself for a long time to even get a semi
I never used to have these problems, in fact was quite the opposite and would get random boners and sense of arousal come over me several times a day

when I do get into having sex with my partner, I really do want it, and enjoy it mentally, but physically doesn’t seem to match up

Does anyone have any advise on this?


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It's not really something to be ashamed of. Factors vary in relation to erection issues, some relate to poor cardiovascular health, sometimes it's testosterone or body clock. Mood can also play a part. Often it's a psychological thing as well.

Pinpointing the cause can be difficult and sometimes it's a 'natural' thing. I have met guys who just have difficulty getting hard at certain times. A few things that may help:

1) cock rings. Idea is to block off blood flow out of the penis. May help achieve erection

2) Viagra. Yes the blue pill. You may need to see a doctor for this. There are some outlets where you can get non prescription forms of the stuff. For example, a guy I met introduced me to kamagra, a jelly form of the active ingredient, sildenafil. It's fast acting (usually effects within 15 minutes to 1 hr) and lasts up to 5 hrs. I have found it to hlbe quite helpful to maintain stiffness of erection.

However, I'd bear in mind the potential side effects (heart rate, lower blood pressure, changes to stomach appetite) and heed caution not to overdo it (1 max per day). Because the active ingredient improves blood flow and relaxes your smooth muscles, any other medication that does the same can may you feel dizzy or have a bad headache due to blood pressure drops. Thus you have to be careful if using nitrates for example. This also applies to poppers, if combined do so very sparingly because the effects do add up.
 

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See a physician that specializes in sexual issues. They can check to see if there are any physical issues that can be addressed or whether you might benefit from treatments like those mentioned above. You should not just find some cheap Viagra somewhere and take it though before talking to your doctor and understanding any risks and interactions. There may be something entirely different going on, so you shouldn't be trying solutions on your own before you have talked to a doctor.

When I was in college, I went out a few times with a guy who simply did not get hard. He had a nice dick and could cum, but he just didn't get hard. He was to nervous to go to a doctor but I heard later that he did and it turned out to be a constricted blood vessel that the doctor fixed in a minor procedure. A few days of healing and he had raging boners whenever he wanted thereafter.

The moral of the story is: see your doctor. And try to find one who has a positive outlook on sex and sexual health... thankfully there are a lot more than there used to be. If your doc doesn't seem excited about trying to help you find a solution, find another doctor.
 

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From what you've said, I'd try not to get too much inside your head on this one. If you're trying to have a bit of fun with your partner and you're worried about getting it up, the chances are you won't as you 'won't be in the moment'.

If you think about the last 4-5mths, has anything changed that might be playing on your mind? I know Australia is in various stages of lockdown - would that be playing on your mind, even though you might not realise it?

I'd also talk to your partner, it's not a case that you aren't attracted to each other, but it would be good to get this out of your head and support each other....even talk about your fantasies or any kinks you may have to mix things up and get you in the mood.

Finally talk to your gp, it might be worthwhile getting a few tests done just to make sure there's nothing underlying (and don't be embarrassed about it, I can guarantee a doc will have heard it all before.....plus if he's hot and offers to give you a prostrate exam you never know what might happen ;)...?
 
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See a physician that specializes in sexual issues. They can check to see if there are any physical issues that can be addressed or whether you might benefit from treatments like those mentioned above. You should not just find some cheap Viagra somewhere and take it though before talking to your doctor and understanding any risks and interactions. There may be something entirely different going on, so you shouldn't be trying solutions on your own before you have talked to a doctor.

When I was in college, I went out a few times with a guy who simply did not get hard. He had a nice dick and could cum, but he just didn't get hard. He was to nervous to go to a doctor but I heard later that he did and it turned out to be a constricted blood vessel that the doctor fixed in a minor procedure. A few days of healing and he had raging boners whenever he wanted thereafter.

