Erection problems, kind of long post but help appreciated!!!

[the_d_man]

Hello, this is my first time posting and i am pretty small, dunno if I should be posting here or not. measured once, i think i'm 6 long and 4.75 around.

About myself, i'm 23 about 5'9" and I weigh about 110. I'm pretty underweight and i'm trying to get to a healthier weight. I've been smoking cigarettes since i was 18 so about 5 years now. I also smoked a lot of pot during that time and havent smoked since april 2006.

My eating habits are horrible, i dont eat enough, sometimes almost nothing during the day. i drink coffee a few times a week and get no excersize. these are all things i'm hoping to change this year.

Now to the problem. My penis when fully aroused and erect points straight up. I used to wake up in the morning sometimes with an erection where i literally had to bend my torso horizontally to pee. My penis when fully aroused was only able to bend down so that the head of my penis might have been 2 inches away from my belly at most, especially when i throbbed it.

i've noticed this past year i've been having problems attaining an erection and maintaining it. when i was younger, i was almost embarrased by getting erections, they would come spontaneously and last for about 5-10 mins. it sort of sucked at work hehe. i could get erections with arousing thoughts quite easily, especially if i thought about it a lot.

now it seems i can only get a "full erection" with direct stimulation or sometmes with arousing thoughts and porn but quite rarely and even then i need physical stimulation to get it going and keep it from going down.. i can still oragsm quickly, easily under a min when having sex or masturbating. when i masturbate, it only gets "fully hard" right before orgasming. I can get to oragasming semi erect. infact, i've tried to get it so that im just about to oragsm semi-erect, then i let it go and my penis will get to full erection because its been really aroused.

but this full erection isnt quite what it used to be. it still points straight up vertically but i can bend my penis downward so that the head is about 3 to 4+ inches away. if I wanted to pee I'd still have to bend over but not as bad as when i was younger. and this only happens when i'm really aroused, like about to cum.

When i'm with my girlfriend or masturbating, my penis only stays hard with stimulation. it will start to go down quickly if the stimulation stops and be semi erect. I also dont seem to wake up with "morning wood" as often and when I do, its not a full erection. at most its between semi erect and fully erect. I dont remember if i ever woke up with a full erection.

i just started having sex recently like a few months ago. i know its kinda late but atleast i did it.

there were two occasions that i remember that it kind of hurt. The first time was when she grabbed my ass and thrusted me into her. I'm not sure exactly what happened, but there was a sharp pain in my penis. i'm not sure if it was from being a blunt force (like jamming your finger) or from my penis being bend down too far. either way it kind of hurt. i didnt lose the rection and was able to continue ot oragsm. and my penis was somewhat sore for a couple of days. the pain was dull, and came about a few times during the day. i can only describe it as a dull pain that lasted a few seconds. the went away. that was around for maybe 3 days. i dont feel any pain whatsoever from that. I didn't notice any bruising of the sort. MY penis didn't break in half or anything. I've heard stories of guys cocks breaking or something. so i dont think it was that bad.

there was also a another time of some rough sex were my penis is kind of sore at the base but not really bad. there wasnt really any pain and didnt have any pain afterwards either.

anyways, to recap in short

I am underweight, smoke, and dont excersice and eat poorly. Could this be contributing to it? I've only noticed this problem this past year. maybe its been gradually happening.

My erections dont seem to be quite as throbbing hard as they used to be. and I seem to have a tough time staying hard. It still points straight up and i can still orgasm quite fast. under a min easily. The missionary position is easiest because of the way my penis is shaped and erect. kind of like a curved bannana but not quite as curved.

I felt pain during sex once or twice from the incident i mentioned. again not sure if it was like jamming my penis or bending it down too far. Felt some soreness and pain afterwards. the dull pain was there a couple of days. it came in spurts a few times during the day and lasted a few seconds. not feeling any pain now.

Whew! anyways, thank you very much if you read this and I truly appreciate any advice you can give me.

I don't have insurance at the moment but I wanna go see my doctor for a full review of my health and what i can do to get it on track. unfortunatly doctors are expensive so hopefully i can get some insurance soon.

How should I bring this up? will my doctor be able to help me? Are there tests to see for sure if there is any physical reason i am having problems maintaining an erection? Maybe like an x-ray of my penis or something? I basically want my full erection back like when I was 20. being 23 it seems so young that i am having problems

It's kind of embarrassing that I'm a worrying kind of person in general so in bringing this up with my doctor i dont wanna make it seem like its a bigger problem than it is that i'm so worried about my penis. I wanna be able to enjoy the next 20-30 years of sex with no problem.

again, thank you for any advice. please share any similar stories and how they were resolved. any hope of me getting that really hard erection again? i promise i wont ever be embarrassed by my erections again. i will be proud of them even if it is small hehe.

 

[B_Think_Kink]

Have you seen a doctor about it? There are a number of factors that could come into play. Family history, smoking, and the lack of exercise. I'm sure you will get a better reply from the guys here. But it is probably best to seek medical help in all cases. Your not dealing with something small, it's your penis, and you ideally need it to work for the rest of your life.

 

[Andrew2500]

Could well be the smoking. Quit smoking & pot for 6 months, see if you see a difference. Some exercise wouldn't hurt at all, could increase blood circulation (which might be your problem). Diet definitely affects downstairs. Maybe not as noticable as you'd think, but try some L arginine supplements first thing you wake up, from a reliable source, so no crappy bullshit company. Some peruvian maca could also help your sexual desire & erection. For the rest, try to limit the crap in your diet, and just get a good multivitamin. If you live in the usa, a great one is NOW foods ADAM specially for men. Try it, and THEN answer back when you have some results. Be it a month. You won't see results in a day obviously. Good luck.

