Ethics?

[Oldcowboy]

I’ve known a lady for many years—-competent, smart, highly educated—-from back east.

She fell in love with Montana and got involved with ranching and back country outfitting.

She’s my height—6’ 1”—a slender wiry strong.

Any time over the years——when we were both free tò do so—-we engaged in electric , explosive sex. The connection was always there—she’s very straightforward very upfront never any regrets.

As my names says—-I’ve been around a while—-she’s a few yrs younger—-

I saw a family member—-asked how she was doing—-said very healthy still looks the same—-but now lives with her daughter—-the friend said she’s kinda losing it—and she wasn’t sure she even knew who she (the friend) was.

So—-I saw her and her daughter yesterday.

And—-it took about 20 seconds and then she enveloped me—-

Mom—-we really have to go! And I knew for a fact they did—-and daughter is free spirit and was raised very independent and open minded—-and perceptive

Ok—-but I gotta get a finger nail clippers on the way out—-big wink tò me—-

Daughter got her settled in—-she’d had surgery on her ankle—-then stopped to give me a hug—-‘she sure liked seeing you!—

The sparks are still there—-the ‘fingernail clipper’ was in reference to a session yrs ago—-where I told her the only thing stopping her from bucking me to the ceiling was the acre of hide she ripped off pulling me in—-and I was damned lucky she didn’t have her spurs on! And I was gonna check her nails—and for spurs—in the future.

If we had been alone right then I think we’d have ‘got togethor’ very quickly ——and she’d a been totally into it—and totally cognizant—-at the moment,

But—-later? Repercussions—consequences—and the morality of it?

Input appreciated. Thank you.

Both her and daughter ended with ‘come see us’—-and next week Im going to Billings—-there’s 2 routes—-Im taking the one that dont get within 100 miles of them… ..but life is short—??-

 

[MickeyLee]

Are you talking about reestablishing a sexual relationship with a woman who may be struggling with non-specific cognitive decline?

 

[Oldcowboy]

Are you talking about reestablishing a sexual relationship with a woman who may be struggling with non-specific cognitive decline?

Im searching—-all sorts of memories—-it was always as if one of us had just left the room—even tho months or yrs—-there was never any ‘unestablishing’—her quip about the fingernail clippers was instant—-and directly referenced an extremely feral moment—she was always quick—-shoot, she’s a ‘dr emerititus”—-which she told me@ the time means you get to keep your office but they Dont pay you——like she needs it—tired of struggling financially, she took a yr to ‘study he markets’. Banked several million with a ‘well, THATS that’ attitude. Hell, the woman has written well regarded books—

Her daughter called me this morning—-said her mom was
‘Chirping like a bird’ and telling her lotsa stories—-how she laughed when I finally admitted her sourdough biscuits were actually better than my ‘cloud’ ones—when she’d secretly thought the opposite—how I’d adamantly told her she was an idiot if she pursued something—she did, I was right, bailed her out—tried to pa me back was told ‘bugger off, I don’t take $ from idiots’—lotsa stuff I’d forgotten.

And daughter asked me if I planned to stop in. All mom;s talking about.,,

So Mickey Lee—-yes—im considering it—-but “First—do no harm”——as I said, input appreciated—

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Hey, I work in a requisite reporter role, so my answer is informed by that burden.

Let her remain in sweet memories. She’s in cognitive decline, might have medical power of attorney and such.

While the US recognizes a disabled person’s right to relationships, they also look at “can this person fully understand what’s happening now?”

I get the sweet memories, but if she’s not all there, you are dealing with someone who cannot legally give consent. One wrong story and you are up a proverbial creek. Sans paddle. Because of the time between when you had the fling and now. (Had it continued, most adult protective workers would have decided it is preexisting and as long as you were not manipulating in any way, it was legal.