Erection Stimulation - What level are you at?

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  1. Imported

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    rikter8: Ok,

    I searched the board, and I didn't see a topic like the one that I have a concern with.
    (If there is one, and I missed it, I apologize).

    Heres my history:

    When I was 15-18 I could get an erection by just sitting around, and thinking about a boy or sometimes a bumpy ride in my dad's jeep would get me going.
    My erection used to stand STRAIGHT up, and was ROCK hard. It also stayed that way for about 20 minutes on its own.

    Now:
    I have to literally see and stroke my penis quite quickly to get things started, which takes about a minute or two.
    When I do get it up, it starts to shrink immediately if I stop stimulation.

    My question to the guys out there:

    To obtain an erection, do you generally use thought and site to get a hardon - without groping or touching?

    OR
    Do you have to manually stimulate yourself in the fashion that I use?

    My question is from a concern that I have. I'm 25 and its like my equipment is shutting down.
    I'm thinking it's due to all of the stress/depression/anxiety, however not sure.
    Its been like this since about 1997.
    I did go to a urologist, and they told me its all in my head, go home.
    I went to my DR. and he declined me for Viagra and said I was too young, and didn't need it.
    Since then and now, ive been on various medications, including Accutane which has effected me in ways that are irrepairable.
    but then I did have a med free period, where it continued.

    I guess this is the best way to ask a group of guys:
    How do you get your erection?
    :-[

    C
     
  2. Imported

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    Donk: Your "problem" actually sounds perfectly normal. As most of us remember, when a guy is a teenager erections will pop up at the drop of a hat. It has to do with raging hormones, etc. After puberty, these automatic erections tend to stop springing up as often, which is usually a good thing given how inconvenient they can be. ("Johnny, why don't you come up to the blackboard and work this algebra problem.")

    Once you hit your 20s, it's normal for erections to take a little more effort. For years now, my penis has required physical stimulation to get and stay fully erect. As long as you can get a good erection when you want one, don't worry about how it gets that way. It does sound like your unnecessary stressing about this is having a psychological effect that could give you an erection problem itself. Try to relax about it. You are normal. Guys in porn stories that walk around with steel poles between their legs all day are not.
     
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    gigantikok: You could try some Viagra. ::)
     
  4. Imported

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    Tender: i think you might try a different doc. if the last one made light of your concerns....
     
  5. Max

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    Rikter,

    I agree with Donk that it's not a good idea to compare yourself now with what you were like as a teenager. That said, what you describe doesn't sound right to me, and it seems that so far the medics haven't found the answer.

    It could be physical, it could be psychological, it could be any medication you are taking, or a combination of more than one.

    Do you get frequent 'morning wood'? If you do, it probably shows that there is nothing wrong with the physical process of erection. But a guy in his 20s who doesn't wake up most mornings with a hardon might have physical problems needing investigation .. of course they could be general health problems rather than specifically erectile ones.

    My erection frequency and strength is a pretty good guide to my physical and mental health ... unlike Donk I don't always need physical stimulation to get 100% of the way and stay there, although it helps! I still get enough of the unplanned variety to make things difficult on occasion .. a car or train ride can still do it. But if I am stressed out, or there is some other problem, things are different.

    There probably isn't any major problem; but you might need a general health check.
     
  6. Imported

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    TechnoTed: A good cockring might do wonders for you. Blood from your hard-on is flowing back into your body from your cock thru the veins at the base and on top of your cock. The proper cockring will pinch those veins off and your raging hard-on will last until you cum.
    Good Times
     
  7. Pecker

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    TechnoTed, how can you tell what size ring you'll need?

    I'd hate to underestimate and put one on flaccid that's too small and end up going to the E.R. to have it removed!

    Minus M. McSnorkle

    (I'm not saying she's fat but when she sings, it's over.)
     
  8. Imported

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    ORCABOMBER: Hey Rik, I think that you should see someone with a better attitude than your current doc. I'm 21, but I'm not knee-high too you and I think that you should try looking around for someone to give you EMOTIONAL support as well, because if there's one thing our dicks pick up, it's fear.

    I remember when I was practically impotent for a day, and I was so shit-scared I couldn't believe it, but then the next day I was okay, it was the fact I was tired and then nerves came in and the rest of it...

    Do you get stimulated by porn or whatever you're into, or is it only by looking and touching your thing? I can't say that's a bad thing, but secretly, I want a clone of myself so I can *coughviolatecough* it.

    If urology said it's OK, then yeah, it's fine. But I think that yeah, it's in your head, but no, it's not your fault.

    Hope that was slightly more usefull.
     
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    longtimelurker: [quote author=Pecker link=board=health;num=1065393354;start=0#6 date=10/06/03 at 08:32:16]TechnoTed, how can you tell what size ring you'll need?

    I'd hate to underestimate and put one on flaccid that's too small and end up going to the E.R. to have it removed!
    [/quote]

    I believe that you can get adjustable ones - either that or one of the ones that you can cut off quite easily (i.e. rubber or similar). I'd think very carefully about putting on anything metal for the same reason stated - remember - we're (mostly) here because we're not in the size range that most manufacturers would consider when making the things!!!
     
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    rikter8: Today on my shopping adventure at Meijers, i saw a bottle of 'Cobra" so I thought I would give it a whirl.
    It was $14.00 and the last box they had.

    heres the folks that make it:
    http://www.naturalbalance.com

    I'll try it for a couple of weeks, and see if it helps 'Lift" things up.

