Erection problems while having sex

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  1. Imported

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    bigk4: This is very embarrasing etc.

    but while having sex with my gf im hard then it starts going soft a little while after, basically it cant stay hard the whole way through, i was reading in a stress book and it says stress can be doing this but i can not think of any stressful happenings thats going on?

    sometimes we have a little break because i cant get hard agen so after about 10-15 mins we start again and i get hard, i think it may have something to do with my mind, like my mind drifts off somewhere else a little while into sex or could it be that i was using my right for almost a year and no pussy? im thinking its getting out of the rythm of using my right hand and getting into the rythm of pussy as i think the 2nd time i had sex with my gf i didnt take as long to cum wen we had it the 1st time?

    any help appriciated! :blush: ;) :)
     
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    bigk, turn it to your (and your gf's) advantage. When you feel yourself going soft pull slowly out and go back to foreplay (touching, cuddling, oral) until you're ready for insertion again.

    Before long you may very well find you're staying hard longer. But don't be surprised if your gf likes the periodic foreplay. :p
     
  3. Kimahri

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    I run into this often. I ejaculate a lot of times per day, so I find it a bit hard to ....ha!....stay hard.
     
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    pdrprst: Condoms exacerbate this situation. Not that I am encouraging anyone to practice unsafe sex, but sometimes you do need to take a break like Pecker said and go back to foreplay (would that be midplay?) without a condom to get enough stimulation to finish.

    Also, if you ejaculate several times a day try one less and give yourself at least a couple hours leeway before you have sex. If your libido is like mine, then you'll want it pretty badly again in a couple hours, and wood will be wood.

    Pecker, danger music would make my life so much easier.
     
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    OhioMike69:
    This is precicely why I ended up trying ED drugs. Took some gonads to go to the doc about it, but he didn't question me at all and gave them to me to try.

    Ever since, it's become much easier to maintain that erection, even when not using the drugs. The stress you're feeling may be due to your embarassment of not being hard.
     
  6. Knight

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    Yeah the more you think about it, the more of a problem it's going to be. I guess it could be nerves, wanting to perform well etc. See I walk around with my gf, shopping malls etc or just round town and I'm not even thinking anything, never mind anything sexual but I always have a hard on. Course we havent had sex yet, but she's made it clear its on the cards hehe, she's almost as horny as me.

    Anyways, you just need to relax and look at it this way: at least you're not cumming right away, you have more time to play with your gf while you get hard again, and I think most girls prefer play than fucking, because the clit is more sensetive than vagina, for most. Just dont think about anything, look at your gf and think how hot she is, nothing else.

    There's some help over at www.sex-project.com
     
  7. Imported

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    Mikef: I recommend to you to try ZuPro pills. This product is very effective. After taking ZuPro I had rock hard erections and intense sexual drive.
     
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    RunnerSF: Many men have the problems you describe. I agree with much said above...try and relax and when you feel yourself goin' soft...slow down and have some fun til you're hard again. Good luck bud!
     
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    Could be tension with a new GF...

    I had a slow-to-orgasm condition (not always a problem) in that situation a few times....

    I second the opinion, go back to foreplay... she shouldn't mind at all!

    And do it more often... I'd bet you'll relax and get a more normal response.
     
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    Older guy here: Others have given you excellent advice. Cialis is great for any type of e.d.--be it psychological (stress,anxiety) or physical. Five to twenty mg. every 72 hours works great and ups libido even. My endocrinologist recommended this regimen to me and called it off label use. Few realize that this regimen in older guys can turn back the clock 20 to thirty years. Sometimes I feel nineteen...........Good luck
     
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