I recently met a woman on tagged, a website similar to facebook. she is pretty, and i thought about dating her, but she has a kid and i'm not a children person. any relationship would mean that I would have to be a kind of father figure for him, and i'm not mature enough for that now. the dilemma is this - i haven't had a good fuck in a while, but i don't want to simply use her for sex. She has said that a lot of men in her lifetime have done this, and i don't want to add to the list. I don't think it's right to just be with her to get in her pants, the thought of it just turns my stomach. But i like her a lot, but i can't see us having a relationship. I'm 30, but even now i'm not ready to help look after a child (even if it's not mine). I posted this in the women's issues forum since I wanted a women's perspective on this. I'm stuck on what to do here.