    Today, I took 2 pills, and I feel more energetic than normal, but not totally back to where I should be.
    Hopefully it will help me in more ways than one.

    Corey
     
  11. Imported

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    HungJordan: I do kegels and take zinc which increase the amount of my ejaculation force and amounts noticeable. But, getting a rock-hard-on has never been a problem for me.
    :)
     
  12. Imported

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    rikter8: Thank you for rubbing it in.

    I dont think you got quite enough salt in the wound....would you like another container?

    LOL

    J/K
    C
     
  13. benderten2001

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    rikter,

    I join the others here in saying you're more than likely okay....without a serious medical problem.

    If anything, you may be suffering abit from those psychological reasons (anxiety, depression, stress) which can really do a number on a man's sexual performance and prowess. Often, these influences creep in so subtly, we're not in touch with "what" is causing us to have problems getting or staying hard.

    You 've been checked out by an MD and you're not a candidate for Viagra. Take heart. This is both reassuring and a good indication everything is physically alright.

    I'm one of the older guys around here. I can tell you that my erections are not as they were when I was a teenager either. I require more time to achieve a full erection. And, my penis is not always "rock hard" when aroused. It seems my erection "strength / hardness" depends on the stimulus involved and the degree of hardness will vary throughout the "session". The upward angling effect is long gone, instead, at full-mast, mine just sways lazily and horizontally...needing some guidance, even some coaxing! ;) and yes, certainly some vigorous attention many times to keep things on course. If any of this sounds familiar to you, then you're probably more normal than you realize. Welcome to the club. But, you're still quite a very young man. What I describe about myself may be your case just now. Or, not-- I simply don't know.

    Guys don't talk about these changes and observations with our penises as we get older. It's probably because we simply don't know to talk about them. Dear ole' dad, our grandads, our older brothers---they all "clammed up" about such highly personal matters. Huh. -- I imagine they fretted over similar observations and agonized over them, too. But, it would benefit us men though....every blooming one of us... to realize changes can be expected in how our penis will look, behave, perform and even function later in life... it's an unstated fact of male life most certainly NOT to be feared. However, with that said, our penis is still most capable of serving us well throughout our lives. Probably like every man around here, I am counting on that!

    This LPSG forum is great. Lots of good reading here with similar tales of penis woes and concerns. I went for years (perhaps like you) wondering if (as you said yourself) whether my male system was begining to "shut down". Well friend, it most certainly was not. And, neither is yours.

    My advice to you ---------is to relax.

    Yes, you might do well to try a nutritional supplement or two...(although I can't condone what you're taking right now. I know nothing about it, really) I take a few "basic" supplements long proven VITAL to men's health and I can personally attest to the benefits of ZINC.

    You can try the cockring if you like. But, I wouldn't.
    It's only a temporary fix (if....that is IF....IF you're really having a problem getting hard.) But, the cockring is NOT going to give you a "natural" feeling erection. Personally, I've been there, done that. For me, the "novelty" of a cockring soon wore off. --They're not so hot, IMHO. And, sometimes, they can even be dangerous...(if worn too long or totally depended upon.) --They have their drawbacks.

    My hope though is ....that you're coming around to realizing what you've been noticing overall about yourself puts you right here along with the rest of us.....

    YOU ARE NORMAL. ;)
     
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    Thanks for another of your insightful, informative posts, benderten.

    Many of us look forward to your responses.

    Pecker

    (Work fascinates me. I can look at it for hours.)
     
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    ORCABOMBER: Wiser by the hour..
     
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    rainfletcher: My own problems with achieving erections has been well chronicaled in other posts. I won't belabor them, here.

    My only addition to this thread would be to say that in my case, there was nothing physically wrong with me. Emotionally, mentally, I was incredibly screwed and it had everything to do with my problems getting hard.

    Without going into all the reasons my emotional problems started getting resolved...but as they have been, my erections are no longer a problem.

    Chemicals can help with emotional or mental problems, I'm not sure. But your mind can have alot to do with the strength and duration of your erections....it did with me.
     
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    BrownEyedGuy: You may have a blood flow problem. Find a new urologist and have him do a blood flow study. That will tell him right away what's going on inside your penis. (This is the voice of experience talking.)
     
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    nacard01: I never have a problem with getting an erection that I can think of.
    There are times when I get semi-hard when its undesired.

    And obviously sexual arrousal is like insta "go-time" for me.

    Hard to fight off a stiffy when their are lips on your face and hands going everywhere on your crotch.

    Kermit

    P.S.
    Please note that these type of situations are not a trademark of Kermit INC and happen very seldom to the CEO of above mentioned company :) hehehe
     
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    blo1988: rickter,
    If you have no significant health problems then it is unlikely that your problem is physiologic at your age. An earlier mention of nocturnal erections (as well as morning wood) are on the money. If you find that these are as expected then I suspect that your issues are largely psychological. Of particular concern is your "performance" expectation. I am sure that many men can relate to performance anxiety in some areas of their lives, but it can be disasterous in matters of sex. Sexual pleasure can be substantially altered or even eliminated by internal expectations.
    If you can suspend you expectations and just try to enjoy your physical stimulation then it may be of great assistance. If not, then therapy may a good option. It certainly was useful for me during a period of existential crisis earlier in my life.
    Peace
     
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