The moral of the story is: see your doctor. And try to find one who has a positive outlook on sex and sexual health... thankfully there are a lot more than there used to be. If your doc doesn't seem excited about trying to help you find a solution, find another doctor.
Great advice, particularly at the end. So many people take one doc's diagnosis, and then treat it as gospel. 2nd opinions can literally safe your life.
 
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Thank you all!
I think from what you all have said, going the doctor is definitely the way forward - I will do this
I have experienced doctors to sweep things under the rug and play down my problems in the past ( nothing related to this )
Is there a particular way I need to approach this for them to take it more seriously?

In the meantime, I think i would like to try viagra, i would consider myself pretty healthy, work out regularly. I do worry about side effects as I have heard a few things before


And someone mentioned a prostate exam, I don’t know why, but I do seem to think there could be some kind of connection with my issue and possible prostate problems? Does this sound like a possibility?
 

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Thank you all!
I think from what you all have said, going the doctor is definitely the way forward - I will do this
I have experienced doctors to sweep things under the rug and play down my problems in the past ( nothing related to this )
Is there a particular way I need to approach this for them to take it more seriously?

In the meantime, I think i would like to try viagra, i would consider myself pretty healthy, work out regularly. I do worry about side effects as I have heard a few things before


And someone mentioned a prostate exam, I don’t know why, but I do seem to think there could be some kind of connection with my issue and possible prostate problems? Does this sound like a possibility?

IMHO don’t ask a million idiots on a random dick forum! Health concerns need a doctor. Be bold and up-front. They won’t judge you. It is their job to treat the symptoms you present.

Stats say you are way too young for prostate problems, but get everything checked. Best x
 

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Potential reasons for ED.

* Medical. You may have anything from low testosterone, hypothyroidism, etc etc. So you need to go get that checked out with a doctor.

* It could be that you consume too much porn. So as a result your brain is no longer excited by normal circumstances. It's been conditioned to constantly changing input to get your brain to light up. To fix this, you need to go cold turkey on porn and keep masturbation to a minimum to reset your brain's sensitivity to normal sex.

* It could be that you're a little older and you can't have sex or masturbate as often as you used to. This is more likely for someone who has sex or masturbates several times a day. If this isn't you then skip this one.

* It could be that you are more stressed at the moment. Whether it's your job, relationship, a death in the family, prolonged stress can crush your libido. The only way around this is to get rid of your stress or just put up with it if you know that stress will pass soon.
 

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I would definitely agree (as you do) with the idea to see a doctor. But also I really wouldn't underestimate the importance of stress and so on in this. It's a vicious circle as you get stressed, that affects your libido, and that in turn makes you more anxious. You will feel better when you do something definite about it!
 

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a friend of mine had problems keeping a girlfriend and i would tease him to grow a bigger cock than the one he has and we both would laugh--one night he decided to have a talk about sex and he knows i am gay so he knows my side of sex is going to be about with a guy----we talked and he flops out his dick rock hard and i was like wow nice solid 8 inches so now i know its not the size-----

to move along i nto story--i popped in a gay porn and it got to scene guy rimming anothr guys ass and he said he always wondered what that felt like---so i told him i was here if wanted to do it and no one will find out--he was like ok--stipped naked and sits back lifts legs up and i go to rimming his ass andthen went up sucked his balls and then took his cock in my mouth and deepthroated it within a few times of going down on him--

he asked if i liked being fucked and i said sure do so he gets up i get on my hands and knees doggy style and i can feel his dick penetrating my hole then pop out---his dick was going limp andhe tells me this is what happens when he tries to fuck girls..at first we tried a cock ring and it worked wonderfully as he was able to slide inside me and fuck me and he was awesome as if he was trying to make up for last failed attempts at fucking

he took it off and then tried again without it and he went in but as he fucked me he went limp again and i said--wanna try something else he says sure--i grabbed an anal plug out of my box of goodies lubed the tip up and popped it in his hole and told him to motion like he is going to fuck and he did that and he got hard--then finished fucking me---