 

[viking1]

I would definitely see a doctor about this. I have no idea what else to say.

 

[priority_male]

So most erection problems are a mixture of factors. This is quite a good site for an introduction
MedlinePlus Medical Encyclopedia: Erection problems

Sounds to me like you're being a little hard on yourself. Most men will look back to their younger years and feel that their erections were better/stronger and they could get them more easily and get hard a second time more quickly. But other stressful stuff like work and relationships become more important and can affect your erections. I think that most guys will also notice a variation in the hardness of their penis during sex. This is ok!
Also from your post it seems like you weren't having as much sex back then and again most guys without a regular sexual outlet will feel very horny and get erections all the time!

You're very young to be having any physical problems affecting your erections but stopping smoking and taking some exercise will help and definitely help to keep things working in the future.

I get the feeling you're very anxious about this and that will definitely have a negative impact. If you're worried about staying hard and anxious you're going to lose an erection then that becomes your main focus, rather than enjoying sex, making maintaining an erection very challenging.
It also sounds to me like you're very worried about the experiences of pain you had during sex and this could also be an anxiety that's having a negative impact. Sounds to me like you have a very rigid erection and a sudden bend in the wrong direction will hurt! I guess you need to take care about this. It doesn't sound like a penile fracture - that would really hurt and you would likely have very significant problems:Penile fracture - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Remember everyone's different and it's more important to relax enjoy yourself than have rock-hard wood every time.

 

[hung]

Yes Doctors Do Cost Money. I am not a Doctor. But I can share this with you. Money spent now, even though it may appear to be more than you have will repay you with a long, healthy life. I am soon to be 70 and I enjoy a rewarding, and also consistent Sex Life.

Please be aware that what you have done in the past is History. You need to get on with a healthy life, from this day forward. I was a smoker, however no harmful drugs. I quit some ten years ago and my erection problems went away. I can get a nice woody and carry on full blown intercourse with no problems.

You have much to look forward to as you mature and age, but you can, if you desire to, look forward to the next fifty to sixty years with plenty of sexual satisfaction. From reading your post, you appear to want to be sexually happy for the next 20-30 years.

You need to be planning for the long term. I am wishing you the best, but no matter what the cost, the long term pay off will more than off-set any grief you will experience if you continue in your present life-style.

Wishing you the best.

 

[the_d_man]

thanks for the respones!

about my rigid erection, how should I "take care about this"?

meaning i should be careful during sex? After doing a few times I started developing my own style and being careful to use my member correctly.

I will probably bring this up to my doctor, but i just dont wanna blow it out of proportion, meaning i dont wanna try and make it sound like the mose serious case of erecfile problems because its probably not, i just wanna have healthy strong erections for a long time. Even into my old age. I guess diet, excersice and general stress relef does sound like it could help. probably wouldnt hurt heh.

I guess I will just tell him in a conscise mannner wha i've said here and hopefully he'll listen and be able to give some good advice.

Thank you everyone very much. Any other responses are also welcomed and appreciated. Thanks!

 

[B_Think_Kink]

thanks for the respones!

about my rigid erection, how should I "take care about this"?

meaning i should be careful during sex? After doing a few times I started developing my own style and being careful to use my member correctly.

I will probably bring this up to my doctor, but i just dont wanna blow it out of proportion, meaning i dont wanna try and make it sound like the mose serious case of erecfile problems because its probably not, i just wanna have healthy strong erections for a long time. Even into my old age. I guess diet, excersice and general stress relef does sound like it could help. probably wouldnt hurt heh.

I guess I will just tell him in a conscise mannner wha i've said here and hopefully he'll listen and be able to give some good advice.

Thank you everyone very much. Any other responses are also welcomed and appreciated. Thanks!

Tell the doctor everything... that way he can diagnose you properly.

 

[fatunicorn]

ANYTHING that makes you lightheaded or stressed will affect you in bed. You'll feel its like a catch 22 thing but it isnt.

Heres my awsome quick remedy that worked for me:
-DO NOT jerk off for 3 days !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! jerking off or having sex makes you tired and more vulnerable to stress
-eat a lot, eat fats and carbs and salads, it will give you long term energy, short term energy, and you'll feel fantastic
-stop smoking, it makes you feel a bit light headed (more vulnerable to stress) and stops your appetite even though your body needs nutrients.
It also cause erectyle problems(i dunno exactly how, but thats what the doctors say)
-relax, you're young and if your dick didn't work evolution would have destroyed your great grandfathers and your genes would not have gotten so far.
-most importantly, DO NOT JERK OFF FOR 3 DAYS WHILE YOU FOLLOW THIS SIMPLE AS HELL PROCEDURE

trust me, if you do this you can be put up to the most stressfull scenario and think like you're a big shot. Eating right and not overjerking off makes you feel badass and capable of anything.

interms of the pain, i don't quite understand. is it your frenulum? also yes its possible to hurt your dick if you have sex too rough, i mean its not made of steel, and don't go banging like crazy when its semi soft that might break it in 2.

 

[gm3800v6]

If I had your problem, I'd def go see the doctor. Just out of curiousity does your family have a history of Diabetes or High Blood Pressure? Both of these Diseases if left undetected can produce similar symptoms (that's why it's a good idea to go to the doc). If by chance it were one of these and you let it go, then you could possibly become impotent, or it may take even longer periods of time to stimulate you member. I would as a friend urge you to see ur Doc and be str8 up with him, I'm sure they've heard what you have to say many times in their career.