Erection Questions

Discussion in 'The Healthy Penis' started by Black_Shinobii, Apr 6, 2009.

  1. Black_Shinobii

    Black_Shinobii New Member

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    I'd like some help to a problem I'm having. Sometimes when I'm having sex with my girlfriend I will just lose my erection. This can be during a pull out and when I'm inside of her but when it happens I lose it for a while sometimes to the point that we have to stop having sex cause I can't get it back up. I haven't ejaculated and I don't know what's going on.

    I'm 18 years old and a college student so I'm kind of doubting it's a health problem and I'm not stressed or tired. I'm an athletic guy being a martial artist. I know it's not me having a problem with the girl cause I'm crazy for her. But this can be so frustrating cause I just want to please her.

    Another issue that I have is that sometimes my penis size varies and I don't know why. During masturbation, I max at 7" but when I'm with my girl I reach 8.5" to 9" and I can notice a difference in the feeling between the two. The thing that is also noticeable besides the change in length is also a change in girth, mainly the girth of the head of m penis. When I'm closer to 7" my penis head tends to be pretty large while when I'm closer to 9" the head of my penis is smaller.

    All these things about my penis I'm confused about and I'm hoping that some people on LPSG can help me out to understand my body more. Thanks to anyone who provides me with some help.
     
  2. karldergrosse

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    I'm not a physiologist or urologist, but I'll speculate on one of your questions. Not really surprising that you achieve more length and girth (and firmness?) during sex with your gf than with solo sex, most especially with a penis the size of yours: she and intercourse turn you on more than you and masturbation turn you on...thus you naturally notice a difference. With her, more sensation, stronger orgasm. Greater sexual excitement releases more erection-producing hormones, thus more blood is retained in the chambers of your penis. Is your glans really larger when you're at 7", or does it merely appear so because of the diminished girth of the shaft? If it really is, I would venture that it is due to more blood's being available for it because less is trapped in the shaft. The reverse would seem to be true for the opposite situation. You could perhaps test this theory by indulging in a nice long, leisurely masturbation session with a good hot porn video and sexy thoughts of your gf. Whatever those results, I wouldn't worry at all about the occasional differences in size...variations are normal. But as for losing erection during intercourse, given the information in your second paragraph, I personally would consult a good urologist...who might possibly suggest a few sessions of therapy (--and no, that wouldn't mean that you're not mentally sound). Sorry about your problems--best of luck in getting them solved.
     
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  3. Black_Shinobii

    Black_Shinobii New Member

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    Thanks karldergrosse, I'll try what you have suggested.
     
  4. hung

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    Greetings, You state that you are all about pleasing your partner. You just may be allowing performance anxiety to inhibit your ability to keep an erection.

    Relax and let your body function as it is intended. You may be trying too hard so to speak.

    Then again, when I have an erection and we commence intercourse I can go soft once inside. This can be quickly cured by withdrawal and working up a nice firm erection by self stroking my penis or letting my partner wank me. Then we are both good to go.

    The stress of life and a concern about performance can produce this type of situation.

    In the end, you should also consult a specialist as an earlier replier indicated.

    Especially if this problem continues. You are much too young to suffer over sex.

    At my age I still enjoy sexual activity and look forward to many more years of fun.

    I wish you well.
     
  5. Black_Shinobii

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    Thanks hung, I'll take what you say in mind.
     
  6. D_Peanu Reeves

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    Yeah, what Hung said is true. I find that when my wife and I are engaging and I get too concentrated on my junk, I lose my erection. I have to focus more on her and just the pure enjoyment and then I get an erection.
     
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    Have lost it occasionally, and size of erection can vary according to situation.
     
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