he and i were laying thereresting and he says he isnt gay or straight as his dick didnt want to fuck and i told him it happenes to alot of guys even porn stars--from going limp to cumming fast to getting shit on their dicks its just that their stuff is edited and we dont see these bloopers unless buy them --(helix studious has few videos of their hot young boys having issues--its to show they are still human and no perfect)

have i had issues-yes and if all guys were honest youd see we all do at one time or another---the time of this sexual encounter with my friend i was 27 he was 24

agedoesnt decide what happens to our bodies guys in twenties have colon cancer heart attacks as well as guys in their 50's its just with age it happens more than it does with younger--


your b/f if he loves you prob thinks your issues is the idea you done love him anymore--and that is sad when we mistake our cocks for love---and the thing is this--the more you dwell on this matter then more than likelyhappen more and more often--dont dwell on it and if want to chat more about this and dont feel others are picking on you--message me and we can chat about anything on your mind
 
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a friend of mine had problems keeping a girlfriend and i would tease him to grow a bigger cock than the one he has and we both would laugh--one night he decided to have a talk about sex and he knows i am gay so he knows my side of sex is going to be about with a guy----we talked and he flops out his dick rock hard and i was like wow nice solid 8 inches so now i know its not the size-----

to move along i nto story--i popped in a gay porn and it got to scene guy rimming anothr guys ass and he said he always wondered what that felt like---so i told him i was here if wanted to do it and no one will find out--he was like ok--stipped naked and sits back lifts legs up and i go to rimming his ass andthen went up sucked his balls and then took his cock in my mouth and deepthroated it within a few times of going down on him--

he asked if i liked being fucked and i said sure do so he gets up i get on my hands and knees doggy style and i can feel his dick penetrating my hole then pop out---his dick was going limp andhe tells me this is what happens when he tries to fuck girls..at first we tried a cock ring and it worked wonderfully as he was able to slide inside me and fuck me and he was awesome as if he was trying to make up for last failed attempts at fucking

he took it off and then tried again without it and he went in but as he fucked me he went limp again and i said--wanna try something else he says sure--i grabbed an anal plug out of my box of goodies lubed the tip up and popped it in his hole and told him to motion like he is going to fuck and he did that and he got hard--then finished fucking me---

he and i were laying thereresting and he says he isnt gay or straight as his dick didnt want to fuck and i told him it happenes to alot of guys even porn stars--from going limp to cumming fast to getting shit on their dicks its just that their stuff is edited and we dont see these bloopers unless buy them --(helix studious has few videos of their hot young boys having issues--its to show they are still human and no perfect)

have i had issues-yes and if all guys were honest youd see we all do at one time or another---the time of this sexual encounter with my friend i was 27 he was 24

agedoesnt decide what happens to our bodies guys in twenties have colon cancer heart attacks as well as guys in their 50's its just with age it happens more than it does with younger--


your b/f if he loves you prob thinks your issues is the idea you done love him anymore--and that is sad when we mistake our cocks for love---and the thing is this--the more you dwell on this matter then more than likelyhappen more and more often--dont dwell on it and if want to chat more about this and dont feel others are picking on you--message me and we can chat about anything on your mind


I was wondering where that was going haha
But thanks for sharing your story
Interesting with the butt plug, I am mainly a bottom and I have always (not just recently) had problems getting / staying hard when topping.

and thank you everyone. Even just from reading these I feel my mind at rest slightly and have had the odd moment ‘in the moment’ where it’s not on my mind and things have been great!
But as soon as the thought of “oh no am I losing my erection” comes into my head… I then lose it

I do believe as was said above, the more that I dwell on it, the worst it will become - just hard to switch the thought off!


I have booked to see the doctor next week anyway
 

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Hey,

just thought I’d update, thanks for all the suggestions

I have had blood test and been back to the dr for results. All totally normal and healthy!

Dr prescribed viagra, wants me to try for a bit with them, and see if I can go without after!


With this, I do believe it’s all in my head, when thinking about it… it then becomes a problem


I hope having some good times with viagra helps clear my mind from those thoughts and everything can go back to normal!